being cute a bad thing

Mr. Delicious

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I am 21 years old and it seems everytime I go on a date or meet a girl and even ex girlfriends they always say i am cute. I have a young face where I could probably pass off as a highschooler (young face, 5'8, thin). The problem is i never hear that i am hot or anything else. I cant remember where i read this but somewhere a while back i read this article that said that a girl saying your cute is a nice way of saying they arent really attracted to you. I think i am a decent looking guy but is this true. If so i wonder why even my ex girlfriends used to say I was cute? :confused:
 

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I have the same problem, dude. Total Babyface and I have a bit of a complex about it. I think "cute" isn't necessarily a bad thing though. It depends on her tone when she says it.

There's "hmmm-I-could-totally-jump-your-bones-" cute

And then there's "awwww, you are so pwecious" cute

You can almost hear the difference in the way they pronounce the word too.

"Your Ceeeyute!" or "Hey Cutie!" = ;)
"You are so cute." = :mad: grrrrrrrr!!!

It would be awesome to get the female perspective here, since my experience is limited. Iqqi? tamales? Mystery Bytch? Care to enlighten us?
 

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Guys, this is no problem that you can't handle.

I used to get this all the time. I acted goofy, and childlike, and girls would always say I was "so cute."

Is that GOOD? No, but it is not BAD.

If you were UGLY (that is, you do not meet the criteria for sex), you would not even be called "cute". I think the problem is you have a young face, and you may be acting childish now and then. No big deal. Just keep on the track to becoming a man.

Girls are strange in the fact that they like BOTH masculine AND feminine looks. You probably look a little feminine (as do I), so you MUST have that masculinity in your attitude. (The masculine looking guys can act cutsey and still have chicks wet their pants, but what ya gonna do?)
 

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yeah i agree with LOGIC.

Its all in the tone. I would say i hear the keeeyute more often then the awwwwww...

But i also hear the yea hes cute..in a monotone..its like they say it just to be nice..so you'll go home and rejoice that a woman thought you were attractive lol.


HOWEVER..it can sometimes be confusing or whatever..its better than haveing a girl say your ugly as hell.
 

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People call me 'baby' cute too, and I've realised that by judging by my looks alone, people always have the tendency to think that I'm less 'macho' or 'sex material'. Definetely differs with different types of women though.

But generally thats how I perceive the way chicks look at baby faces.
 

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DJlogic seems to have a pretty good handle on the various sorts of "cute". There's attractive cute, and baby cute... good cute and bad cute. I've gotten "cute" all my life, as I've gotten older it's gone to a sort of "hot" that's applied to men as they get towards middle age... I honestly don't know what this is quantified into, though. Cheer up: most "hotness" goes out of a person as they get older, and hot guys lose their looks... being "cute" means you're attractive forever.

And why is this?

Because "cute" is usually the term women apply to guys whose best attribute is their eyes. Your eyes don't lose their shape, or color... they're there forever. Guys with the naturally great bods get "hot". To stay "hot" means you gotta watch what you eat and work out a lot. So we "cuties" have at least one advantage over the hot guys, even though we get fewer spontaneous lap dances at bars. It's a trade off.

My recommendations are obvious. Practice your smile so it includes your eyes. Practice your eye contact. Eye contact is the key anyway, but if you have nice eyes then women will be paying even more attention to them. Learn to make your eyes expressive: like look gentle, tough, kind, disaffected, caring, concerned, etc.

I've been told by women that my eyes are killers... some of the best they've seen... I always use this to my advantage :D
 

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stuartSan, of course you get "baby cute" all the time .. you ARE only 2 years old after all! :p

MDgood makes a great point here. Cute guys age very well. All of my uncles look ten years younger than they are and my grandpa was still macking at age 80! (God rest his horny soul)

So I guess we should all take heart here. When all of our "hot" friends develop pot bellies and sagging features, we will still be getting carded at clubs! :D
 

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thats strange you said that because all the girls I have known always say my eyes are my best physical feature. The other one said my smile. :) Do any ladies have opinions on this?
 

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I also used to get cute all the time until I well, just mastered and became more confident with being cute and sexy. Now I am far more sexy but not in a slutty way. Confidence, is the key honey. I can't just can't express this enough nor can I explain it! You'll know when you finally feel good, and content in your own skin and that is more powerful than any boob job, or maxim babe on the planet....

ANd hey, guys cute is better than butt ugly, dork or loser.... and well your post has too many grey areas. But hell, no matter if you are cute, even boyish, got your game on and know some DJ moves, in my book you're dangerous!!! Very.

