Best friend's GF treats me like ****. What to do?

[Once Bitten]

Not sure if I've asked this before, but here goes.
A couple of years ago, an old friend and I got to be close friends again after he had a very serious motorcycle accident. So I visited him a lot while he was recovering and we got to be very good friends again. We just drifted apart over the years.
While in the hospital, I met his GF. I didn't like her immediately, but I was cordial and decent despite this. He later told me it was actually nice to be away from her. The guy loves her, but she treats him like ****. She's quite the alpha female-the bossy woman. Everything goes her way. She sees me as a threat, because she knows what I've been through with women. If I ever spoke of these situations, she always countered with hints that things were probably my fault.

He and I belong to a car club where we attend meetings once a month. I do not go around her at all, I refuse to. First she said she wasn't going to the club's Christmas party this year, now she's changed her mind. Last year I went with them. When I got to their house, she stood in her kitchen with her 30 yo daughter and bragged (as usual) about what a tough woman she is, ad nauseum. Then proceeded to just stop and blank stared at me. For at least 30 seconds. In response, I did exactly the same. No words, just cold blank stares.

When we left for the party, she insisted that I sit up front. He has trouble hearing, but could hear me but not her, who was sitting behind him. She texted him about how he could hear me but not her. Just aggravating **** like that. She doesn't give him sex anymore, she says it's uncomfortable. She's my age!!, he's a couple years older. He stays with her because 1) her grandchild, who only knows him as his Grandpa. 2) he likes and gets along with her family. I know a little about this feeling, he needs to learn to "cut the cord", but is too weak.

We have a Dinner coming up soon, and she's decided she's going. He doesn't know it yet, but I'm taking my Dad this year and avoiding the bullsh!t. I helped him move out of her house last year because of the way she treated him while he was recovering. Now that he is working again and helping her with bills, he's okay again. (Imagine that!). He knows what I think of all this cr@p, and agrees, but thinks its too late in life to find better. I don't...How the fvck do I get through to him?
After what I've been through in life I'd kick this bytch right in the fvcking cvnt.

She says she's not treating me badly because she doesn't like me, rather she thought it was disrespectful the first time I went to their house to visit. I told him I should leave earlier, but he insisted I stay late since we had so much catching up to do. So I did, and THAT is what she holds over me. He has told her it's not my fault, but his. But it doesn't matter. Reminds me of my ex in that respect.

 

[Once Bitten]

I've guided him here, told him about MGTOW, etc. but I think he believes he's just too old.
He believes women are the way they are and there's nothing we can do about it.
And he believes that women just don't like sex. That they use it as power over men. They like to pizz us off.
I told him recently that if I were to have a GF tomorrow, she's the type who would instantly want the four of us to double-date a lot. He said I was probably right.
WEIRD.

 

[ubercat]

he's never going to believe it unless he sees it in action. U ll have to model plating and holding frame.

 

[Fruitbat]

Dude I have exactly the same thing with my friend.

She is quite nice to me when we are in a group but as soon as we are talking alone she shoots me looks of pure evil.

She doesn't like my open opposition to feminism. she continually picks on things like I mentioned "male pride" once and got lectured on pride being a universal component and ascribing male-ness was due to my underlying mysogyny. She picks these things I believe so we always argue etc and now I don't get invited to joint events. One of her mates picked a fight on the same issue. Bottom line is I'm now a bit of an outcast and don't get invited any more.

My mate has confided in me once that he is living his life for her and doesn't get a say. It's all her friends, her wants etc.

I explained recently that I don't want a career woman and every man in our group rounded on me as a mysogynist.

I think they are all ****ing loopy and it's a shame some men put up with it.

 

[The Duke]

@Once Bitten- I’ve been in your shoes before. Had a good friend from college that relocated to where I did after he graduated. Eventually his girl from college moved in with him after she couldn’t afford her high dollar apartment anymore. That was the beginning of the end of our relationship. She saw me as a threat to her security because I could easily influence her boyfriend(my best friend). She knew I was independent and wasn’t controlled by my wife and she hated men like that. She also sensed that I understood women better than he did and that always makes for a powerful man. I was supposed to be the best man in their wedding and she saw to it that I wasn’t. Instead her brother got that assignment which my best friend barely even knew.

After the wedding, things got to the point that she didn’t want him and I to hang out unless she was there as well. Our relationship finally slipped away and I didn’t hear from him for several years until his mom died and he reached out to me. By now he had 2 kids with this biatch. He was just going thru the motions in his relationship and wasn’t happy with it. I knew if I was to rekindle our relationship, the outcome would be the same as it was before.

It all boiled down to he wasn’t strong enough to put her in her place nor was he willing to change. You can only lead the horse to water, you can’t make him drink.

 

[Once Bitten]

I'd suggest you tell him anytime he wants to hang out, let you know. But she can't be there.

That's the way it is now. He knows damn well I don't want to be around her at all. His brother and mom are the same. She is a bytch w/a capital f'n B.