Best Response When Your Date Cancels

[Sega Genesis]

The Fluff's Meow

Haha I actually like that! I wonder if I can change my current to that!

Fluffmeow, has a nice ring to it! And sweet as cotten candy! Lol

For real though, I briefly respond as if whatever excuse they give is legit but mentally prepare to write her off. Maybe lightly re-engage a few days later to follow up and gauge interest. The cancellation excuse could be legit, it could be a play to see how you respond (with her still being interested), it could be bs. But to me this is how you maximize the situation.

Ok seriously, we've had our moments Billy but gotta say, I really like this^ approach! It's confident and shows you're flexible and open... all while maintaining your own frame.

Not saying this to flatter I truly mean it. I bet you get the girl too, more often than someome who will immediately write her off as being a flake.

Which is a great attitude IMO!

 

[Glassguy]

I'll throw a curveball at this.
If a chick cancels on date 1 or 2, I just play it cool and keep the line of communication open.
"Thanks for letting me know. If you want to try again sometime, let me know".
And that's it. I don't delete their number. I want to know who it is if/when she reaches back out. If you act all butthurt I assure you she won't reach back out.
Now for the curveball.....one reason women cancel a date is their anxiety. Most women have went out with a guy who got all butthurt if she didn't have continued interest after the date. So the guy got all insecure, war texted her and made it hard to get away from him.
By playing it cool and being chill about it she will see that you're not like THOSE insecure guys. More than likely, and it may take a day or two, she will reach back out when she realizes 3 things:
1. You aren't going to chase her.
2. You aren't acting needy or insecure (like MOST guys do) so you must have other options
3. She will realize that if she doesn't reach out to you, you're gone.
There has to be lukewarm interest for these things to happen. But put yourself in her situation: you cancel a date, for whatever reason, and she acts needy, insecure, blows up your phone, etc. Are you going to reach back out? No.
I've had women reach back out after they canceled a date. Lots of lays came from them. But if you don't handle yourself the right way, it's a nail in the coffin.
Be cool. After all, why get so worked up over someone that you really don't even know?

 

[Giovanni SouthSide]

I been a smooth operator and a heartbreaker to latinas since 9th grade. Had one even do my voicemail on my flip phone.
Every piece of ass who flaked on me even once since then, who I managed to wrangle a re-schedule day each 1 has been a waste of time.
Never got anywhere with a fence sitter.

Every one.

Women who want to fvck you will make their presence known the first time around after some good executed comfort game.

I know some guys here are in favor of "letting go of your ego" “throwing her a Hail Mary” “ball on her court” and trying restarts and this and that with a feeler text. I think that this tactic is likely highly location and culture-dependent. Maybe it works great in Pennsylvania or Poland. I've certainly never gotten sh!t out of it here in the West Coast.

When a chick flakes/fades/vanishes, it's usually one of two things- another guy, or she wasn't that interested in you to begin with, despite what you believed in.
It doesn't matter to me because I always assume every girl I meet is banging someone else anyway.

If you're in a place where you have to reply back to her throwaway text without a hard counter, then you are more likely in the red than in the black.

Really just your ego to risk at that point.

All this said, you should still analyze your own game to see if there's something you could improve on in the future. Maybe talk less at first. Some things are best to keep under wraps.
It may not make all the difference in this particular case of her having cold feet, but if you improve your inner game to it's peak it will help minimize flaking and get you better quality girls in general.

 

[Giovanni SouthSide]

I'll throw a curveball at this.
If a chick cancels on date 1 or 2, I just play it cool and keep the line of communication open.
"Thanks for letting me know. If you want to try again sometime, let me know".
And that's it. I don't delete their number. I want to know who it is if/when she reaches back out. If you act all butthurt I assure you she won't reach back out.
Now for the curveball.....one reason women cancel a date is their anxiety. Most women have went out with a guy who got all butthurt if she didn't have continued interest after the date. So the guy got all insecure, war texted her and made it hard to get away from him.
By playing it cool and being chill about it she will see that you're not like THOSE insecure guys. More than likely, and it may take a day or two, she will reach back out when she realizes 3 things:
1. You aren't going to chase her.
2. You aren't acting needy or insecure (like MOST guys do) so you must have other options
3. She will realize that if she doesn't reach out to you, you're gone.
There has to be lukewarm interest for these things to happen. But put yourself in her situation: you cancel a date, for whatever reason, and she acts needy, insecure, blows up your phone, etc. Are you going to reach back out? No.
I've had women reach back out after they canceled a date. Lots of lays came from them. But if you don't handle yourself the right way, it's a nail in the coffin.
Be cool. After all, why get so worked up over someone that you really don't even know?

this goes deeper than a night cap with a woman.
Its all about your get down.
One of the most powerful lessons l've learned is that presence can speak louder than anything you say. When you stay composed, observe more than you speak, and control your reactions, people reveal everything you need to know. You don't need to argue or prove a point-your silence, body language, and awareness do the work. It's in the way you carry yourself that you gain respect and influence. All this can also be perceived without the chick being around you.

 

[sevbucmash]

Thing is they know exactly how players react these days -- either through experience or through online read. So her flaking or being late could be a sh*t test to begin with.

Sh*t test is not an indicator of low interest.

 

[sevbucmash]

"Cool. I'll be here and here, if you change your mind come on over."

You name some cool desirable singles place into which it's not easy to get in, there is either a line or face control or something similar.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Actual its the fatal error of caring too much

Amen. It also pays to remember that it's not really a single person we desire, but traits and qualities that are eternal and abundant http://www.mustafaakyol.org/index.php/blog/posts-in-english/1010-the-shariah-of-love-178

 

[Divorced w 3]

I been a smooth operator and a heartbreaker to latinas since 9th grade. Had one even do my voicemail on my flip phone.
Every piece of ass who flaked on me even once since then, who I managed to wrangle a re-schedule day each 1 has been a waste of time.
Never got anywhere with a fence sitter.

Every one.

Women who want to fvck you will make their presence known the first time around after some good executed comfort game.

I know some guys here are in favor of "letting go of your ego" “throwing her a Hail Mary” “ball on her court” and trying restarts and this and that with a feeler text. I think that this tactic is likely highly location and culture-dependent. Maybe it works great in Pennsylvania or Poland. I've certainly never gotten sh!t out of it here in the West Coast.

When a chick flakes/fades/vanishes, it's usually one of two things- another guy, or she wasn't that interested in you to begin with, despite what you believed in.
It doesn't matter to me because I always assume every girl I meet is banging someone else anyway.

If you're in a place where you have to reply back to her throwaway text without a hard counter, then you are more likely in the red than in the black.

Really just your ego to risk at that point.

All this said, you should still analyze your own game to see if there's something you could improve on in the future. Maybe talk less at first. Some things are best to keep under wraps.
It may not make all the difference in this particular case of her having cold feet, but if you improve your inner game to it's peak it will help minimize flaking and get you better quality girls in general.

You should always be honest with yourself in all aspects. That is good advice.