Best way to approach this candy girl

[Suspens]

There is this 9.5/10 girl who works in the biggest and most famous candy shop in our town. She is cute and she knows it. Looks like she is from a rich family, has many options, and there are always one or two beta guys standing in a corner and staring at her. I think the shop belongs to her dad. Very confident, friendly towards everyone and smiling most of the time.

But it's her workplace, so it's a risky situation. However i have a few ideas on how to approach.

• - Instead of giving her my receipt, I will give her a paper which is Photoshopped to look like a receipt, but with a heart picture on it. [cute]
• - Tell her" Look into my eyes" and when she does, I will tell her "congrats, you just experienced love at first sight" if she laughs and acts friendly then i will ask her number. [Bold and confident]
• - Get close to her head and tell her "let's be lovers, just like two happy birds" and then leave the shop. I will gauge her interactions the next time I go there. [Romantic]

Negative thoughts that stop me from approaching her:

- "What if her bf, bro or dad is working here as well and catch me while I'm flirting with her"

- "It's going to be a weird interaction"

Need advice, thanks.

 

[RangerMIke]

There is this 9.5/10 girl who works in the biggest and most famous candy shop in our town. She is cute and she knows it.

All women know which women are 'hot'.

But it's her workplace, so it's a risky situation. However i have a few ideas on how to approach.

Sorry... no such think as a risky place to approach.

• - Instead of giving her my receipt, I will give her a paper which is Photoshopped to look like a receipt, but with a heart picture on it. [cute].

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  WTF... Really.... don't do this.
  
  

  [*]- Tell her" Look into my eyes" and when she does, I will tell her "congrats, you just experienced love at first sight" if she laughs and acts friendly then i will ask her number. [Bold and confident]

  Too fvcking complicated. And NEVER mention feelings.... This sounds like a really stupid pick-up line I first heard in the early 1980s. NEVER approach a woman with ANYTHING that sounds like some cheezy pick-up line. You do this and later that night she will be texting her friends backa and forth laughing about it.
  
  
  

  [*]- Get close to her head and tell her "let's be lovers, just like two happy birds" and then leave the shop. I will gauge her interactions the next time I go there. [Romantic]

Now I'm vomitting... you will not have to guage her reaction, it will be nausea. The only way this fvcking works is if you are 6'4", and the face of Brad Pitt, the body of Mike Phelps, and are dressed in a $1000 suit with $500 Johnson Murphy shoes, after having driven up in a Porche.

- "What if her bf, bro or dad is working here as well and catch me while I'm flirting with her"

If she has a BF she will let you know. If it's her brother or dad... who the fvck cares... she isn't having sex with them. What are they going to do... kick you out, beat you up? Truth is if that happens then likely she would be more attracted to you.

- "It's going to be a weird interaction"

If you do what you are suggesting then yes... it will indeed be a 'weird' interaction. The way not to make it weird is to just go up and ask her out. But be warned, everytime you go in there and FAIL to try and get her out on a date... the stranger it will be.

Go up to her... complement her, be charming and funny, ask for her number or ask her out. If she says no... forget about her and move on. there are thousands of available women that won't give you any trouble.

 

[Suspens]

Very helpful, thanks. Somehow I felt the same way while I was typing those lines, nausea.

But I know she is receiving "You look cute, now be ma girl" type of compliments everyday, so i tried to come up with something more creative.

This sounds like a really stupid pick-up line I first heard in the early 1980s.

hahaha

What are they going to do... kick you out, beat you up?

That's a possibility, since it is a culturally conservative town. Can't even imagine being yelled at or kicked out in front of too many customers. And I would be at fault, trying to F their girl.

How about a one-time meaningful eye-contact? If she turns her head away then i will leave and never go there again?

 

[Darth]

There is this 9.5/10 girl who works in the biggest and most famous candy shop in our town. She is cute and she knows it. Looks like she is from a rich family, has many options, and there are always one or two beta guys standing in a corner and staring at her. I think the shop belongs to her dad. Very confident, friendly towards everyone and smiling most of the time.

