Best Cities in the South for Dating and Quality of Life?

[bonesmahoney]

Southern women have the stereotype of being more traditional and marriage oriented. However, they also have the reputation for being heavier and therefore being less attractive in that sense.

I get that the term "the south" is extremely broad, but hoping this thread is a starting point for discussions some southern cities which have high quality of life and a relatively active dating scene.

 

[christie]

I heard that Austin was a fitter, more trendy crowd.
That's all I heard so far.

 

[christie]

Hippie usually means carefree sexually.
Not in the south, but I also heard Portland is like this.

 

[SW15]

Below is a Texas breakdown.

Stay away from Austin. There's a reason feminist dating app Bumble is headquartered in Austin. Austinites are really into the whole San Francisco or Portland of the South thing.

Up the road, Dallas is a tough market. Dallas is pretentious and there are many hypergamous women. The women have the worst attitudes in all of Texas. There is a large contingent of careerist women in Dallas too, though not as bad as the leftist/feminist/SJW element in Austin. I'd recommend avoiding Dallas too.

Fort Worth, San Antonio, and Houston are the better bigger city dating environments in Texas. Slightly smaller markets like Amarillo and Lubbock might be better too, because you won't see the bad Dallas attitudes there. Midland-Odessa is a sausage fest due to the oil/energy industry.

If Latinas are your thing, El Paso, Laredo, Brownsville-Harlingen, and Corpus Christi can be options. The big 4 metros in Texas (DFW, Houston, San Antonio, and Austin) all have Latinas, but the attitudes are better in the smaller cities.

 

[Black Widow Void]

Stereotypes exist for a reason. If you're looking for anything beyond the bedroom, Southern women (generally speaking) should be your last option. And bedroom wise, they are equal, but not any better. And by the way, I'm a Southerner and laugh at the cultural mentality on a daily basis. Personally, I've found New England women to be less of a headache. If you are wanting women that are more traditional, your best bet is a gal that was raised in an oppressive church environment.

 

[bonesmahoney]

Nice breakdown SW15! I agree about the Dallas attitude. That's the only city I've visited in Tx, and I didn't stay for long. I wouldn't say the women there are 'hostile' per se, but rather cold and distant in nightlife. I was able to get in with a tall thin brunette 6, who wasn't too bad looking.

One word of warning: if you don't like heavy set latinas, don't visit Dallas! You'll have nightmares for months on end....

Overall, Dallas has no sense of southern charm. The dating scene plays out more like SF, a tech city, with the mediocre russian girls replaced by boatloads of latina cows. MOOOOOOO!!!

 

[SW15]

I agree about the Dallas attitude. That's the only city I've visited in Tx, and I didn't stay for long. I wouldn't say the women there are 'hostile' per se, but rather cold and distant in nightlife. I was able to get in with a tall thin brunette 6, who wasn't too bad looking.

Dallas women are cold and distant in nightlife. If you meet Dallas women at non-bar venues, they are a little bit better but not that much better. That's true in the 20s/30s single dense neighborhoods of Dallas. These neighborhoods are the ones closer to Downtown Dallas. Apathetic is the best word to describe the attitude of a 20s/30s single woman in Dallas in the singles dense, fashionable neighborhoods near Downtown.

The apathy is likely caused by a combination of surplus of men, careerism, and infinite options. The more than a woman uses swipe apps or the bars to meet men, the more likely her apathy levels will be higher.

The more apathetic women in Dallas tend to be transplanted women from elsewhere with weak social circles. That's a vague description since Dallas has attracted a lot of transplants since 2000. Many of the transplants are married family people living in the nicer Dallas suburbs like Plano and Frisco for the good school districts, but the typical single man isn't running into that set of the population. There are a lot of single women transplants in their 20s/30s closer to Downtown.

One word of warning: if you don't like heavy set latinas, don't visit Dallas! You'll have nightmares for months on end....

You must not have been in the neighborhoods near Downtown Dallas that was I was describing above. Those neighborhoods are more cute/hot white women. Heavy set Latinas would be a thing more in decaying suburbs like Garland, Mesquite, Arlington, and some parts of Richardson. If you're in the singles dense, fashionable neighborhoods closer to Downtown, you're not going to see a lot of Latinas, especially if you do more non-bar approaching than bar approaching/swipe app use without a strong distance filter. The Latinas that you will see around these neighborhoods are at least a healthy weight (BMI under 25) and some might be fit.

Overall, Dallas has no sense of southern charm. The dating scene plays out more like SF, a tech city, with the mediocre russian girls replaced by boatloads of latina cows. MOOOOOOO!!!

