Best Places For Newbies To Meet Women

[Martini Joe]

I hear it all of the time: Where's the hottest spots to meet the ladies? There's a herd of DJs that will tell you the usual: You've got to nightclubs and bars, hit em up in the bookstores, join a club. If you ask me, they're about as wrong as two men bumpin under the bed sheets. Especially for a newbie to the game like yourself. Why? Because these are the high target spots gals most expect to get hit on. If you believe your chances are better when they expect it, you're sadly mistaken, kiddo.

What women expect when they are in a high target place is a whole lot of steamin BS. They expect slick cats like you to approach them and try something, anything, to get the seduction ball rolling. And these brauds have seen a lot. They know damn well where they are and the shields up before you even utter your first slick word and pour on the kino. What's worse is that the competition is often harsh in such places. After all, you're not the only slick trick in town with one thing on his mind. You've got to be a little seasoned to go to places like this and score consistently.

A newbie like yourself has much better chances in non-typical places like elevators, gas stations and the line at Dunkin Donuts. Gals don't expect to get hit on in these places. They're much more mellow. But it gets even better for you, especially if you're not considered a stud, like me.

When women see a stud, they know what's commin. And, they know these types of cats are often successful. They have skill. This is another reason for them to put up their shields. You see, no woman wants to be easy. They love the game. They like to play. But they never see a cat like you commin. When you have a smokin lady in an average place and she is surrounded by men that'll make you yawn, for you, she is in the most approachable state. Shhhhow time!

Because of this, I've discovered time and time again that it has been much easier for me to pick up more attractive women in untypical places, while the attraction level of the women I pick up in typical, high target places actually decreases a little. I've also found that the "flake" factor does exactly the opposite: increases in high target places and decreases in the untypical meeting situations. What's better is that the odds of having to approach a fox surrounded by friends decreases in untypical meeting areas. I quite frequently see a braud alone on the way to work in the morning whenever I stop for coffee, and it isn't hard to leave with digits in hand.

They say that you will have to go through a good deal of rejection to harden up and get use to it. So true. But that's no reason to avoid taking the initiative to increase your odds of success and improve the quality of ass in your dating pool.

 

[Skydiver43127]

That's my impression too.

1. By approaching in an unusual place you're already doing something the girl hasn't seen and this demonstrates value.

2. The reason usual places are a bad place is not because the competition is good, but actually because the competition is bad. When you approach, the girl associates you with all the idiots who approached her and you get the blame for THEIR screw ups.

By the way, I also think this is why playing the game is so damn hard in those dating sites.

 

[Skydiver43127]

Yeah, and say WHATEVER YOU WANT. And BE ALPHA
Poor guys.

 

[Boner da Stoner]

Anywhere is not good for the newbies, they go into a bar and they will be AMOG'd to ****. The newbies are going to be scared, and unprepared for most situations where girls are prepared for their advances... they are not always inviting or waiting while they are in common situations where they are bored though.

There are three approach zones for me...

The zone where she is ready. When she has a game plan and lots of experience.

i.e. home turf, with friends, with family, at work.

The zone where she is waiting. Anytime she gets anxious.

i.e. bored(yes they can be bored in clubs), happy(they accept everybody confronting them, and they let you down easy if you don't piss them off with an ill-timed neg-hit), receptionizing, when she confronts you, anytime eye contact is firmly established for a conversation.

The zone where she is not expected. Time for surprises.

i.e. at a store, in line, walking down the road, getting in her car, on the bus, side of the road, just anywhere that you can surprise her.

When you can control the situation is basically perfect though, the newbies can't control the situation, that's why they come here.

 

[The Juan and only]

I would recommend clothes stores (women spend a lot of time shopping for clothes and similar accessories) - plenty of young, attractive women can be found there.

good luck

 

[Martini Joe]

Skydiver:

I do think the mumbling, jumbling BS of others is part of the problem in high target spots too, but a little less so. Either way, the guard is up.

JC:

I dig you on the anywhere approach, so long as a cat is ready for it. But success is a much better confidence builder. I'm just pointing out how to increase the odds of success for a newb.

Boner:

Nice add to the thread, brother.


The Juan:

Cool. So long as a cat doesn't try his mojo in the bra section, right?

 

[Boner da Stoner]

So long as a cat doesn't try his mojo in the bra section, right?

have you ever been caught in the underwear section?

lol, I'm going to the clothing store tomorrow and confronting girls there... lol gotta play it bond style though, some girls will DEFINITELY get offended.

 

[Martini Joe]

Originally posted by Boner da Stoner
have you ever been caught in the underwear section?

lol, I'm going to the clothing store tomorrow and confronting girls there... lol gotta play it bond style though, some girls will DEFINITELY get offended.

Ha! Brother, I know no matter how cool I can be at times, there is no way in hell I could ever concentrate in the lollipop land of bras and panties. I know I'd start picking things out for her. I just know it. Like a kid in a candy shop. Hmm. Maybe I can make that work....ha.

 

[BrotherAP]

I think there's a strong correlation between JC's point "Approach anywhere" (which is also my mantra) and your idea to approach them in atypical places.

You see, by approaching girls wherever you see girls, chances are you'll find enough oppurtunities over the course of your regular week to approach them that you don't have to go to a bookstore (unless, of course, you want to buy some books) or any other meat market for that matter. In that way, this tip works for anyone - not just newbies.

But where is a guy to go when his daily routine doesn't have him crossing paths with a lot of ladies if he rules out clubs and the like? If you think it's absurd to go to a club just to pick up chicks, try going to a gas station just to meet girls.

