Best Friend/Dating HELP!!!

[jrsully88]

Ok so here is my story. Right now I am a senior in high school. Just so you guys know-I have been a DJ throughout high school- I have dated up to 4 girls at one time. So dating multiple girls is common for me. Ok so here we go. I have known this girl since I was in 8th grade. We have always been best friends-like we could tell eachother everything and we had a great relationship. We had both always had a thing for eachother but noone really said anything. We both dated a lot of other people during high school, but at the beginning of this year is when things got serious. The first time we kissed was in August, and we both couldnt resist eachother that we ended up doing the dirty the first night. We "unofficially" dated for about two months until my best friend told her that I had hooked up with these other two girls(one of them was her real good friend). I know-I'm an idiot. The thing is-I really liked this girl- I keep telling myself its not love but honestly I think I do love her. We broke it off for about a month but now were seeing eachother again. Of course, she doesnt have much trust in me. I have brought up the fact of making things official but she doesnt exactly seem ready for that. I keep telling her that I would never have done that if we were "official". Now I have just a few questions.

1. Any advice on what I can say to her to gain her trust back?
2. Should I make things official?
3. I feel like I am getting controlled now-not something that happends to a DJ. How do I get back on top without losing her?
4. I feel like I am obsessing over her now-she honestly is the only girl I want. If anyone has any serious answers please help my situation out. I want to have the best relationship possible where things are mutual. And how to I get her to ask me to hang out more instead of me always calling her.

Thanks!

 

[jrsully88]

She is all I think about- I know all have you have felt that way before. I am in a state of mind where I cant see from an outside perspective. I could see myself with this girl long-term. So just take a sec and help me out here. i fvcked up real bad and when we started seein eachother again we had sex like the second night and now she tells me she is getting walked all over. The thing about this girl is that she has been cheated on by every guy she has ever been with. I will NOT be that guy. She tells me that is why she is insecure and has a lack of trust.

 

[Climax]

Pull out while you still can...

It does not seem to me that she is ready for a committed relationship. The more pressure you put on her to get into a relationship the more she wont want it. You need to let her mature in her own pace. If you want any chance with this girl in the future I would recommend that you remain just friends with her, maybe even friends with benefits (only if you can handle your emotions), and then at a later stage in life when/if she is ready, she should let you know. And if she doesn’t, then obviously it wasn’t meant to be.

For the time being, you should rather make sure that you to not get too emotionally attached to her, date other women, etc.

And with her.. Just tell her that she is such a beautiful person in so many ways, and you couldn’t help yourself being attracted to her. And then also mention that if she is not ready then you fully understand and that there are no hard feelings. In short, flatter her, make her feel good, reassure her, and she should forgive you / trust you again / be wiling to let you earn your trust with her again / whatever the case.


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