Ok, I guess this will be the first of the few times I will ever need help on something. It's not an issue with women (and never will be...).
So. Let's get down to the point. I have two best friends. Put it this way, one of them "betrayed" me in an indirect way.
The ONE betraying kid, let's call him David, and the other one John.
Us three have been friends for a long time, about 12 years.
John is in another state, so I don't blame him if he still wants to maintain that relationship with David because he doesn't know what's going on, but of course I tried to cut that relationship down to one best friend. I told John to stop being friends with David and explained the situation.
Obviously John is unwilling. Kind of heart-breaking right?
I'll be harsh on this kid in this post as I have to be. It's really making me mad and won't get off my mind. And I hope you learn something from this thread.
David still owe me $100+ (175 to be exact) for my cell phone that I let him borrow. Then everytime we go down for a meal (we used to live together for a while when our parents and time let; that's how strong our bond can be... or any bonds for that matter) it's either me or John shelling out, never David. He always sit in the back and "stare" at us like spies. Like he's plotting something. And when I complain, John just sit back "scared". I even got mad one time and said "yo you know you owe us cash", John just act nice and go "nah relax Saine, David you don't need to pay me back". Of course he doesn't understand the complexity. SO! I let it go.
Time goes, John returns back home (in another state).
Onto the kid. David is a dumbass. For some reason he has been changing for the worst. I taught him "change so that you can get what you want" but he's changing for the worst, I fear this is my fault. Why I think it's my fault? Just keep reading.
He is recently changing up the way he dress, totally. He wants to be gangster. In NY there's a long-fallen gang called "Flying Dragon" and something Asians'; their crews (comprised of mainly Cantonese and "FOBS") recently joined up and he came up to me today afterwork and goes "yo there's a new gang, I wanna join". I was like "no don't", then he goes "oh **** man, not this again". So of course I won't preach as I used to and then I just said "do whatever you want".
David is pathetic, can't find his own friend so he *****es at me all the time on the phone (for years) until I entered high school and found him some friends AND a girl.
To make it worst, he's ditching ME for his so called "family".
The girl recently broke up with him, she said he's too sensitive and emotional. Of course I'm the one whose always laidback and just say "so how's he doing?".
Always one same response. "too senstive, can you help him?"
Oh of course *****, I told you, just because he's gangster-look-a-like or he speaks Cantonese does NOT mean he's your perfect man! Now I hope you learn your lesson.
Now, I don't mind if you have friends and chill with them. But when I say the girls are using you, they are. I know my friends. He goes "nah they cool" and I said "cool by leeching off your cash? your allowance then you come up to ME and abuse my cash? you know you still owe me"
What does he do? Shrug.
I even got him a job. All he does is use me. And when I ask him to come out? Excuses.
Like "nah (in the most gangster way possible) I can't, raining/homework/mom/today's family day (referring to my friends I gave him)" or whatever possible excuse to get away from me. His friend? He argues with his parents for what he can.
He recently got his first paycheck. Now he's gonna come to me (at 8AM) and ask me to teach how to check it.
I mean, for me to not reject you and spend time with you even if I got something much more important to do is FINE. But when I ask you to come out, stop *****ing about the rain at the very least? Jesus and have some respect for me in the public.
SO! Now, I'm confused. I don't think we should treat a selected few as the way we treat women so what can I do?
If this looks childish, don't mind it at all. I'm just mad and in a hurry. It's 6AM in the morning and I didn't even sleep. Those who have a best friend or two that know the power of friendship, bless them. For true friendship can never be won with cash or materials, only time. If only I can find someone trustworthy long enough.
So. Let's get down to the point. I have two best friends. Put it this way, one of them "betrayed" me in an indirect way.
The ONE betraying kid, let's call him David, and the other one John.
Us three have been friends for a long time, about 12 years.
John is in another state, so I don't blame him if he still wants to maintain that relationship with David because he doesn't know what's going on, but of course I tried to cut that relationship down to one best friend. I told John to stop being friends with David and explained the situation.
Obviously John is unwilling. Kind of heart-breaking right?
I'll be harsh on this kid in this post as I have to be. It's really making me mad and won't get off my mind. And I hope you learn something from this thread.
David still owe me $100+ (175 to be exact) for my cell phone that I let him borrow. Then everytime we go down for a meal (we used to live together for a while when our parents and time let; that's how strong our bond can be... or any bonds for that matter) it's either me or John shelling out, never David. He always sit in the back and "stare" at us like spies. Like he's plotting something. And when I complain, John just sit back "scared". I even got mad one time and said "yo you know you owe us cash", John just act nice and go "nah relax Saine, David you don't need to pay me back". Of course he doesn't understand the complexity. SO! I let it go.
Time goes, John returns back home (in another state).
Onto the kid. David is a dumbass. For some reason he has been changing for the worst. I taught him "change so that you can get what you want" but he's changing for the worst, I fear this is my fault. Why I think it's my fault? Just keep reading.
He is recently changing up the way he dress, totally. He wants to be gangster. In NY there's a long-fallen gang called "Flying Dragon" and something Asians'; their crews (comprised of mainly Cantonese and "FOBS") recently joined up and he came up to me today afterwork and goes "yo there's a new gang, I wanna join". I was like "no don't", then he goes "oh **** man, not this again". So of course I won't preach as I used to and then I just said "do whatever you want".
David is pathetic, can't find his own friend so he *****es at me all the time on the phone (for years) until I entered high school and found him some friends AND a girl.
To make it worst, he's ditching ME for his so called "family".
The girl recently broke up with him, she said he's too sensitive and emotional. Of course I'm the one whose always laidback and just say "so how's he doing?".
Always one same response. "too senstive, can you help him?"
Oh of course *****, I told you, just because he's gangster-look-a-like or he speaks Cantonese does NOT mean he's your perfect man! Now I hope you learn your lesson.
Now, I don't mind if you have friends and chill with them. But when I say the girls are using you, they are. I know my friends. He goes "nah they cool" and I said "cool by leeching off your cash? your allowance then you come up to ME and abuse my cash? you know you still owe me"
What does he do? Shrug.
I even got him a job. All he does is use me. And when I ask him to come out? Excuses.
Like "nah (in the most gangster way possible) I can't, raining/homework/mom/today's family day (referring to my friends I gave him)" or whatever possible excuse to get away from me. His friend? He argues with his parents for what he can.
He recently got his first paycheck. Now he's gonna come to me (at 8AM) and ask me to teach how to check it.
I mean, for me to not reject you and spend time with you even if I got something much more important to do is FINE. But when I ask you to come out, stop *****ing about the rain at the very least? Jesus and have some respect for me in the public.
SO! Now, I'm confused. I don't think we should treat a selected few as the way we treat women so what can I do?
If this looks childish, don't mind it at all. I'm just mad and in a hurry. It's 6AM in the morning and I didn't even sleep. Those who have a best friend or two that know the power of friendship, bless them. For true friendship can never be won with cash or materials, only time. If only I can find someone trustworthy long enough.
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