But it's her workplace, so it's a risky situation. However i have a few ideas on how to approach.

• - Instead of giving her my receipt, I will give her a paper which is Photoshopped to look like a receipt, but with a heart picture on it. [cute]
• - Tell her" Look into my eyes" and when she does, I will tell her "congrats, you just experienced love at first sight" if she laughs and acts friendly then i will ask her number. [Bold and confident]
• - Get close to her head and tell her "let's be lovers, just like two happy birds" and then leave the shop. I will gauge her interactions the next time I go there. [Romantic]

Negative thoughts that stop me from approaching her:

- "What if her bf, bro or dad is working here as well and catch me while I'm flirting with her"

- "It's going to be a weird interaction"

Need advice, thanks.

Allow me also to say that those are possibly the 3 worst pick-up lines I have ever heard.

How about being a man and engaging in an extended conversation with her? Typically what will happen with me is I'll start to talk to someone (about anything, really) and the more I will talk to them, the more they will touch their hair, smile, crack a joke, and other things that are dead giveaways that they find me attractive. Then, "So, I know you are busy now, but maybe you'd like to get together sometime! Why don't you give me your phone number, and I'll get back to you." She'll smile a lot because she knows what the story is.

It really is as simple as all that.

 

[Suspens]

How about being a man and engaging in an extended conversation with her?

That would be the ideal scenario, but there are always 3 of her coworker guys sittinga few meters away from her. I think starting a conversation with her would be wierd and and they will know i'm picking her up. So any kind of conversation and interaction should be non-flirty and straight forward.

 

[Darth]

starting a conversation with her would be wierd and and they will know i'm picking her up. So any kind of conversation and interaction should be non-flirty

And here we find the real problem: total and utter fear. Fear of what they would think, fear of what the girl would think, just loads and loads of fear.

Any interaction should not be flirty? I'm sorry, but when you're doing it right, she IS flirting. You don't have to because you're the man-all you have to do is be direct (all of the subtext being, "I want you.")

I fear that with your current mindset you're going to tank unless you muster up some courage to go talk to this girl like a human being and do it the right way rather than with a line like "let's be two happy birds together" and then running away before she has a chance to say anything.

 

[Suspens]

And here we find the real problem: total and utter fear. Fear of what they would think, fear of what the girl would think, just loads and loads of fear.

Indeed, that is the case. And fear of what her male coworkers would do.

Should I just forget her and sarge in more comfortable areas? Or approach her and be as straightforward as possible and tell her "Your hair is cute. I like you, give me your number "


Actually I tried that line once on a HB 8/10 and the nasty b1tch replied by saying " I know you like me, but that doesn't give you the right to have my number".

 

[djthiago1]

I think you're overly complicating stuff. Getting the number is the easiest part for me. Getting the date and making her interested is way harder. Just come up to her and chat about anything. Such as her clothes, hair, earrings, why she looks bored, or how hard is your job , just come up with something.

 

[Yorkex]

Or you can just buy her a ****ing house and tell her to leave you in the friend zone after.

Give her something she hasn't experience before , a girl that hit probably heard all of the pick up lines and stays up thinking about ways to reject them.
Show her she is human and so are you ...if she doesn't like you she can go jump off a cliff , you will take your handsome self to the next girl

 

[Suspens]

Give her something she hasn't experience before , a girl that hit probably heard all of the pick up lines and stays up thinking about ways to reject them.

Yeah that's what I'm looking for, any ideas?

 

[Skyline]

How about you strike up a causual conversation and ask out her out then..? All of those "tactics" you listed are kind of creepy/gay. As long as you don't prove to be weak during the conversation there is no difference between talking normally and using a smooth line especially if she finds you attractive.

 

[Julian]

are you fukking kidding me with this thread



LOL

 

[Suspens]

So I guess I just lack basic communication skills, as it is evident from my over thinking about every single details of a possible interaction.

are you fukking kidding me with this thread



LOL

No, I have a long way to go, I'm a total wreck right now.

