Being accused of being gay.

[Alex DeLarge]

Lately, a lot of my friends are beginning to think I'm gay just because they know I'm a virgin. But they also know I've dated a lot of chicks (since i found this website, but they don't know that). I think some of the girls who I dated who they also know might have suggested this to them? Maybe not. But I guess I can see where they're coming from.

I remember the first time a girl wanted to have sex with me I was 19. She gave me my first BJ and I came from it. A few nights later she wanted to fvck, but I was kind of nervous, and I didn't want to lose my V-card to someone I didn't care about.

Well she gave me a BJ and I got a hard-on, but then I went to put the condom on and I became soft. (I also put it on inside out lol. rookie mistake I guess?) She then suggested "Maybe we shouldn't" and I said "Yeah, let's just give it some time.. I want to get to know you better".. Well I never heard from that girl again.

After a long dry spell of about 2 years, I met another girl.. We kissed a few times and I got to second base with her, but then on the third date she told me she had herpes, so I dumped her. I felt bad about it, but I had to keep myself safe from that.

2 months later, after learning about the PUAs.. I pulled off my first pick up. I was 21 and the girl was 25. She looked kind of like Zooey Deschanel but with bigger hips which I loved. Got her number and went on a few dates. She seemed really into me which was cool. We went back to her place on the 3rd date and she began to blow me. I was rock hard when she pulled my pants off, but after she started blowing me I went soft. We fell asleep together, I left the next morning, she texted me a few times and suggested we met up 4 days after, but she blew me off and we never spoke again.

A few weeks after this girl, I added a chick on facebook. Same pattern.. She was really into me after a few dates, then when she started to blow me I went soft. She tried 3 different times and my d1ck just wouldn't work. After about a month, I dumped her because I could see that she lost a lot of interest.

3 months later I met a really awesome girl. Same pattern, except she was into me even more than the last two. She seemed like a real sweetheart. Then same fvcking thing.. I went soft while she blew me. She didn't seem too disinterested after this happened, but I developed some anxiety off the experience from the past and was being real needy with her.. So she dumped me.

Now I've shared these experiences with a few close friends and they always give me sh1t for not fvcking the girls. Lately a few have been saying I'm probably gay, even though I know I'm not gay. I even tried looking at gay p0rn one night to see if I'd become aroused, thinking that maybe I was just suppressing it all and I didn't.

Any suggestions as to why this is happening? I thought about a few things it could be from..

-watching p0rn, but the first time I got a BJ and busted I looked at just as much p0rn (I stopped recently too btw).
-performance anxiety, especially knowing that I am still a virgin.. Maybe I'm just afraid I'm going to fvck up the process of having sex.
-not getting with girls I find attractive, this doesn't make sense to me cause I wouldn't have talked to them in the first place if I didn't wanna fvck them.

I'm not really pissed about my friends thinking I'm gay. I know I'm not, but it's just aggravating when I've had so many shots at losing my V-card and I haven't taken any of them. I'm starting to think it's just p0rn and that I should stop watching it and stop jerkin all together.

Anyone else have this problem?

 

[Mike32ct]

Lately, a lot of my friends are beginning to think I'm gay just because they know I'm a virgin. But they also know I've dated a lot of chicks (since i found this website, but they don't know that). I think some of the girls who I dated who they also know might have suggested this to them? Maybe not. But I guess I can see where they're coming from.

I remember the first time a girl wanted to have sex with me I was 19. She gave me my first BJ and I came from it. A few nights later she wanted to fvck, but I was kind of nervous, and I didn't want to lose my V-card to someone I didn't care about.

Well she gave me a BJ and I got a hard-on, but then I went to put the condom on and I became soft. (I also put it on inside out lol. rookie mistake I guess?) She then suggested "Maybe we shouldn't" and I said "Yeah, let's just give it some time.. I want to get to know you better".. Well I never heard from that girl again.

My first attempt was like that too. I had performance anxiety and couldn't do it. The girl never spoke to me again.

After a long dry spell of about 2 years, I met another girl.. We kissed a few times and I got to second base with her, but then on the third date she told me she had herpes, so I dumped her. I felt bad about it, but I had to keep myself safe from that.

Smart move.

2 months later, after learning about the PUAs.. I pulled off my first pick up. I was 21 and the girl was 25. She looked kind of like Zooey Deschanel but with bigger hips which I loved. Got her number and went on a few dates. She seemed really into me which was cool. We went back to her place on the 3rd date and she began to blow me. I was rock hard when she pulled my pants off, but after she started blowing me I went soft. We fell asleep together, I left the next morning, she texted me a few times and suggested we met up 4 days after, but she blew me off and we never spoke again.

If you fall asleep together, try again in the morning. Morning wood has its benefits lol.

A few weeks after this girl, I added a chick on facebook. Same pattern.. She was really into me after a few dates, then when she started to blow me I went soft. She tried 3 different times and my d1ck just wouldn't work. After about a month, I dumped her because I could see that she lost a lot of interest.