 

[Martini Joe]

Originally posted by JC Jerkson
Great place to meet girls. I've done it before.


JC

Ditto.

BrotherAP, I hope you don't get the impression that I'm suggesting these newbs get their sharp threads on and hang out at a gas pump.

My point is atypical places are just about everywhere. These cats are always asking where the best places are to go, never realizing they go there every damn day.

Now I don't believe for a minute that a man exists who never crosses paths with the ladies, unless he's either locked up in cell block B or prying his balls off of his thighs at the south pole. If you go outside, you're there. If you're part of the consumer society, you're often there. I think we're on the same page here.

Sure, this applies to everyone, but newbs don't have experience to operate with equal success across the board like others can. Not yet, anyway. They don't understand the advantages they have in one place or another, and it's exactly why they beg the question.

Now, I would have never posted this tip if my sole point was to suggest they try their thing everywhere. It's a waste of my time. The point of this tip was to expose and explain weaknesses and advantages at their own skill level. These cats are sitting on a hunk of gold and they don't even know it, because they don't understand timing and advantage.

These guys are sent out to repeat things that may or may not work never understanding why either way. They're playing a numbers game without common sense; like trying to be suave wearing a beanie cap with a propeller on top. Eventually they figure it out, but it's the hard way.

He still needs the balls to take action, but a newb with the slightest clue can advance his confidence much quicker when he knows where and why successful gigs can be often had. Once he gains that level of confidence, the hot spots become much easier to conquer.

 

[BrotherAP]

In my opinion, the easiest place to approach a girl is in a class, club, or social group environment. This can be a college class or a karate/yoga/whatever class, or a bicycling club, a snowboard club, a bible study, or any place where you will see her on a regular basis and have a common interest. You have many chances to the girl without any pressure of closing prematurely because you know you'll see her again, and you can build a much stronger connection before you even go on a first date, making it easy for you when you do sense that it's time. Girls are more open to guys at these places, too, and many girls have told me that they expect to meet a potential boyfriend at these events more so than at a bar or party.

The next easiest would be anywhere that you are going to be near enough to talk to cute girls within the course of your day. This includes elevators, in line at the bank, at the bus/train stop, on the bus/train, and anywhere else that girls are around and bored and willing to talk.

It gets a lot harder when you are approaching a girl specifically to pick her up, and you have to either be direct or be prepared to make a healthy conversation. This includes situations where she's sitting alone at a table at a cafe, a bench at a park, a chair at a bookstore, or anywhere else where you have no obvious reason for talking to her. These are the times where she more than likely knows you are picking her up.

Slightly harder is interrupting a girl who appears to be busy. Whether she's walking fast somewhere, impatiently checking something on a computer, sending text messages, studying, reading, shopping intently, etc. and she looks at you expecting a quick question or proposal and you have to hook her within a second or two or she'll blow you off and be gone.

Finally, in a completely separate category are club and party approaches - where a girl is obviously expecting to get hit on and very ready to deflect this. You argued that the bookstore fits in this category, but I don't think girls expect to be approached as much at a bookstore as a club. I could be wrong about this though.

Good idea to analyze what venues and approaches are the most likely to give results.

 

[Double]

Originally posted by Martini Joe

When women see a stud, they know what's commin. And, they know these types of cats are often successful. They have skill. This is another reason for them to put up their shields.

no, this is a reason to put down their shields due she knows she has comptetion. at least every sane confident woman does.

 

[Boner da Stoner]

He said women, not girls.

 

[Martini Joe]

Re: Re: Best Places For Newbies To Meet Women

Originally posted by Double
no, this is a reason to put down their shields due she knows she has comptetion. at least every sane confident woman does.

Don't mistake attraction for trust. Women are always willing to meet a stud, but that doesn't mean she doesn't assume very early on that the man is horndog that'll end up bangin the bridesmaids. It's the reason a chump's got a shoulder worth cryin on.

Sure, some of them don't care... I've got a name for them. It ain't a pretty one either.

 

[Martini Joe]

Thanks for the add, BrotherAP; a very nice break down.

Now, I may have been quick to lump group events into the "two men bumpin under the bedsheets" catagory, but I threw it in intitially thinking if a newb has a chance to try another time, he often takes it, and more than once on most occasions. All in all I think it's the best opportunity for a chump to continue being a chump, even though the women may be more receptive, because he thinks hes got time. So he befriends her and often slips into the friend trap before he realizes it.

When he learns to come out of that shell, then yes, group events are one of the best places, and I often turn to them myself.

I think, and this just might be me, that a newb must be in an all or nothing situtation to begin with. He's either going to have to choose to meet her, or never see her again. We've got to pull the plug on situations where he has time. It's been his passifier for too long.

In my opinion, group events are the second level approach; the next step. What do you think, BrotherAP? Are you with me on that one?

Now, I believe when a man approaches to talk to a woman, she always knows what's happening. They just know like your heart knows to pump the blood. So I don't think there is any situation a man can approach a woman to hit on her without her understanding she's being hit on.

The importance is whether she expects it or not.

Now the busy woman, I agree BrotherAP, for a newb this may be an opportunity to just be rude. On the other hand, those newbie minds are something, boy. I don't have any reason to believe a newb will take this idea and think, "Um. Um. She's eating a muffin. I better not bother her. Damn, now she's turning the page. Too busy".

They're escape artists. They've been outsmarting themselves for years. So let's just say if she looks really busy. I mean hair frazzled, all eye buggin, crazy busy.