Being a Romantic Beta to the core!

[dudewut]

I am in a journey, like most of you, to get a lot of women. I grew up in a household of women, and was raised to watch dramas and soap operas. I got screwed over by a girl, and here I am trying to improve on girls. However, I want more.

I dont want to just emulate the qualities that attracts women, but actually have it. I want to actually be a leader, an alpha that serves my interests, and if lucky the interests of my pack.

One of the things I have read/learned is the body language. PROBLEM IS: From time to time, I catch myself having Beta body language, e.g. arms crossed, head not held up high when walking etc. Only when I make a conscious effort to correct myself does my body language switch. Its almost as if being Beta is where my subconscious mind is at. Understandable, because I AM BETA...not for long.

So question; If I want to hopefully become Alpha, I would need to live the life they lived (too late? hopefully not) here is a short list:

-Play a sport (a lot of naturals I know played some sort of sport)
OR Learn to play an instrument
-Be in control of MY OWN LIFE. ONce I get my college degree I am moving out.
-Form an actual Pack (no bvll****, I am completely serious)
-Look intimidating (one should be able to command respect with just a look)

What else can you add on the list?

 

[georgie24]

you need a mental overhaul, all that beta thinking is deep in your subconcious

your gonna need your balls yanked off and smashed to pieces and heart and soul torn to shreds

you will not hesitate to behave like a beta after that, trust me

 

[dudewut]

you need a mental overhaul, all that beta thinking is deep in your subconcious

your gonna need your balls yanked off and smashed to pieces and heart and soul torn to shreds

you will not hesitate to behave like a beta after that, trust me

I need to activate my Alpha genes, I believe we all have it to a certain extent, not saying everyone can dominate everyone, but to think of it we are all descendants from Alphas. Otherwise we won't be alive right now.


ooohhh ooohhhh

I got one!

-Travel

 

[Buddha_Mind]

The notion of alpha and beta on this site is ridiculous...you want to gather your pack and be like some wolves? What are you going to do with your pack? How are you going to keep em in line? What are you going to offer them?

Why not instead focus on developing yourself into a full person, develop your hobbies and interests, your career focus, develop your social skills.

AMOGing and Alpha-ing around is only going to get you so far.

What are you going to do when you run into a dude 2x as big as you? Or with a bigger pack?

 

[dudewut]

The notion of alpha and beta on this site is ridiculous...you want to gather your pack and be like some wolves? What are you going to do with your pack? How are you going to keep em in line? What are you going to offer them?

Why not instead focus on developing yourself into a full person, develop your hobbies and interests, your career focus, develop your social skills.

AMOGing and Alpha-ing around is only going to get you so far.

What are you going to do when you run into a dude 2x as big as you? Or with a bigger pack?

No dude, its just right now I really dont have friends that I hang out with on a regular basis, you know, people who have my back and stuff. Im almost always alone, and I am tired of it.

And I will do what two alphas in nature does when they see each other lock horns.

 

[Buddha_Mind]

No dude, its just right now I really dont have friends that I hang out with on a regular basis, you know, people who have my back and stuff. Im almost always alone, and I am tired of it.

And I will do what two alphas in nature does when they see each other lock horns.

I hear you man -- not trying to drag down your thread. I'm just saying getting all testosterone intense doesn't always help things (I have learned this the hard way).

I've found a good way to make friends is to start getting into things you think are cool, and sharing them with people in an excited way. I find when I open dialogues with people and show enthusiasm for things I'm doing, they become interested -- and you can always invite people to come chill and partake in your activities.

I know it can be a bummer when you can't find some solid friends who have your back. I've lived in different places and have had different groups of friends--sometimes you really connect with a place over others--some places can be a struggle--but there are good people out there man, keep at it, keep reaching out.

I think to myself sometimes, "I'm one of the coolest guys around [insert_place]"...I know that sounds ****y and I'm not demeaning others when I think it...but I find it helps my 'aura' or whatever you want to call it and I am generally more inviting and positive to others because I feel a strong sense of self-worth and self-value. Sometimes we have to fake it a bit to get it started.

