Being Yourself?

[OhThatGuy]

Hey, longtime reader here, I've never posted but there is always great advice here. Anyway, to the point: I have no problem being myself around people... but then I realize that I am pretty damn awkward and goofy 90% of the time. I was just wondering what basic guidelines you guys follow to keep your cool, but still be fun and real around other people. Thanks.

 

[jglide123]

Many dating experts, Neil Strauss in particular, amended the dating adage "Just be yourself" to "Just be your BEST self," meaning working on yourself, improving yourself in different areas.

So in your case, work on remaining calm around girls and build your confidence (there are MANY different ways to build up confidence. Try actually googling the question for tips),. Also, associate with guys who are "naturals," guys who are good with and around women....

 

[yuppaz]

There are lots of different aspects of everyone, maybe start looking at being the best YOU in different ways. Besides the funny, light hearted you, what best you...um are you when something needs to get done, when you are reaching for a goal, when you are turned on by a woman etc. etc. etc. You aren't one dimentional, there are many facets of who you are. Explore them

 

[EvilAgenda]

Does it cause problems for you?