I'm not a fan of bl*wjobs as a method to get hard. Honestly, I've never had that work.

Make out, take off her shirt, suck her boobs, etc. Continue fooling around. When you are both stripped down to your underwear, grind or dry hump her aggressively right against her slit. It can get you rock hard and get her extremely wet because she knows there is only a little fabric preventing you from slipping it in. Whisper "Are you ready?" LMR should be non-existent at that point. She'll say yes. Peel the remaining clothing off, put the condom on quick, grip your junk firmly with your first to keep it firm, and work it in.

3 months later I met a really awesome girl. Same pattern, except she was into me even more than the last two. She seemed like a real sweetheart. Then same fvcking thing.. I went soft while she blew me. She didn't seem too disinterested after this happened, but I developed some anxiety off the experience from the past and was being real needy with her.. So she dumped me.

Skip the BJ and grind her as I mentioned before. BJs don't work for every guy. Some guys swear by then and really enjoy them. They don't work for me. They probably don't work for you either.

Now I've shared these experiences with a few close friends and they always give me sh1t for not fvcking the girls. Lately a few have been saying I'm probably gay, even though I know I'm not gay. I even tried looking at gay p0rn one night to see if I'd become aroused, thinking that maybe I was just suppressing it all and I didn't.

You don't need to CHECK. Trust me, you would know if you were gay.

Any suggestions as to why this is happening? I thought about a few things it could be from..

-watching p0rn, but the first time I got a BJ and busted I looked at just as much p0rn (I stopped recently too btw).

Too much porn distorts your reality. Too much whacking off trains you to respond to your hand only. Other means involving a girl can then fail.

-performance anxiety, especially knowing that I am still a virgin.. Maybe I'm just afraid I'm going to fvck up the process of having sex.

No question that is a factor.

-not getting with girls I find attractive, this doesn't make sense to me cause I wouldn't have talked to them in the first place if I didn't wanna fvck them.

Sure it's easier to get turned on for hottie, but as long as she isn't a fattie, this shouldn't be much of a problem.

Do you exercise? Some aggressive cardio and/or weight lifting can really get the blood flowing. Combine that with not masturbating and within two weeks, you should be able to put it through a wall lol.

I'm not really pissed about my friends thinking I'm gay. I know I'm not, but it's just aggravating when I've had so many shots at losing my V-card and I haven't taken any of them. I'm starting to think it's just p0rn and that I should stop watching it and stop jerkin all together.

Yes get rid of both. Your body is too conditioned to porn. I bet you get rock hard in front of the computer, so you are physically able to perform. Let that energy build up so you can use it on a real chick.

Anyone else have this problem?

All of the above. The performance anxiety and failure to perform sure. Being called gay...yeah more than a few times lol.

 

[I'm in the Mood]

Aw, screw that labeling sh!t. Dudes are just jealous. You need a good comeback that doesn't demean the use of the word "gay."

Sounds like you get a lot of bl0wjobs. Nice! But maybe that's not such a good idea if you always get soft? You need to really extend the foreplay. What turns you on? You could do some dry humping, kissing, touching, etc. Have her talk dirty to you, and talk dirty to her. Definitely start taking her clothes off. Maybe all it takes is a little more skin. You could ask her to take her shirt off and then you unstrap her bra while she's blowing you.

Besides all that, do things that make YOU comfortable, to get rid of that anxiety. Put on your favorite song while you're getting a BJ. Find a comfortable, relaxing spot, and maybe burn some incense or light some candles.

It's time to experiment!

 

[EFFORT]

Your buds are just messing with you, don't take it serious.


Stop looking at porn and stop masturbating + 1/4 of a Viagra or Cialis pill.

Check this thread for more http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=190327

 

[I'm in the Mood]

Aw, screw that labeling sh!t. Dudes are just jealous. You need a good comeback that doesn't demean the use of the word "gay."

Sounds like you get a lot of bl0wjobs. Nice! But maybe that's not such a good idea if you always get soft? You need to really extend the foreplay. What turns you on? You could do some dry humping, kissing, touching, etc. Have her talk dirty to you, and talk dirty to her. Definitely start taking her clothes off. Maybe all it takes is a little more skin. You could ask her to take her shirt off and then you unstrap her bra while she's blowing you.

Besides all that, do things that make YOU comfortable, to get rid of that anxiety. Put on your favorite song while you're getting a BJ. Find a comfortable, relaxing spot, and maybe burn some incense or light some candles.

It's time to experiment!

Wtf...This post makes me sound weak. I don't disagree with the advice, but I need to check myself out...

 

[SharinganUser]

Word from the wise. BJ's should happen post coitus, not part of foreplay.

 

[Alex DeLarge]

Thanks for the advice guys.. Damn I've been on here for a while now and always thought BJs were a foreplay thing.

And Mike32ct, awesome assessment man. I like that idea you have of escalating from dry hump to sex. Next time I'm in the zone, I'm gonna try that out!