best friends girl, telling me she loves me.

[choychoy12]

This is my situation.
I've been with my gf for 4 months, things are all good.

So my girl goes overseas for 2 weeks..

I decide to go party it up with my best friend, just for moral support you know.. be his back up while he picks up all these chix.

Well he's a real DJ, he gets heaps and heaps of girls. He's good looking and all that, and he's real confident.

So he see's this chic.. hb8, start flrting with her dancing with her etc. Next thigns you know he calls me and there doing it and all that.

Long story short, i bump into that girl fwe weeks later, when my gf is back from overseas, and me and my girl were having problems. So were not on the best terms.

So of course, I'm in hte mood for picking up chix, I tell This girls that me and my girl are having problems,

So then she starts telling me to concentrate on her and not my girl... she also goes on about how she didnt want my best friend and she wanted me.

And when she met us, at the club, she wanted to talk to me, but my best friend was picking up on her.

anyway, the next few days i have coffee with her, and she's like telling me, how she doesnt like my friend.

So through out the week she's telling me, to dump my gf and go for her... telling me stuff like she really loves me, etc.
She even comes to where i work and buys me gifts and stuff, saying she'll treat me really well.


What should I do? I mean, I'm still with my girl, things are good between us now. But the time, this other chic came into my life, was when we were having problems.

Right now, I'm trying to push the other girl away, because she's getting real clingy n ****, calls me every day, night.. Messaging me, tell me she misses me.

Calls me over to her house... asks me to take her home to my house... even invited me to a hotel she rented out for the night.. I Didnt stay over of course..

I dunno guys, this is abit too much for me, i'm still with my girl and i like my girl. But i dont want to hurt this girl either, i've already told her, that I'm not doing anything with her, because of my girl and because of my best friend.. (Friends before *****es)...

but she wont back down...

Advice.?

 

[MetalFortress]

WTF? This girl got with your best friend to get to you. Bros before hoes, dude. Show your loyalty to your best friend, and call this chick on her BS. If some idiot chick pulled this on me when she was dating my best friend, I would have reamed her out a fat one even if I was single and she was HB10. This ho DESERVES to be hurt. She won't really be hurt though if you say no once and for all, because like the ho that she is, she'll find another sucker.

 

[JackPrescott]

Originally posted by MetalFortress
WTF? This girl got with your best friend to get to you. Bros before hoes, dude. Show your loyalty to your best friend, and call this chick on her BS. If some idiot chick pulled this on me when she was dating my best friend, I would have reamed her out a fat one even if I was single and she was HB10. This ho DESERVES to be hurt. She won't really be hurt though if you say no once and for all, because like the ho that she is, she'll find another sucker.

I say maintain your layalty to your friend, and fook her anyway. This "Bros before Hoes" crap makes no sense, only makes sense to the men who arent getting any. My "bros" aint getting naked for me, and letting me do what I want to them sexually, know what I mean?

 

[PRMoon]

Originally posted by choychoy12
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She even comes to where i work and buys me gifts and stuff, saying she'll treat me really well.

Okay, can said gifts be taken back to the stores there were purchased at and exchanged for cash? This could be a really lucrative enterprise for you! If some of these gifts are like expencive sunglasses and stuff, you can make a bundle selling them on ebay!

Confusious says: To slove your moral delema, look inwards. You must focus on how you feel about each girl and how you think they feel about you. After that you make a decison, and see it through without any doubts or worries.

Magic 8 ball says: Pick one

So there ya have it.

 

[backbreaker]

Originally posted by JackPrescott
I say maintain your layalty to your friend, and fook her anyway. This "Bros before Hoes" crap makes no sense, only makes sense to the men who arent getting any. My "bros" aint getting naked for me, and letting me do what I want to them sexually, know what I mean?

ovbouslly, YOU aren't getting any.

I have 2 best friends. I trust them to the point that my GF, who lives with me, can walk out of the bedroom with nothing but a towel on, and neither one of them would flinch....while I am not there.

What kinda sense does that make

"yeah, I have been knowing these guys for years now, but I am going to put them on the backburner just to get some *****"

There isn't one girl out there, besides my little sister, that is more important then my 2 best friends, and any girl with me would only be as lucky to get to that point with me.

