Best Method To Cold Approach?

[AmsterdamAssassin]

The answer is none of them if she has her headphones on and so fixated on her phone.

I'd like to know if anyone had success with that.

I have a lot of fun and success with that, but then, I'm not cold approaching.

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

I have developed some lines that are OK, but I actually have a single line with 100% success rate, literally works every time under every circumstance, I'm obviously not going to give it out but I will say it's rooted in self-deprecation

I'm defining success here as the person willing to stand or sit and talk with me beyond the line landing.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Really depends on the girl and really depends on the environment

If its a nightclub you aren't going to go in asking her how her day was , your going to want to make it very clear you find her attractive too and you want too sleep with her so she can respond accordingly

In the gym its a LOT different there's a lot of posing, posturing and observing that goes on and its very difficult to gauge interest , here you need to be more casual in your approach " hey seen you around here a lot just wanted to know your name" bang ice broken then the next time you see her bit more small talk and then go for the number or insta request

Once you have the details then literally within a couple of messages you ask her if she's down for a date , there's no point dragging it on because random women can and will waste your time

For a daytime approach again its different these are perhaps the toughest approaches to do because you literally have nothing to go off , its completely freestyle and time constrained you literally need to make her aware you find her attractive and get her details within like 5-10 mins whilst remaining calm, confident and charming

this is no easy task and the rejection rate for most men who do it is probably running into the 90%

But it does provide a lot of experience and ultimately if you want too cold approaches to go well this is what you need

 

[soulforge]

Really depends on the girl and really depends on the environment

If its a nightclub you aren't going to go in asking her how her day was , your going to want to make it very clear you find her attractive too and you want too sleep with her so she can respond accordingly

In the gym its a LOT different there's a lot of posing, posturing and observing that goes on and its very difficult to gauge interest , here you need to be more casual in your approach " hey seen you around here a lot just wanted to know your name" bang ice broken then the next time you see her bit more small talk and then go for the number or insta request

Once you have the details then literally within a couple of messages you ask her if she's down for a date , there's no point dragging it on because random women can and will waste your time

For a daytime approach again its different these are perhaps the toughest approaches to do because you literally have nothing to go off , its completely freestyle and time constrained you literally need to make her aware you find her attractive and get her details within like 5-10 mins whilst remaining calm, confident and charming

this is no easy task and the rejection rate for most men who do it is probably running into the 90%

But it does provide a lot of experience and ultimately if you want too cold approaches to go well this is what you need

This is really good, a wealth of knowledge here.

Are you guys bothered about approaching chicks in crowded areas?

I mean like if you approach a girl and she rejects you & the people around you noticed your approach and rejection.

 

[SW15]

Are you guys bothered about approaching chicks in crowded areas?

I mean like if you approach a girl and she rejects you & the people around you noticed your approach and rejection.

I'm not bothered by that at all and never think of it.

Most people are too self-absorbed to even notice.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Are you guys bothered about approaching chicks in crowded areas?
I mean like if you approach a girl and she rejects you & the people around you noticed your approach and rejection.

I talk to women everywhere, but I'm not that goal orientated to only talk with women I want to fvck, and I only escalate when the woman in question is emotionally invested enough.

So, if I talk with a woman and the woman turns and walks away, I don't look rejected and I walk away myself.

I think that as long as you don't approach women like a homeless person begging for money working down the queue at a bus stop, people around you won't see anything odd about a man and a woman briefly speaking.

Also, people notice much less than you think, many bystanders are too self-absorbed to even notice I'm walking by with a cat on my shoulder, so if you don't act like a complete moron, doubtful that anybody but yourself will notice the rejection. Just don't look disappointed, but learn to smile when you get rejected, it changes both the visual and your own mindset.

 

[Bingo-Player]

This is really good, a wealth of knowledge here.

Are you guys bothered about approaching chicks in crowded areas?

I mean like if you approach a girl and she rejects you & the people around you noticed your approach and rejection.

