Being "one of the girls"

[masterp]

Hey all,

Have any of you been in the situation where you have a network of close female friends who innevitably end up thinking of you as one of the girls?

I personally do not find this a huge problem because it can be nice to have a database of what these women think because I have no plans to hit on any of them or have relationships with them. It's funny how some women will take you under their wing and tell you their secrets when there's no sexual or romantic attraction.

But I'm thinking it would also be cool to unknowingly (to them) try some of the DJ principles on these female friends as a litmus test, without of course initiating anything that would threaten the friendships. You know, just to see how their perception of me would change if I applied a few DJ skills.

So I guess among other things, I'm asking whether trying even the simpler DJ priciples on your existing female friends is worth it, or trouble that should only be tested on those you can walk away from if they backfire?

 

[Caveman]

Like you said: Don't initiate anything that could be harmful to the friendship. At least not until you are ready to give it up..

Having friends like these might be good if they let you in on their secrets. However, keep your eyes open at all times because sometimes girls really don't have a clue what they're on about. Just be careful not to be put back into the afc mindset because these girls think you should do something romantic for your g/f and talk to her on the phone and stuff like that. No matter what they tell you: Be your own man and think about their advices twice before applying them.

 

[fillme]

I practice DJ principles/ kinos on them all the time. They can be good social approval too.

 

[JSH]

As the post title said "being one of the girls", this is a bad thing, this means that your sexuality has been neutralised by them. Whilst having close female friends (i dont have any) does not seem to me to have any objections, being one of the girls is not good. This means that when you are out with them as social proof, other girls pick up in the way they treat you as another girl, turning them off you. This acts as a very effective pvssyblock, so sometiems they will assume you are gay.

Sure hang out with them, but BE A MAN, show your sexuality, bust on them, tease them, flirt with them, do not remain "one of the girls" as this will help to kill your rep when you are out with them.

 

[masterp]

Originally posted by JSH
Sure hang out with them, but BE A MAN, show your sexuality, bust on them, tease them, flirt with them, do not remain "one of the girls" as this will help to kill your rep when you are out with them. [/B]

That is exactly what I was thinking with my original post. Thanks for the replies.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Men don't 'hang out' with women unless he has other males along - never be the only male in the group - In the 1970's during my high school years only homos kept company with women!!! How men have changed for the worst in one generation!!!!

 

[TyTe`EyEs]

PuertoRican_Lover, things haven't changed that much. From what I've seen, dudes who hang out with all girls are generally queers.

 

[masterp]

Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
Men don't 'hanh out' with women unless he has other males along - never be the only male in the group

I have a number of female friends but I never said I hang out with more than one at a time (unless it was a social gathering in which case I would mix with the guys and girls). Sorry if I implied otherwise. Queer = not me. I mainly just take a female friend out to lunch or talk on the phone. I don't go clothes shopping or some crap!

 

[NRM]

If you're hanging out with them just one at a time, I don't see a problem with anything. But, if you're hanging out with them just one at a time... why are they considering you "one of the girls?"

I'd understand if it was multiple girls, but if I hung out with one girl and she considered me "one of the girls" I'd fucking bail wondering what was up in her mind. You're a guy, act like one. They should not consider your one of the girls.

You can initiate your DJ principles on any girl, friend or regardless. Especially since DJ principles are mostly to just make you look and feel better and make them want you more.

But if you're already one of the girls, I don't know if they'll start seeing you as a man just because you start neglecting a few of their calls.

 

[Ice Cold]

Do the litmus and test them... umm... where do you dip the paper?

I wouldn't advise on hitting on them directly

Make them think of you romantically:
Hit on other girls in front of them
Cheek kiss other girls in front of them
Hug other girls...
Tell them about your date with a girl (keeping your DJ mindset to yourself)
Ask them to help you figure out a girl
Don't hang with them for too long

If you do this checklist, they're gonna rape you

 

[masterp]

Originally posted by Ice Cold
Do the litmus and test them... umm... where do you dip the paper?

I wouldn't advise on hitting on them directly

Make them think of you romantically:
Hit on other girls in front of them
Cheek kiss other girls in front of them
Hug other girls...
Tell them about your date with a girl (keeping your DJ mindset to yourself)
Ask them to help you figure out a girl
Don't hang with them for too long

If you do this checklist, they're gonna rape you

Haha. Gold medal post. Thanks!

 

[Dirtheart]

Majority of my friends are females and I actually prefer their company and the deep conversations that I never get from my male friends.

A number of them have shown an interest in me and some are very AFC, so I can't say it has taken anything away from my sexuality. In fact, one of my male friends recently asked me if I was aware how many of these women appear "star-struck" by me.

I think female friends can be detrimental if you want more from them, but otherwise I don't see any harm. There's a lot you can learn from them and I'm always picking up great fashion and dating advice from them.

 

[dietzcoi]

I can't stand it!

"The main DJ board has gone SOUTH!"

"ONE OF THE GIRLS!"???????????????

Anybody who thinks this is OK is a screw ball

PR_L : Give up trying to help these chumps!

Dirtheart: I have had a lot of respect for a lot of your postings, but your comment on "deep conversations" with these biatches is astounding! Strange that attention hors claim to only want male friends because they cannot have "deep conversations" with other women, only men! WTF?!?!

Dietzcoi

 

[CLOONEY]

haha yeah, I have heard of girls calling themselves "one of the boys", but never the other way around............r u sure your ok?

 

[Dirtheart]

Dirtheart: I have had a lot of respect for a lot of your postings, but your comment on "deep conversations" with these biatches is astounding! Strange that attention hors claim to only want male friends because they cannot have "deep conversations" with other women, only men! WTF?!?!

Well, the way I see it is that when women are together they discuss girly topics and when men are together they talk about male topics. But I find with friends of the opposite sex we make more effort to find middle ground and discuss whatever interests us as individuals.

And when I'm with a group of female (platonic) friends I don't feel the need to act macho or suave, but at the same time I never let myself become one of the girls. I'm constantly teasing them all and turning up the C+F, and they love it. I don't see them as practice; they just bring out my natural confidence and sense of humour.