I have had one of my best friends, when I was 18, call me and tell me that this girl Iw as talking to was trying to **** him, and was begging to come over his house.

Another time, when I was 17 I had a girl that I broke up with, and she wanted to talk to my same friend. He was going to push her to the side, but i told him to go ahead, I didn't give a damn.

I had my friends "date" "leave" her scarf at my house, and had to come back and get it.... at 3 in the morning. She came in and wanted to sit down, and I let her, but that's as far as it went, and I told my friend the next day.

I know one of my best friends has a crush on my GF, but he would never a) admit it or b) act on it.

That's what loyalty gets you. Any guy that would put ***** in front of his true friends, not some jerks he hangs around with from time to time, but his true friends shouldt' even be posting on this board

 

[JackPrescott]

Originally posted by backbreaker
ovbouslly, YOU aren't getting any.

I have 2 best friends. I trust them to the point that my GF, who lives with me, can walk out of the bedroom with nothing but a towel on, and neither one of them would flinch....while I am not there.

What kinda sense does that make

"yeah, I have been knowing these guys for years now, but I am going to put them on the backburner just to get some *****"

There isn't one girl out there, besides my little sister, that is more important then my 2 best friends, and any girl with me would only be as lucky to get to that point with me.

I have had one of my best friends, when I was 18, call me and tell me that this girl Iw as talking to was trying to **** him, and was begging to come over his house.

Another time, when I was 17 I had a girl that I broke up with, and she wanted to talk to my same friend. He was going to push her to the side, but i told him to go ahead, I didn't give a damn.

I had my friends "date" "leave" her scarf at my house, and had to come back and get it.... at 3 in the morning. She came in and wanted to sit down, and I let her, but that's as far as it went, and I told my friend the next day.

I know one of my best friends has a crush on my GF, but he would never a) admit it or b) act on it.

That's what loyalty gets you. Any guy that would put ***** in front of his true friends, not some jerks he hangs around with from time to time, but his true friends shouldt' even be posting on this board

My true friends are exactly like me, we are loyal to each other, but there is an "unspoken" rule, that anytime there is some ***** involved, we'll put things on the backburner while a brotha gets some action, there is always time for the Boys night Out lets discuss the Eagles-Falcon trades on Fantasy League Football.....but sometimes, with the ladies, you gotta strike while the irons hot....sorry, not the entire Earch subscribes to the "Bros before Hoes" crap.

 

[Colossus]

First of all, the fact that this girl banged your "bro" to get with you should raise a big red flag. And you say she calls you day and night and buys you gifts?!? Run for your life, man. Save your sanity.

 

[Colossus]

In my experience "bros before ho's" only goes so far. It's easy and noble to talk about until some a$$ comes along. The bottom line is that girls fulfill needs that your bros cant, and vice-versa. There is a time and a place for everything, but as its been said before, you gotta hit the iron while it's hot.

 

[JackPrescott]

Originally posted by Colossus
In my experience "bros before ho's" only goes so far. It's easy and noble to talk about until some a$$ comes along. The bottom line is that girls fulfill needs that your bros cant, and vice-versa. There is a time and a place for everything, but as its been said before, you gotta hit the iron while it's hot.

Thank You, it's about time someone comes along who sees that a night of naked passion with a sexy lady beats the hell out of sitting around a bar with 7 men, belching, and doing shots.

 

[Luveno]

So she slept with your friend(did she? I'm assuming)...that doesn't matter. What matters is that she barely knows you and is professing her undying love to you? I think she's messed up in the head. Either she takes satisfaction in breaking up relationships, or she's a clingy attention seeker.

I'd pass up on this one.

 

[JackPrescott]

Originally posted by Luveno
So she slept with your friend(did she? I'm assuming)...that doesn't matter. What matters is that she barely knows you and is professing her undying love to you? I think she's messed up in the head. Either she takes satisfaction in breaking up relationships, or she's a clingy attention seeker.

I'd pass up on this one.

Hey, if a woman offers the puss-say, why pass it up? She isnt married and neither are you.

