This belief is good in theory, but nearly impossible to put into practice.
How exactly do I stop caring about getting girls or not?
make yourself busy to the point where you don't have time to think about them.
if you have time to sit at home and philosophize about how to stop caring for girls, you have more going wrong, then not getting girls
Demonicale said:
If you guy's have NO INTREST in girls and are happy being single, then why are you on this website?.
This is a good albeit misinformed question. I will try my best to answer with my personal experience.
when i came here, and i have posted this numerous times in my 8 years here i did not come here, to get girls, i came here to get a girl. everyone here who has been here as long as i have knows who i am talking about lol.
after trying to find quick fixes to getting her, a line here, no contact, everything in the book that didn't work, i realized, that the problem wasn't that i could not get her, it was that i was obsessed with getting her in the first place.
and then i had to ask myself why am i so obsessed with her? well, becuase i had nothing else going on in my life.
so i got things going in my life and then, women aren't as important anymore.
in other words, this site, taught me the proper priority i should place on a woman in conjunction to my other priorities in life.
one thing i learned along the way, is that there are some absolute truths, that you have to fix and have to get right, if you want to be in control at all times.
One of those being, you must be able to be happy being alone. if you aren't, you will be ***** driven/whipped for your entire life. it's just that simple. every decision you make will have the cloud of 'well i don't want to be single" over it. that's no way to live a life.
this ****, isn't optional. that's what alot of people don't get here. this isn't an elective part of the DJ course. you MUST be able to be happy being single, and that usually requires, being single, for an elongated period of time, and learning to enjoy it.
i went 3 years being single, for various reasons i don't have time to get into, quite possibly the best thing i could have ever done for my game. between that time and the time I found my current fiancee the second a woman started pulling jive = bye bye. you aren't going to hold ***** over my head. and that type of attitude, only comes with the confidence of knowing you are going to be okay being single.
even now, if my girl threaten to walk out, i'd help her pack. love her to death, but i know, i will be okay. i also know i don't have a problem getting laid lol, but even if i knew it would be a while, that's fine.
As a mature man, I find women to be more and more of a distraction.
this is pure gold. dont' get me wrong, distractions aren't always bad. I like my ps3.
but like my ps3, women have their place.
my ps3, doesn't cut itself on and get *****y when I decide to watch boardwalk empire instead of play it. It doesn't feel apricated and to make up for it i should go buy the new nba2k11 game coming out so we can spend some time together.
my ps3, has it's place and time in my life.
think of a woman like a ps3. Until you are married, a good woman should be like a video game console. There when you are ready, not there when you aren't. I work, i don't have ****ing time to take you out 3 times a week.
even now, my fiancee pretty much is out of my way durning the day, i work from home and she doesn't work, might say 10 words to her during the day and she knows not to take it personally. mind you, you shuldbn't just be an ******* to your woman but you don't want them to be high maintence. if i come home, listen to how her day was and actually show guanine interest, nibble on her a little, she's good to go for the the avg day.
when i was starting my first business, right when it started to take off, i started spinning plates and i had this one plate, that i was really liking alot, who ended up in due time, being the only plate i was spinning..s he just out spun everyone else. but i had to let her drop a few times first. it took her a while to comprehend that, i'm not here for your every need and want and just because i am not doesn't mean i am out ****ing someone else (at least every time lol). everyday she would call me at 4:30 as that's when i went home, she would ask to come over i would say no, she would through the "we need to have a talk" every freaking day.. see today, i don't have time for that ****. today i would have hung up the phone on her and call blocked her number.
women are funny like that, at least some of the ones i met. they want a successful man, yet don't understand what makes him successful and want him to change. my fiancee knows if she likes living the way she lives, she needs to accept some **** lol. Amber did not comprehend this concept, she took me working late personally. these are the types of woman, who are a henderance to your progress as a man. as i eventually learned the hard way.
when you are a man, who is afraid of being single, you usually attract like wise from your female counterpart. like attracts like. she is clingy/needy and clingy/needy women, aren't conducive to you progressing as a person. I would much rather be single than be with the wrong woamn. ***** ain't that important.
i had a female friend, literary, just a friend i met in AA that we just clicked. even as friend, she was getting tot he point, where i basically... had a non sexual GF. she would get *****y when i did not want to ride with her to meetings, she started going to the gym with me, when i would go by myself she'd huff and puff..we went out to eat after a meeting one day (and yes my woman knew, wasn't nothing going to happen) and she had this look on her face, i was like what's up.. she said just trying to figure out what where our relationship is going... i said you know what, **** this. i have a woman, id don't need 2 and even if i did, i can't deal with someone this damn needy. it's 9pm on a wednesay i'm sitting in a pretty damn high end mexican resturant with a woman i'm not ****ing while my woman is sitting patiently at home for me, to hear talk about re accessing our relationship. some friends, event hough they bring good stuff to the table just aren't worth the hassle.
]i would recommend every guy here, try.. not try, go, a year without dating. not even attempting to date. just focus on you. it's building a foundation that will give you the inner game that you need for the rest of your life. yes it sucks now, but would you rather spend 1 year while you are 24, getting you right so that you have the mental capability to handle women when you are 42, or would you rather skip out and not lay the right ground work and be 42 years old, still in the same place you were when you were 24./
becuase one of the two will happen. it's no in between.