Nah I was in Benidorm weekend before last on a stag doo with 15 blokes

half of them I didn't know

I must have done 30-40 cold approaches

10 just around the pool Infront of the lads so maximum risk of abuse and banter if they go wrong

Luckily most of them went smoothly

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Only time you need to be careful is in the workplace and in the gym

If you get rejected a lot in the gym and other girls see some will soft next you just because they've seen another woman isn't interested

Also you don't want a reputation of being that creepy guy thats after every girl with a pulse

One of my gym bros already has this reputation in our gym and its absolutely killing him

 

[CornbreadFed]

I don't cold approach, but I do make small talk with women. Today, I noticed this girl had on a nice bracelet and I complimented her on it and she started talking about everything/her life and I am like this was a mistake lol. Obsessing over IOIs is just another version of saying you are scared of approaching. I have randomly talked to plenty of women with resting bvtch face and they immediately reverse it after I start talking to them.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Pretty much all women have a creep/freak filter from being approached inappropriately, so as long as you don't come across as a creep or freak you should be able to talk to them without getting rejected. And you should be able to read the signs and tell her friendly goodbye when a rejection is looming so you stay in control of the interaction.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

i’ve been CA’d by both. I prefer 1.

 

[Gamisch]

Just keep in mind how important it is for a woman to get approached.

No matter what people tell you, on a individual level every woman appreciates an approach. Women love boldness much more than we men. We as men are p00syfied . I bet that among the 63 % of men who didn't date there are many men who're shyting bricks by the idea of talking to a woman. Gone are the days when they could benefit from social structures and pick up a wife at church or maybe at the bar. You HAVE to take action nowadays..

I'm getting back at it and its clear to see that a man is missing out if he doesn't try to engage with women. We tend to make the downsides much bigger than they are, while we forget the plus side; that women love OUR attention .

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Just keep in mind how important it is for a woman to get approached.

Exactly. Women know they've be sidetracked as useless the moment men stop giving them attention.

 

[IKO69]

This is really good, a wealth of knowledge here.

Are you guys bothered about approaching chicks in crowded areas?

I mean like if you approach a girl and she rejects you & the people around you noticed your approach and rejection.

I once approached a woman on a crowded train. This good looking woman was standing next to me so I tapped her on her shoulder to get her attention. As I did I noticed a bunch of eyes suddenly were on me- I didn't give a **** if they were tho. I talked to her for a bit but long story short, it went nowhere. She was polite but you could tell there was no interest and she didn't want to talk. I disengaged after a certain point and I remember when I had looked away from her there was this old ****er with a smirk on his face, he had found it humorous I obviously crashed and burned (lolol).

Here's the kicker though, had it not been for your comment, I wouldn't have remembered that story. That's how little I give a **** about it. We often and have often held ourselves back because of potentially hearing a "no" when it frankly doesn't even matter and will be forgotten in relatively short time.

 

[soulforge]

QUOTE="IKO69, post: 3051137, member: 24831"]
I once approached a woman on a crowded train. This good looking woman was standing next to me so I tapped her on her shoulder to get her attention. As I did I noticed a bunch of eyes suddenly were on me- I didn't give a **** if they were tho. I talked to her for a bit but long story short, it went nowhere. She was polite but you could tell there was no interest and she didn't want to talk. I disengaged after a certain point and I remember when I had looked away from her there was this old ****er with a smirk on his face, he had found it humorous I obviously crashed and burned (lolol).

Here's the kicker though, had it not been for your comment, I wouldn't have remembered that story. That's how little I give a **** about it. We often and have often held ourselves back because of potentially hearing a "no" when it frankly doesn't even matter and will be forgotten in relatively short time.
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The dude who looked at you and smirked, likely has never had the guts to approach a chick in his life. Haha

Personally rejection like your example doesn't both me.

What does bother me is, when I see a chick that I want to approach and she is wearing EARPHONES

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Personally rejection like your example doesn't both me.
What does bother me is, when I see a chick that I want to approach and she is wearing EARPHONES

If I'm in a playful mood, I stand in front of her and point over her shoulder while I mime 'you are an idiot'. Nine out of ten turn around, see nothing and pull down their headphones to question me. And then I say, "you looked pretty blissed out, what are you listening?"
If she responds negatively in any way, I follow up with "I guess I was wrong about the 'blissed out' thing. You seem upset."
And keep a smile on your face while you do this.

