Best course of action? Contact or no contact?

[anour]

Im in my 2nd year of my bsc degree, last year i had spoken to this girl when i did she gave me absolutely no chance and literally said i want to be with a different guy mid interaction, since then i have ignored her, whenever she sees me she avoids me as she thinks i’m some sort of a creep or whatnot.

Now when i see her she wants me to initiate conversation but i respect myself enough to not go and speak to her again. Is my conclusion and course of action right by continuing to ignore her, or am i acting too emotional and should act like it didn’t sweat me and initiate an interaction?

 

[CornbreadFed]

What you should do: Ignore this girl and focus on better things

The most you should do: Ask her out on a clear and concrete laid out date, immediately drop her for good if she does anything but shows up to the date

 

[anour]

What you should do: Ignore this girl and focus on better things

The most you should do: Ask her out on a clear and concrete laid out date, immediately drop her for good if she does anything but shows up to the date

What is better strategically? To act like last year’s rejection didn’t sweat me and continue speaking to her like if i saw her for the first time? Or should i continue ignoring her?

 

[CornbreadFed]

What is better strategically? To act like last year’s rejection didn’t sweat me and continue speaking to her like if i saw her for the first time? Or should i continue ignoring her?

You aren’t ignoring her because you are making topics about her and she’s living rent free in your head. In her defense, it could’ve been bad timing last year and right now she is more open. Nonetheless, asking her out will answer this question and clear this confusion out of your head. Again, DROP HER if she does not show up. No flakes, no non sense, No BS.

 

[anour]

You aren’t ignoring her because you are making topics about her and she’s living rent free in your head. In her defense, it could’ve been bad timing last year and right now she is more open. Nonetheless, asking her out will answer this question and clear this confusion out of your head. Again, DROP HER if she does not show up. No flakes, no non sense, No BS.

Nah it’s just when i see her. Maybe it was, but is asking a girl out after rejection after not seeing her for a long time a viable strategy?

 

[Dr.Suave]

What is better strategically? To act like last year’s rejection didn’t sweat me and continue speaking to her like if i saw her for the first time? Or should i continue ignoring her?

Never be or appear butthurt. Maybe she changed her mind and wants to go out with you, but most likely she just wants to reject you again so she can get off on the attention/validation.

 

[CornbreadFed]

Nah it’s just when i see her. Maybe it was, but is asking a girl out after rejection after not seeing her for a long time a viable strategy?

Asking out a girl is always a viable strategy. Thinking and theorizing about what a girl might or is doing is never a viable strategy. If she says no move on.

 

[anour]

Asking out a girl is always a viable strategy. Thinking and theorizing about what a girl might or is doing is never a viable strategy. If she says no move on.

I never do it’s just in this instance i have no experience and what to do that’s why i am here

 

[anour]

Never be or appear butthurt. Maybe she changed her mind and wants to go out with you, but most likely she just wants to reject you again so she can get off on the attention/validation.

So acting not-butthurt is to initiate contact after no-contact period of time?

 

[jimwho]

Get this woman out of your brain. She gets nothing more than an "easygoing" hello if you happen to be in close proximity. Have some pride In yourself, you'll feel rejuvenated.

 

[Dr.Suave]

So acting not-butthurt is to initiate contact after no-contact period of time?

If you pass her by, say "Hey" or something, dont pretend she doesnt exist. If she approaches you and start a conversation with you, just dont be rude.

Just focus on pulling younger/hotter girls. Bonus points if you pull someone in front of her face.

 

[anour]

Get this woman out of your brain. She gets nothing more than an "easygoing" hello if you happen to be in close proximity. Have some pride In yourself, you'll feel rejuvenated.

That’s how i feel is the best course of action. Glad we see eye to eye.

 

[anour]

If you pass her by, say "Hey" or something, dont pretend she doesnt exist. If she approaches you and start a conversation with you, just dont be rude.

Just focus on pulling younger/hotter girls. Bonus points if you pull someone in front of her face.

I see where you are going. Fair game.

 

[CornbreadFed]

I never do it’s just in this instance i have no experience and what to do that’s why i am here

do you have her number?

 

[anour]

do you have her number?

Nope

 

[CornbreadFed]

Nope

next time you run in to her, start a conversation about whatever, and end it with a “we should go out to drinks or whatever she does for fun” and ask for the number. Once that’s secured then we can talk more about next steps.

 

[anour]

next time you run in to her, start a conversation about whatever, and end it with a “we should go out to drinks or whatever she does for fun” and ask for the number. Once that’s secured then we can talk more about next steps.

Aight sick bro i’ll do so

 

[Murk]

Now when i see her she wants me to initiate conversation

I'm guessing this is all in your head and;

whenever she sees me she avoids me as she thinks i’m some sort of a creep or whatnot.

Still applies...

No contact.

 

[SmoothHendrixPS2]

Too salty. Show indifference by giving her a hello with a friendly smirk. Better to appear unbothered. Even better for her to see you with other women.

No Free Attention but keep the door open for her to want more of it from you.

 

[anour]

Too salty. Show indifference by giving her a hello with a friendly smirk. Better to appear unbothered. Even better for her to see you with other women.

No Free Attention but keep the door open for her to want more of it from you.

Wise words spitting game big bro