Dallas has no Southern charm. It's not a Southern city. It's a city that imitates Los Angeles pretentiousness. San Francisco is one of the worst dating markets in the United States, so it's not nearly as bad as San Francisco. Realize that a lot of people are attracted to living in Dallas because there is a good base of corporate employment here. That corporate employment base will attract a fair amount of career oriented women who are not usually good girlfriends. They are usually self-centered. On swipe apps, they are flooded, raising their expectations and entitlement. Most men don't want to commit to them.

 

[RangerMIke]

This topic pops up on the forum every now and then. I actually think there really isn't much difference how women behave from one city to another in the USA, no matter what city they are in or what part of the country. We are all so connected now with immediate access to the world from smart phones in our pockets. Regional differences are becoming more and more blurred. I think it is true that some parts of the USA are more conservative or liberal... but if you are like me, you leave politics at the door and just don't talk about that sh!t when dating. For me dating is supposed to be fun, and arguing about politics, religion, et. al. with women is a complete waste of time... so none of this gets in my way. I date women that are ultra-conservative religious Trump supporters... I date women that are VERY 'liberal' none of that matters unless you let it matter and fail to control the situation.

If you are thinking about looking for a place where you might be able to meet women... well, the chick's cultural up bringing isn't really that important. the most important things are the following: COST, QUANTITY, and VENUES.

COST: If you are going to date a lot, then the ability to find date options that are not going to cost too much is VERY important.

QUANTITY: The number of people increases your options, but it also means you will have more competition. But if you are being the best version of yourself you can be, put in the effort, you'll easily set yourself apart from other men.

VENUES: Basically a wide variety of things you can do. But it should be things you like to do. For me I LOVE music festivals so New Orleans and Nashville are actually really good for me. I think it is a lot more important for you to be in a city you like because if you are happy living in a place, you'll naturally be more attractive.

I went to college in Houston, and I get back there a few times a year. IMO Houston is pretty good for meeting and dating women. It is a very cosmopolitan city and people are about as friendly as a big city can get. Plenty to do there.

New Orleans is actually pretty good as well. It is one place where you can date and not spend a lot of money since in non-Covid times, they have more festivals than days of the year... plenty plenty of low cost dating options.

Nashville is another great city to meet and date women.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I love southern chicks...the ultimate "ladies in public, but wh0res in private"

 

[Lookatu]

Below is a Texas breakdown.

Stay away from Austin. There's a reason feminist dating app Bumble is headquartered in Austin. Austinites are really into the whole San Francisco or Portland of the South thing.

Up the road, Dallas is a tough market. Dallas is pretentious and there are many hypergamous women. The women have the worst attitudes in all of Texas. There is a large contingent of careerist women in Dallas too, though not as bad as the leftist/feminist/SJW element in Austin. I'd recommend avoiding Dallas too.

Fort Worth, San Antonio, and Houston are the better bigger city dating environments in Texas. Slightly smaller markets like Amarillo and Lubbock might be better too, because you won't see the bad Dallas attitudes there. Midland-Odessa is a sausage fest due to the oil/energy industry.

If Latinas are your thing, El Paso, Laredo, Brownsville-Harlingen, and Corpus Christi can be options. The big 4 metros in Texas (DFW, Houston, San Antonio, and Austin) all have Latinas, but the attitudes are better in the smaller cities.

This is pretty accurate. And it will only get worse unfortunately with the mass exodus of Californians looking to relocate to TX due to non existent state income tax and cheaper living. Thanks to California Governer Newsom in turning California to crap...

 

[bonesmahoney]

Wow, it seems like you guys know Tx like the back of your hand! I will do a bit more research into nashville, NO and Hou, rangermike.

Anyone have info in tennessee, south carolina or elsewhere?

btw, SF has a horrible reputation, I get that. The thing is, nightlife is not where it's at. You really want to socialize during the day whenever possible; obviously weekends are best, but the city is big enough so that socializing any time during the week can still be fun. Also, thursday nights were very, very good if you were into the college scene at all.

The social scene in SF is cliqueish (not in a bad way, it just is), day time activities/sports oriented and of course, relationship oriented. Basically, the social scene is a lot of fun UNTIL about 9 PM and then it just falls off a cliff in terms of quality.

There is an expansive nightlife, but the pickings are surprisingly uninspired: you'll have to look far and wide and spend inordinate time and energy if you focus solely on that.

 

[Velasco]

register an account over @ swooptheworld and browse their travel forum. Lot of the rooshvforum refugees (specifically the ones who'd travel to X country/city and then write a followup datasheet) ended up there.

 

[EyeBRollin]

If you like black girls -> Atlanta