 

[soulforge]

Gym Approach today, as she just finished her bicep curls set

Me - Hey your looking quite strong

Her - Haha thank you

Me - Those arms look nearly as strong as mine

Her - Lol have you seen the size of your arms? they are big

Me - I suppose, they are an on going project

Her - What they already look huge lol

Me - Haha well maybe I can tweak them a little more today, anyway enjoy your workout. cya

So I walked off. This was just a little ice breaker, as I have seen her come to the gym pretty regular recently.

She saw me again later on and smiled. Might build up more conversation next time and go for the number.

 

[IKO69]

QUOTE="IKO69, post: 3051137, member: 24831"]
I once approached a woman on a crowded train. This good looking woman was standing next to me so I tapped her on her shoulder to get her attention. As I did I noticed a bunch of eyes suddenly were on me- I didn't give a **** if they were tho. I talked to her for a bit but long story short, it went nowhere. She was polite but you could tell there was no interest and she didn't want to talk. I disengaged after a certain point and I remember when I had looked away from her there was this old ****er with a smirk on his face, he had found it humorous I obviously crashed and burned (lolol).

Here's the kicker though, had it not been for your comment, I wouldn't have remembered that story. That's how little I give a **** about it. We often and have often held ourselves back because of potentially hearing a "no" when it frankly doesn't even matter and will be forgotten in relatively short time.

The dude who looked at you and smirked, likely has never had the guts to approach a chick in his life. Haha

Personally rejection like your example doesn't both me.

What does bother me is, when I see a chick that I want to approach and she is wearing EARPHONES
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I can understand the reservations people have about approaching women with headphones; it is often used a means of deterring most men but you can't let it discourage you.

If she is in a serious relationship there is little that can be done. Thing is there are a lot of single women use them for the same reason (lol). How do you tell the difference? You can't really, you just have to read the situation and go for it.

The one's that are single/don't have a bf, they don't know who they are going to come across when they walk out the door. It just might happen she'll come across a man who is her type; maybe you might be that guy. She thinks to herself "damn i'd like a piece of that guy". Her headphones would mean **** in this situation if you were perceptive enough to notice she's attracted to you and approach her.

I've done it a couple of times - the last time was in a place over here called Lummus park. I spotted her, thought she was good looking enough and blatantly checked her out. I made it pretty clear I was checking her out and I didn't give a ****. As we got close she gave me a big smile and looked down as we walked by each other. I saw her a little bit later because I had been walking around the park. I just walked up to her with a smile on my face and I asked her what she was listening to and I took one of her ear buds out and put it in my ear, nothing. I said you aren't listening to anything and she laughed and said she forgot to turn it on (lolol). She didn't know what she was doing, she was very nervous- she likely didn't think she'd see me again or that I would've done anything. **I never would've reached for the earbud had I not known I was already in, there was little guesswork involved. My approach would've been somewhat similar with a slight variation had she not flashed her pearly whites but I had detected interest**

 

[Learning Curve]

Which technique would you say is the most effective?

01. Approach a girl, start small conversation, talk about how her day is or whatever, build some raport & at some point turn the conversation to showing her interest & proceed to ask for her number?

02. Immediately let her know that you think she is cute, would like to take her out for a drink & try get her number?

Personally I think number two is best, as you are letting your intentions to be known off rip.

I would go for the 01. Approach.

But i always try to have a c0cky humorous approach instead of the boring interview cold approach.

I never show too much interest in the beginning from my words but from my actions such as strong eye contact for example.

Showing too much intention from the get-go usually leads to a woman playing games unless she is a healthy one which is rare to find nowadays.

Also being direct is not that is bad, is that is too much investment from you side and you show all your cards from the beginning to a woman that may or may not be f3ucking around with another 5 dudes. You probably will not care, i get it. But it should be equal-to-equal you show your intentions by cold approaching her this is more than enough of showing an initial level of your interest towards her.

Keep it funny, light, actions speak louder than words in terms of body language and eye contact, grab the phone number and move on.

 

[CornbreadFed]

I have approached a different woman every day this week and they all seem to respond back and add to the conversation somehow. Cold approaching is not that hard.

 

[soulforge]

I have approached a different woman every day this week and they all seem to respond back and add to the conversation somehow. Cold approaching is not that hard.

I have approached 2-3 woman daily