Best Friending a girl you used to like?

[Insouciant]

I'm not talking about existing as a beta orbiter... but as a genuine, platonic friend to a girl that you used to like but don't want to smoosh (or at least put the effort in) anymore.

Fantastic benefits. Hot wing-women. Women's perspective on things. etc.

Thoughts?

How soon after you break contact can you propose this arrangement (again, keep in mind that you are completely over this chick).

I know I will hear some viewpoints that I haven't even considered from this group, which is why I love posting on these forums. Looking forward to your insights!

 

[origin138]

A lot of guys on the board will tell you not to keep female friends in general.

I've personally found they make excellent wings if they know what they're doing.

Where you can get screwed is if you start caring about this woman in a romantic way or vice versa.

I can count on 1 hand how many female friends I have that I know for certain no mutual or one-way attraction exists.

Friend zoning women has its benefits but if an orbiting situation starts to occur, you need to cut it out like cancer.

In my experience, it's not something that can be forced, it just has to happen. The female friends I do have all have volunteered as wings at some point in the last several years, and it usually works out quite well if you play it correctly.

 

[Insouciant]

I kind of agree with origin on this one...

If the man has no expectations, what could it hurt? When there are no expectations, she can't hurt you/ be a bad friend.

I'm pretty sure, though, that now the female will subconsciously throw out little feelers to attract you back as a Beta Orbiter. The trick is to keep it strictly mutual, because you know those come-ons are empty.

 

[bmp2cpm]

I hate to sound cynical, but I think you should only have a female friend as long as she serves a purpose and is useful to you in some way. As soon as she no longer becomes useful, put zero effort into the friendship and move away from her quick.
In general, having several female friends is kind of good to make a woman you're interested in perceive you as higher value. And then there is the whole mystery to the woman you are interested as to why you have so many female friends. Why don't you want to be more with them? Or are they really more than female friends? It gets the woman you're interested in thinking about you. Female jealousy is a powerful emotion and female friends can really help bring it out.

Just remember, a female friend has to bring something good to the table. She needs to be helping you or supporting you in someway. Once that stops, you end the friendship.Basically use her and feel no guilt about it whatsoever. After all, how often have women done that to you, especially before you found this forum?

 

[timmylivingalie]

One good thing about female friends they are other hot friends.