So I have been hanging out with a 8.5 for a year. She has shown zero interest in me (I never made a move on her but I also got some very clear indications of no interest), but I figured hanging out with her gave me good practice in how to interact with attractive women. She also insists on buying me drinks, meals etc when we go out, and I even *gasp* enjoy her company so I was happy to be buds with her.
Anyway, since she insisted on treating me like a brother, I figured it was only fair I do the same, so I regularly teased her whenever we were out in public, like I would my little nieces. This seemed to do wonders for social proof if nothing else, as for some reason other women seemed to find it really attractive for some reason that I am willing to mock a hot girl (using humor of course) in public.
She seemed ok with it until yesterday, when we were at a three day self-development conference (that she got me free tickets to :yes: ). She suddenly blew up at me and said she did not like it when I made fun of her in public, said I was only making a fool out of myself not her etc. To be honest, I was not expecting it so I did the first thing that came to my head; I smirked and said "it took you long enough to stand up to me". She then walked off, and I wandered off to do my own thing, rather then following her (which I figured was the sort of behaviour she expects from guys when she acts upset). When it came to the next seminar, she came looking for me and sat next to me again, and was extra-nice (she even bought me some flowers to take to my mum, as she knew I was having dinner with her that evening). Afterwards, she kept on asking whether I had been teasing her on purpose to teach her to be more assertive, and even thanked me before I left.
So I am trying to work out what I should learn from that encounter, and thought I would throw some questions to you guys. Please keep in mind I am not actively trying to DJ this girl (although I have learnt that if you hang out with lots of girls, you would be surprised what happens!) but I am trying to make sure I act like a proper DJ would in unexpected situations, which I feel :
1. Was my response appropriate or AFC-ish?
2. Are there any other responses that would have been more appropriate?
3. Are such attempts at assertion a ****-test by women?
4. Is there ever an occasion when one should apologise to a woman? I found in general that it seems to make women preceive you as being weak, but is that correct?
Anyway, since she insisted on treating me like a brother, I figured it was only fair I do the same, so I regularly teased her whenever we were out in public, like I would my little nieces. This seemed to do wonders for social proof if nothing else, as for some reason other women seemed to find it really attractive for some reason that I am willing to mock a hot girl (using humor of course) in public.
She seemed ok with it until yesterday, when we were at a three day self-development conference (that she got me free tickets to :yes: ). She suddenly blew up at me and said she did not like it when I made fun of her in public, said I was only making a fool out of myself not her etc. To be honest, I was not expecting it so I did the first thing that came to my head; I smirked and said "it took you long enough to stand up to me". She then walked off, and I wandered off to do my own thing, rather then following her (which I figured was the sort of behaviour she expects from guys when she acts upset). When it came to the next seminar, she came looking for me and sat next to me again, and was extra-nice (she even bought me some flowers to take to my mum, as she knew I was having dinner with her that evening). Afterwards, she kept on asking whether I had been teasing her on purpose to teach her to be more assertive, and even thanked me before I left.
So I am trying to work out what I should learn from that encounter, and thought I would throw some questions to you guys. Please keep in mind I am not actively trying to DJ this girl (although I have learnt that if you hang out with lots of girls, you would be surprised what happens!) but I am trying to make sure I act like a proper DJ would in unexpected situations, which I feel :
1. Was my response appropriate or AFC-ish?
2. Are there any other responses that would have been more appropriate?
3. Are such attempts at assertion a ****-test by women?
4. Is there ever an occasion when one should apologise to a woman? I found in general that it seems to make women preceive you as being weak, but is that correct?
