Being laid back

[TDH]

I see a lot of ppl who post about not giving a **** but I'm one of those guys who really doesnt I'm naturally laid back and women do like it honestly but my question is how does a laid back dude approach women successfully like in the mall or on the street? Because I usually find out women like me after the fact but when i approach...no love

 

[SeymourCake]

You can be laid back and not give a f*ck.

 

[TDH]

Oh I know what I'm saying is when I'm talking to them there usually nervous because how mellow I am or I talk to them real hyped up and that's not how I am

 

[DonJuanabe]

You can be laid back but still be assertive and take action. Being laid back is defined by your attitude more than your behavior per se. Being laid back would mean you ask a girl out and if she says no you are cool with it and look for another girl. Not being laid back would mean you ask a girl out and if she says no you ask her why and start supplicating.

Speaking for myself, I am never nervous on dates, even first dates. No anxiety, no nervousness, and every date is pretty much rambling and bantering about whatever. The girl might not be attracted to me, but the date will be positive and not a freaking interview. To me that is being laid back, despite the fact that I get the girl to laugh and I can be animated.

Don't take being laid back to the extreme of being LAZY or LAME.

 

[TDH]

Thanks man I might have just been lazy cuz im sure not lame lol

 

[Sofomore]

Hey man it's all about active disinterest. You don't need her, but you are going to be active about seeing if she wants some.


Download this pdf and search for "active disinterest", should be what youre looking for.

www.artofapproaching.com/download/main/ArtofApproaching.pdf