Being interesting on the first date

[idkwhatever]

Alright, so you've gotten a girl to go out, or hang out, with you.. But if you're anything like me, or like I used to be, you might have some problems with being interesting or different than other guys. I used to have some trouble with the conversation part - like if the girl didnt contribute a good deal to the convo it would end up with boring topics and just plane questions like "what do you study?" type of things. After a lot of trial and error I've found something that works good for me, creates good rapport, gets me laid and make the girls say sh1t to me like (not to brag or anything) "you're so deep", "This is the best date I've ever been on", and most of them want to hang out again.
There are sort of two "main ways" that i do it, but I'll try to lay it out as orderly as I can.

Okay, so first off - It starts out with either clearly being a date, or its more like an innocent hangout. I'll begin with the clear date one...


Clear date:

1. - Be very determined when you tell her its a date

Being determined when you ask her out is probably very obvious for most of you, but for those of you who doesn't know this - when you act kind of bold and tell her straight forward in a determined way with authority, you ooze with confidence, which she will notice. This, I find, increases the chances of her saying yes.

2. - Take her on an action date

I've read somewhere in here that "action dates", like skydiving for example, is something that will make her take more of an interest in you and you're less likely to be boring. First of all, its not just way more fun than taking her to go see a movie or get dinner, but you get her out of her comfort zone and make her associate all the thrills she has with you.
But you're probably not rich and dont want to spend hundreds of dollars on skydiving just to maybe get laid. There are hundreds of other ideas you can use. Be creative and use your interest and talents here. What are you good at? I, personally, are alright at golf. Or at least good with a driver.

I can use the example of how I took a girl out on an action date the first time (this was with a tinder chick, she was maybe a 7.5-8).
She was one of those political girls with socialistic ideals, so I asked her "Lets go hit golfballs on rich peoples houses, and the first one to break a window gets a free dinner from the other". Obviously she had never done anything like that before, so she was like "For real?? Yeah lets do it!".
Fast forward to the date - I picked her up and we drove to the top of a large field with view over the whole city and hit golfballs (not actually on houses, but there were houses on the bottom of the field). She had never golfed before so I had to show her how to hold the club and how to swing. KINO!! I stood behind her and touched her alot, and also told her she smelled good. Everything went smoother then expected, and we both had a great time.

3. - Conversation
Article "36 questions that make strangers fall in love". Link: http://www.nytimes.com/2015/01/11/fashion/no-37-big-wedding-or-small.html?_r=0

So I found this article with 36 questions that supposedly makes strangers fall in love. I've yet to experience an immediate crush after these questions, but they work good for building or strengthening rapport, get the conversation flowing and make you interesting.
It contains questions like "Would you like to be famous? In what way?" and "Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items." which makes for deep topics and breaking the ice.

I bring these questions up randomly and say something like "Hey, I found this article yesterday with 36 questions thats supposed to make strangers fall in love, wanna try them?". I have never gotten a no to this. Then I have the questions as screenshots on my phone and get her to read them out loud, or at least the first of them. We talk, we laugh, deep convos and so on.

4. - Closing

Im not really sure about how I close, its more of a gut feeling or instincts that determines this. after these sort of dates I usually drop off the girl at home and we end up sleeping together later, if we stay in touch (mostly we do). But with the tinder girl, I just asked if she wanted to see my room, which had pretty obvious intentions. She agreed and we had sex, haha.


Innocent hangout:

1. - Show her sh1t and tell stories

This also works great for conversations. Im from a sort of small town, and a lot of the girls I go out with are not from there, so after I ask her if she wants to go for a drive or go buy some food or whatever, I take her on a drive around town and show her all the most important landmarks, like the soccerstadium, beach, views, where my friends live if we happen to drive by their house etc. And when I do this I remember all sorts of stories from the various places (I've read that places are one of the strongest memory anchors, and they do bring back a lot of memories), and I just tell her the funny or crazy stories I remember as we go along. This also puts me in a sort of leader role. I lead the convo, I take her everywhere and so on, and she listens and laughs and end up telling me som stories too. I also ask here sh1t about her and try to bring some kino in wherever I can.