Just don't wear madris pants, look like archie and have a hair do like Alfalfa's. Work with what you have but don't obsess on those things you don't have rather concentrate on those terrific traits God gave you. We are all different and no one person on the planet is the same. I think that is very cool. AMazing actually. So think about that, seriously.

And be a man! A real man. Not a jerk but a confident, sexy, smart and I know what I want, I am gonna get it sort of man. And nothing will stop me. OKay, also not a rapist or wacko:) I mean be strong but not crazy.. Or stalker for heaven's sake.

In my book if you are a man with a plan, no matter how boyish your face is you WILL score. A man with a plan who isn't afraid to go after what he wants, bust a move and well, say what he wants like he expects to get it is golden.

Just act the act and talk the walk and you'll convince woman that you ain't just another pretty boy face. ANd in doing that you will also work on convincing yourself. Just pretend if you have to. It sinks in especially, after being hurt one too many times. I mean you get to the point where you either die in misery or get it together and everyone on here can get it together. I mean we have this site and eachother and you have you. NOt to sound sappy but really. Quite complaining. Boysigh faces, pleazzzze. You should have so many problems. Rolling my eyes, and they are big and blue!


But again, pretty or boyish is better than butt ugly any day so be grateful and chances are as you age you will get better looking with a good foundation. Hell, even ugly guys can be DJ's.

How many times does it have to be said on this friggen site. It's not just looks but attitude and personality. If you got that down you will score. Not matter what!

Enough already.
 
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You heard her fellas..Basically being cute and having a set of balls is a winning combo.

Thanks for the input tamales and thanks to all on this thread, I feel alot better about my cute "problem" now :)
 

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pay no mind to the exes. Their word is useless if you don't have relations with any of em. Its the new ladies that you should focus on as far as gauging how "cute" is used.
 

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I get called both, pretty much evenly.... Why the hell is this? I always just assumed the two were interchangeable, but I guess I am wrong. Ohh well, it's not a big deal to me anyway. I think I would rather be cute...
 

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hit the weights, go to the taning bed, learn how to shake your loins at the club. you won't be baby cute anymore.
 

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Just act the act and talk the walk and you'll convince woman that you ain't just another pretty boy face. ANd in doing that you will also work on convincing yourself. Just pretend if you have to. It sinks in especially, after being hurt one too many times. I mean you get to the point where you either die in misery or get it together and everyone on here can get it together. I mean we have this site and eachother and you have you. NOt to sound sappy but really. Quite complaining. Boysigh faces, pleazzzze. You should have so many problems. Rolling my eyes, and they are big and blue!
Momma Said Knock You Out!
 

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On the plus side, if you have a "Baby face" you'll look younger even when you're older and you should be able to pull the younger slims.
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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I have the same problem mate, i'm 24 but still have trouble getting into nightclubs!, i posted something not long ago about this and i concluded that being called 'cute' is a very big plus in my book!

don't worry about it mate, just get on with your game and you should be fine.
 

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Cute, hmm, never been called cute, but I'm a tall pretty muscly shaved headed guy like Vin Diesel/Billy Zane in Zoolander, so I scare the crap out of little old ladies on the bus, I get I'm a 'cool guy' a lot or maybe hot once in a while but never had cute.

If you want to lose some cuteness work out at the gym, though I think cute is good, as long as it's not nice guy cute, in which case all bad, almost as bad a being called 'nice' *shudder*.
 

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Depends upon the context.

If she squeezes your cheek while saying it you might as well be a teddy bear, cause you'll be getting about as much sex from her as her stuffed animal collection.

Just a couple of examples-

My last LTR had a thing for me before we got together and told a mutual friend that I was a "cutie patootie" or something like that. You wouldn't think that would be good, but it certainly wasn't long after that I had her in the sack. (or should I say, she had me in the sack)

Last weekend one of my friends was dancing with a chick at the club, and he leans over and tells me "close the deal", referring to the girl I was dancing with. So his chick looks over at mine and says, "he's CUTE!" My girl says, "I KNOW!" This situation hasn't played out completely, but lets put it this way....I'm in GOOD with this one.

So it totally depends. If she's referring to your LOOKS chances are she's into you. If she's talking about your demeanor, she may be less interested.
 

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Originally posted by STR8UP
So it totally depends. If she's referring to your LOOKS chances are she's into you. If she's talking about your demeanor, she may be less interested.
I think you are correct! Ding, ding, ding!

Looking cute is good, but acting cute is bad. Good observation!
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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