 

[Skullcrusher]

It really depends. If my friend was someone I respected and treated me like a fellow brother - I am loyal to him. If my friend (or acquaintance) is someone that didn't offer anything much and didn't show much respect to me - I'd bang away.

Finding a girlfriend is a lot easier than finding a GOOD friend.

Everyone has different morals. Whatever path you choose, accept the consquences.

Dunno about the girl, she could be looking for someone so she can get ready to dump - and she found the answer: You since you are thinking about getting ready to dump. Hard decision...I just know a GOOD friend usually sticks around for years and years than some girlfriend I don't have much in common with.

 

[backbreaker]

the point of being a DJ isn't "what your friend would do", but holding yourself to a higher standard.

You only take the best ***** available, nothing less... YOu don't have to settle for bargian basemen, I-****ed-your-friend-so-I-can-****-you *****.

H ow could you explain yourself afterwards... I mean, it's just *****.

I have never had a girl lay it on me so cold, to where I would even THINK about doing something like that.

***** for the most part is vastly overrated. It's nice don't get me wrong, but not worth getting into a rift wtih your friends over.

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

I would not trust this girl if I were you. She is either totally insane, or she is perfectly sane and is just a lying, scheming b1tch that's trying to get an ego boost by braking up a couple of bros. Something smells very fishy here and it's not her pu$$y.

 

[CLOONEY]

Me and my friends also have a rule, NEVER touch one anothers ex girlfriends. EVER. And to date, it has never happened, although some of our exs have tried hard to break this tradition.

Solution to your problem? Stop talking to her, stop returning her emails, text messages and phone calls. She is a ho and needs to grow up! Just let yourself disappear, out of sight, out of mind, she will get over it as soon as the next dude comes along!

 

[Chemistry]

Originally posted by Colossus
In my experience "bros before ho's" only goes so far. It's easy and noble to talk about until some a$$ comes along. The bottom line is that girls fulfill needs that your bros cant, and vice-versa. There is a time and a place for everything, but as its been said before, you gotta hit the iron while it's hot.

LMAO... seriously what's all this jibe about girls fulfilling needs that your bros can't so you've got to **** you boy's GF...

You miss the underlying thing here... your boys are there for you, look out for you etc... you know, your mans who you can chill with, watch the game, hit the club and pick up girls with... and probably most importantly, get away from your GF with...

The reason why the above reply is all wrong along with that of JackPrescott, is because essentially there are a ton of girls out there... it makes no sense to jeopardise a good friendship for a bit of *****... sure, you might get a good few months out of this girl but you'll probably get fed up, or she will and when that time comes you've lost your boys

Peoples is talkin like your mans girl is the only girl who wants to **** with you... in which case, read the DJBible

 

[TizZle]

She seems crazy and your being a challenge to her. I say ditch this new broad before she tries to start sh1t with your current g/f. If you want to be with your g/f then ditch this new one. She may try to backstab you if you don't give in to her. It's your call though.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

This hor is dangerous - stay away!!!!

Nothing good would become of this if you continue contact with her!!!

 

[choychoy12]

Thanks guys, i appreciate the advice.

This is what's happening, I ditched the *****. But she's still coming back for more.

She's definetly ****ed in the head, she said, if you dont become my bf, I'm going to be with your friend.

When i heard that, I was like get ****ed.
The next time i was at a club, she saw me with my gf. She came up to me, grabbed my hand.. Pulled me aside, and said "I'm so disappointed at you". Then tried to dance with me?

I was like "what are you doing.." I'm back with my gf. I didnt see her for the rest of the night. And up until now, she still calls me. Haha, and makes up excuses like, I want to see you, so you can help me with my work.

So anyway, I'm back with my gf, things are going good.

But there's still this part of me, that still wants to break up with her, and find something new.

Its been odd lately, every since I met these other girls.

I've had a more, dont give a **** tone towards my gf, and more laid back and whatever. Now i say what i want to say, and i do what i want to do...
And she seems to be into me more.

But I remember when i was nice, polite and giving into her every need, and conscious about how i shoudl act..

she just played with my emotions.

Its funny how the tables turn.

Thanks for the advice guys =)