2. - The 36 questions

So again I bring up these questions, ask her if she wants to try the "36 questions thats supposed to make strengers fall in love", and after a few of these questions I say something like "so is this a good date?", and from hereon out she knows this is a date and not a friend-hangout. And then I try to close like I do on clear dates.



So I hope you guys find this useful, and that I didn't present it all like a mess. What are your thoughts?

 

[marmel75]

Sometimes I think people worry too much about how to be interesting and fun and not enough on how to express sexuality and escalate properly.

There is a fine line but I'd much rather it be fun flirty conversation than asking her interview questions...touching, smelling, running fingers through her hair, etc...

Darts is usually the action part of the date for me, gives me an opportunity to flirt with them, touch them, "distract" them if they are doing too well, accuse them of looking at my ass if I have to bend down and grab a dart, etc...

then back to where we were at and the star of making out, etc...

Be interesting, but more than that be sexual.

 

[JohnChops]

Skydiving on a first date , gonna pass on that one.

 

[blind_one]

Gonna go with Espi on that one. Just let her talk and gather information/screen. Nod, smile and actually listen, with every sentence she tells there is a question you can ask just to keep the conversation going.

 

[RangerMIke]

Wrong mindset. Do whatever makes you happy and invite her along. Some will say 'Don't spend money." But if that is who you are and what you do, then do that. Just don't spend money to impress her. When you have opportunity to talk... just shut your mouth and let her do all the talking. Learn as much about her as you can and pay attention to what she is saying. You have to adopt the attitude that SHE is the one that has to prove herself to you, not the other way around.

The narcissist - Will not like this, and act like an @ss because she thinks she is the prize, she is not.... she is just another girl.

The princess -- Will not like this, and act like an @ss because you are not doing what SHE wants.

The victim -- Won't mind, but all she will talk about is how she is weak and needs help.

The normal women -- Will be nice, not complain, and talk about fun stuff.

You are an idiot if you run across one of the first three and go out on a second date with them.

 

[Glassguy]

A woman will tell you everything you want to know (good and bad) if you just smile, laugh, ask a few questions.....just enough to keep the convo going.

I've yet to meet a chick that didn't like to talk about herself and was smart enough to not tell you things they shouldn't.

 

[RangerMIke]

A woman will tell you everything you want to know (good and bad) if you just smile, laugh, ask a few questions.....just enough to keep the convo going.

I've yet to meet a chick that didn't like to talk about herself and was smart enough to not tell you things they shouldn't.

This is actually a great way to learn if a woman really likes you... if she starts bragging about herself... it doesn't really have to be anything you might think is impressive, but something that is, in a way, impressive to someone, it means she is selling herself to you and likes you. When you fist meet a woman and she starts doing this you MUST acknowledge that it is something note worthy, if you don't then she will not think she has earned your attraction.

The key here is to listen for anything that just comes fvcking flying out of left field. You might be talking about shoes, and then out of no where she says, "Did I tell you I own my own company?" She cold be selling Amway Products, but if you want to get with her you have to acknowledge this is a positive way somehow. You will know you done this right when she lights up a little bit.

Too many men just do not know when to shut the fvck up... listen and learn.

 

[Glassguy]

Not only that Ranger, but they will also tell you all sorts of things that you dont need to know early on. Crazy relationships, daddy issues, fetishes....heck I had one woman on a first date talking non stop about her career and in the midst of boring me to death she stopped, looked right in my eyes and said "I want to fvck you really bad right now". We got the check and left. That was our only "date" btw.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Not only that Ranger, but they will also tell you all sorts of things that you dont need to know early on. Crazy relationships, daddy issues, fetishes....heck I had one woman on a first date talking non stop about her career and in the midst of boring me to death she stopped, looked right in my eyes and said "I want to fvck you really bad right now". We got the check and left. That was our only "date" btw.

I think most of the time when they end up telling you a lot of personal stuff early that you are into her headspace and you can consummate rather quickly. And you saw that for yourself. I'm sure you just kept her talking and didnt' say much.

 

[Glassguy]

For sure. I don't even act happy go lucky. More of a look of "I'm going to dominate you later" with some smirks mixed in, just enough talking on my end to keep her information spreader (mouth) going.

Women will realize quickly that you don't act like other beta guys.....that you see what you want and you're going to get it. They see the alpha traits and melt while spilling their guts.