 

[dudewut]

I hear you man -- not trying to drag down your thread. I'm just saying getting all testosterone intense doesn't always help things (I have learned this the hard way).

I've found a good way to make friends is to start getting into things you think are cool, and sharing them with people in an excited way. I find when I open dialogues with people and show enthusiasm for things I'm doing, they become interested -- and you can always invite people to come chill and partake in your activities.

I know it can be a bummer when you can't find some solid friends who have your back. I've lived in different places and have had different groups of friends--sometimes you really connect with a place over others--some places can be a struggle--but there are good people out there man, keep at it, keep reaching out.

I think to myself sometimes, "I'm one of the coolest guys around [insert_place]"...I know that sounds ****y and I'm not demeaning others when I think it...but I find it helps my 'aura' or whatever you want to call it and I am generally more inviting and positive to others because I feel a strong sense of self-worth and self-value. Sometimes we have to fake it a bit to get it started.

In my case, that is what I need. If I go in as a beta, all that will do is that if I was, by some miracle make friends, I will be at the bottom of the pack!

I DO need a shot of testosterone. No going around about it.

 

[evan12]

What else can you add on the list?

one things that I found it effective to be alpha , is to work in some places that you deal with kind of trashy poeple , may be a retail store in downtown when you are hiting some weapon under your desk in case one of the trouble makers visit you .
you will automatically develop some masculine gestures and become more brave in dealing with poeple , and more social because you will talk with different person every minute on average

 

[LIKEaBAWZ]

Hey dude , you don't have to take the alpha stuff too serious .
You just have to accept yourself and be the best man you can be , have dreams , ambitions and do the stuff u like .
The biggest thing is confidence tho , and it takes a while to build it up .
The last months ive gone from a "beta" that couldn't even talk to a girl on a party , even when i was drunk to someone who is confident , happy and likes to flirt .
I would say that i could talk to every girl on a party and even just start to dance with them .


also check this link : http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=196183
, it's quite a good post imo .
And don't forget that you are awesome dude , even if u don't have that much friends . Just go out there and you will meet people .
But before u go out go to the mirror and tell yourself you are awesome untill you start to sound like this guy http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CPmhWCnffC4

greets and good luck !

 

[dudewut]

Hey dude , you don't have to take the alpha stuff too serious .
You just have to accept yourself and be the best man you can be , have dreams , ambitions and do the stuff u like .
The biggest thing is confidence tho , and it takes a while to build it up .
The last months ive gone from a "beta" that couldn't even talk to a girl on a party , even when i was drunk to someone who is confident , happy and likes to flirt .
I would say that i could talk to every girl on a party and even just start to dance with them .


also check this link : http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=196183
, it's quite a good post imo .
And don't forget that you are awesome dude , even if u don't have that much friends . Just go out there and you will meet people .
But before u go out go to the mirror and tell yourself you are awesome untill you start to sound like this guy http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CPmhWCnffC4

greets and good luck !

I can sometimes talk to girls at parties lol sometimes

Anyway, but that is what I want, to be looked up to, power, confidence and all that.

 

[LIKEaBAWZ]

Then go for it man !
Talk to all the strangers u can , slowly but surely u will be more confident and have better social skills .
And when u get allot more confidence don't get arrogant , no one likes someone like that .

If u need more testosterone then do the no fap challenge , after a week you will feel and think different .

 

[Buddha_Mind]

I can sometimes talk to girls at parties lol sometimes

Anyway, but that is what I want, to be looked up to, power, confidence and all that.

I don't want to sound like the chanting chorus here elsewhere on this board, but have you considered weight lifting at all?

Not just to be 'big' but really it does help increase your natural production of testosterone -- and it forces you to fight miniature battles with 'yourself' and overcome -- it pushes your mind and forces you to be stronger. I found adopting a fitness plan helped boost my confidence because you start to better see your own capacities.