 

[YAboi]

"Hi please come see this candy i wanted to ask about xyz candy's features (you have to have a serious but open friendly expression while doing this)." From there once you have isolated her talk about normal stuff such as "is this your father's shop? Ooh your a big girl." Talk about yourself abit too. Make interesting statements such as "i really find this candy fascinating." Crack jokes you are comfortable with. Feel out the situation naturally while doing all this to know if the vibe is positive (it can be positive even if she is being difficult but with a cheeky smile). Ask her about her work schedule. Ask her what she does for fun in your town. Finally ask her if she minds showing you around town since your a bit unknowledgeable about it. Then get her blackberry pin, phone number or something... And do it slyly so it's not too obvious to onlookers. Please don't think about it as being a win or lose situation. Think of it as a learning experience that might go well or give you things to work on in future. Do not have a template mindset in your head. Just be open and always expect the unexpected.

 

[Suspens]

talk about normal stuff such as "is this your father's shop? Ooh your a big girl." [...]Talk about yourself abit too.

She will think I'm a gold digger.

[...] Make interesting statements such as "i really find this candy fascinating."

Actually I had a similar idea in mind. "Do you cook all of these cakes by yourself? Darn, you must feel very tired every night. Hopefully your boyfriend knows how to massage you".

She is an accountant though.

 

[Zarky]

OP, go in early on Monday and hopefully you'll be the first out of 5000 guys who hit on her this week.

 

[Suspens]

OP, go in early on Monday and hopefully you'll be the first out of 5000 guys who hit on her this week.

That's true. Probably one of those 5000 guys is the ideal "Brad Pitt riding a porsche" described by mike. And I bet she would suck his ****a right there in front of her coworkers, if she received the slightest attention from such a guy.


And then a beta beggar like me sits around a corner and keeps daydreaming and idealizing such a hoe.

What a sad world.

 

[Tictac]

And then a beta beggar like me sits around a corner and keeps daydreaming and idealizing such a hoe.

What a sad world.

________

All you had to do was something anything. You chose inaction.

It's not the world that's sad.

It's you.

 

[Suspens]

All you had to do was something anything. You chose inaction.

I'm just tired of trying and failing.

Thanks to pr0n, I have high standards. Don't know ,maybe I should go for 2/10s.

 

[Chickfight]

I'm just tired of trying and failing.

Thanks to pr0n, I have high standards. Don't know ,maybe I should go for 2/10s.

It sounds like your problem is self-esteem. Her value is much higher than yours in your eyes and therefore it doesn't matter what pick up line you use, she will read your lack of confidence like an open book. There are no magic words you can say that will make her like you. Unfortunately there is no quick fix, no magic pill.

The best way to improve your confidence is to improve your skills. The guys who are the best with women are the guys with the best skills and these are the guys who have had the most experience or practice. Even naturals are not actually "natural". They weren't born that way. They simply had positive experiences with women early on for whatever reason (could be good looks or simply luck), and thus they have less fear and tend to not shy away from interacting, flirting with and eventually seducing women. They practiced more and so they got better.

Instead of wasting your time thinking of what exactly to say to this woman, you should be out practicing on everybody. Even men, the skill of making friends and getting people to like you is also essential to picking up women.

A man who has the skills to pick up women (and I'm talking 1000's of hours of practice would approach the situation much differently then you. He might think of something to say or a tactic of approaching beforehand, but he would also adapt to the circumstances. He might not even think of something to say at all and just go up to her. Most of my openings these days are just "hey, how's it going". I trust in my years of experience and practice taking it from there. Maybe I will succeed, maybe not, but I will LEARN and thus get better. Learning and practice should be your only goal, and thus you cannot truly fail. And so you become independent of the outcome of the interaction. I guarantee if you take on this perspective you will not only get better and more confident, but you will get laid quite often during your journey (even though you will get rejected very often as well, especially at the start).

Just like acting is a skill as well, any decent actor has the ability to improvise.