JohnChops
Master Don Juan
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I went out on Saturday night with my buddy to some bar we've never heard of. Ended up just drinking, having a good time. I got bored and went up to the bartender and told her to put her number in my phone (lol copying vitally because I was curious). Said she had a BF but my approach was flawlessly direct, I thought so to. Did I get mad because I got turned down ? I turn to my buddy and said, "dayum dude that actually made me feel good to just go for it".
He looked at me as if I was insane because I got rejected. I didnt care. I used it to go meet some cool other people for that night who we ended up partying with for several ours after.
Where am I going with this?
I turned a negative into a positive. I feel like there is so much negativity in the world that people always get caught up in it but forget for every ying there is a yang, for every negative spin there is a positive side to it. If you keep thinking in a negative manner, you will always be a negative person.
"Oh no one texts me 24/7, I must be a loser"
"oh man this girl rejected me, im a total AFC wussy"
You get the picture.
Instead...
"Oh man I havent even had time to check my phone today because Ive been actually doing something useful with my life"
"that girl just missed out on the hottest dude she'll ever bang
"
Why the hell am I even making this post? Because I have fell into this negative trap for the past 1.5 weeks or so now, and I am not even sure why. But today I woke up and told myself, "God damn it I am going to get sh1t done today, everything will be positive and I will make moves in my favor".So thats exactly what I did, am doing, with today.
With having this negative mindset for the past 1.5 weeks, I noticed these few downsides:
1) girls aren't really as receptive and attracted to me as they usually are. I mean I get rejected like many of you, but never on a massive scale, usually its a 60/40 ratio for me, but lately its been more in favor of rejections.
2) I fell into a slump with my studying and other activities. This is what made me mad in the first place, I ended up just sitting at home and wallowing in self pitty but in reality I MUST get sh1t done. This negative mindset has prevented me from doing what I must do, that is a no no.
3) MY social skills SUCK D1CK. A week before this slump I was talking up everyone from hot girls to old men and ladies and just simply enjoying what other people have experienced and then sharing my opinions or similar experiencing or just simply listening. It was for the sake of being social, not for the sake of getting laid. It worked, it was great. This one I noticed right off the bat as well.
4) This one is just for me because I dont know how many of you are really into fitness but my physique looked like complete crap, washed out, flat, and just horrid as compared to what it usually is. Usually when this happens something traumatic haunts me and throws my hormones out of wack ( coritsol -__- ) so I end up looking like crap. It is true, if you feel good you WILL look good and portray yourself in that manner.
So at this point I am probably babling to much but I just wanted to point out how much a negative mindset can kill you on the outside and inside.
How to avoid the negative mindset?
1) Drop anyone in your life that causes you pain, agony or just extra stress.
Example- I have a huge entrance exam that I must study for, as I have been this whole summer, my now EX-GF kept asking me to hangout and wanted to stray me away from my studies. Every time I hung out with her it would HAVE to take up the whole day even though I never wanted it to. So at this point I told her im sorry but I have to break this off, I have more important things I need to focus on. You could imagine her face when I told her this but I guess she eventually understood.
2) Turn every negative into a positive.
Example- "I woke up late as hell today, sh1t the day is wasted!"
-Positive spin: " more rest = better focus for later when im studying, in the gym, and I can even stay up later now and be well rested!"
3) Do things that make you happy
If i have to explain this..... well then you need more help than what I can offer. I will say that we only live 1 life and its a short one so might as well throw yourself 100% into whatever you want to, whatever that may be.
This sounds like a good place to end this post. I just felt this stuff needed to be said, especially with all the negative people on here, I hope a newbie sees this and ends up not having such a negative and jaded mindset like some people here. Thanks for reading.
He looked at me as if I was insane because I got rejected. I didnt care. I used it to go meet some cool other people for that night who we ended up partying with for several ours after.
Where am I going with this?
I turned a negative into a positive. I feel like there is so much negativity in the world that people always get caught up in it but forget for every ying there is a yang, for every negative spin there is a positive side to it. If you keep thinking in a negative manner, you will always be a negative person.
"Oh no one texts me 24/7, I must be a loser"
"oh man this girl rejected me, im a total AFC wussy"
You get the picture.
Instead...
"Oh man I havent even had time to check my phone today because Ive been actually doing something useful with my life"
"that girl just missed out on the hottest dude she'll ever bang
" Why the hell am I even making this post? Because I have fell into this negative trap for the past 1.5 weeks or so now, and I am not even sure why. But today I woke up and told myself, "God damn it I am going to get sh1t done today, everything will be positive and I will make moves in my favor".So thats exactly what I did, am doing, with today.
With having this negative mindset for the past 1.5 weeks, I noticed these few downsides:
1) girls aren't really as receptive and attracted to me as they usually are. I mean I get rejected like many of you, but never on a massive scale, usually its a 60/40 ratio for me, but lately its been more in favor of rejections.
2) I fell into a slump with my studying and other activities. This is what made me mad in the first place, I ended up just sitting at home and wallowing in self pitty but in reality I MUST get sh1t done. This negative mindset has prevented me from doing what I must do, that is a no no.
3) MY social skills SUCK D1CK. A week before this slump I was talking up everyone from hot girls to old men and ladies and just simply enjoying what other people have experienced and then sharing my opinions or similar experiencing or just simply listening. It was for the sake of being social, not for the sake of getting laid. It worked, it was great. This one I noticed right off the bat as well.
4) This one is just for me because I dont know how many of you are really into fitness but my physique looked like complete crap, washed out, flat, and just horrid as compared to what it usually is. Usually when this happens something traumatic haunts me and throws my hormones out of wack ( coritsol -__- ) so I end up looking like crap. It is true, if you feel good you WILL look good and portray yourself in that manner.
So at this point I am probably babling to much but I just wanted to point out how much a negative mindset can kill you on the outside and inside.
How to avoid the negative mindset?
1) Drop anyone in your life that causes you pain, agony or just extra stress.
Example- I have a huge entrance exam that I must study for, as I have been this whole summer, my now EX-GF kept asking me to hangout and wanted to stray me away from my studies. Every time I hung out with her it would HAVE to take up the whole day even though I never wanted it to. So at this point I told her im sorry but I have to break this off, I have more important things I need to focus on. You could imagine her face when I told her this but I guess she eventually understood.
2) Turn every negative into a positive.
Example- "I woke up late as hell today, sh1t the day is wasted!"
-Positive spin: " more rest = better focus for later when im studying, in the gym, and I can even stay up later now and be well rested!"
3) Do things that make you happy
If i have to explain this..... well then you need more help than what I can offer. I will say that we only live 1 life and its a short one so might as well throw yourself 100% into whatever you want to, whatever that may be.
This sounds like a good place to end this post. I just felt this stuff needed to be said, especially with all the negative people on here, I hope a newbie sees this and ends up not having such a negative and jaded mindset like some people here. Thanks for reading.