The no bull**** guide to being a natural.
This is one model of how it works, an interpretation of the world.
I don't offer you a sure way to make it work. There's no such thing.
But this model is the best I could come up with after 5 years of trying. It is socially acceptable, is easy to implement, productive and doesn't take up a lot of your time. It fits nicely into capitalist societies, which favour productivity.
Step one:
Define what you want. Think of your needs and be honest. Who do you want? On what conditions? Do not worry about the positive side of the person at all. Concentrate on the negative aspects, which would disqualify them as potential mates for you.
Instead of saying:
Good looking, say: "I don't get a hardon when I hug her - NEXT"
Or - too short to make tall kids.
Instead of saying, smart: say: "never finished highschool - NEXT"
Or - won't fit into a rave club (or a socialite society) - NEXT
Define what kind of family you want her to have. Do you want her to be isolated? Do you want "everybody loves raymond" scenario? Do you want her to come from a particular socioeconomical or ethnical background?
Example: My afgani friend would screw anything with decent ass to waist ratio, but can only marry an afgani girl... unless he wants to deal with excommunication by his family. That influences his LRT choices.
Know if you want to see each other's parents.
Know if you want to introduce each other's friends.
Step two:
Know what you have to offer. Can be anything - from good looking body to rich parents who'll leave you a fortune. Having a car, income, free time, attention, gifts, caring, loving, connections, education, sense of humour, big ****, sexual experience, strong character...
In the end, you pay for everything. You just choose how you do it. You can pay with money, attention, kind gestures, your time, the status you give if you're a looker... Nothing you give is free.
One man buys his sweetheard a diamon (status), the other gives his time: Drives her around nightclubs, but he doesn't like it. Brings her coffee when she's studying for finals, even though it wasted almost an hour.
Once you define what you want and what you can offer, you will have a much easier time approaching and communicating with girls.
All of the your positive qualities from above are obvious and sometimes they are not needed. If your subject of affection is well provided for, they might have absollutely different needs. Desire to take care of someone, desire to teach, desire to help, desire to know that they are needed.
Ever notice how hollywood exploits this? Watch any romantic movie and you'll see: "But I need you! I can not do it without you! Hug me now darling! YOU are the one that brings happiness to my life!"
And then come the extremes: "My world depends on you! I am willing to risk my life for you! I am willing to die for you!"
Standard shakespearian crap: Bringing an everyday scenario to an extreme.
Too bad we only see it in the movies. Most people are too insecure to openly admit needing someone else. Everybody walks around with a air of independence and trying to "look cool", while secretly wanting to a sign that they are NEEDED.
And in the evening, they pay 8 bucks to see the movie and imagine yourself in place of that oh-so-seductive character.
A lot of self-proclaimed DonJuans fail to realize this.
This is one model of how it works, an interpretation of the world.
I don't offer you a sure way to make it work. There's no such thing.
But this model is the best I could come up with after 5 years of trying. It is socially acceptable, is easy to implement, productive and doesn't take up a lot of your time. It fits nicely into capitalist societies, which favour productivity.
Step one:
Define what you want. Think of your needs and be honest. Who do you want? On what conditions? Do not worry about the positive side of the person at all. Concentrate on the negative aspects, which would disqualify them as potential mates for you.
Instead of saying:
Good looking, say: "I don't get a hardon when I hug her - NEXT"
Or - too short to make tall kids.
Instead of saying, smart: say: "never finished highschool - NEXT"
Or - won't fit into a rave club (or a socialite society) - NEXT
Define what kind of family you want her to have. Do you want her to be isolated? Do you want "everybody loves raymond" scenario? Do you want her to come from a particular socioeconomical or ethnical background?
Example: My afgani friend would screw anything with decent ass to waist ratio, but can only marry an afgani girl... unless he wants to deal with excommunication by his family. That influences his LRT choices.
Know if you want to see each other's parents.
Know if you want to introduce each other's friends.
Step two:
Know what you have to offer. Can be anything - from good looking body to rich parents who'll leave you a fortune. Having a car, income, free time, attention, gifts, caring, loving, connections, education, sense of humour, big ****, sexual experience, strong character...
In the end, you pay for everything. You just choose how you do it. You can pay with money, attention, kind gestures, your time, the status you give if you're a looker... Nothing you give is free.
One man buys his sweetheard a diamon (status), the other gives his time: Drives her around nightclubs, but he doesn't like it. Brings her coffee when she's studying for finals, even though it wasted almost an hour.
Once you define what you want and what you can offer, you will have a much easier time approaching and communicating with girls.
All of the your positive qualities from above are obvious and sometimes they are not needed. If your subject of affection is well provided for, they might have absollutely different needs. Desire to take care of someone, desire to teach, desire to help, desire to know that they are needed.
Ever notice how hollywood exploits this? Watch any romantic movie and you'll see: "But I need you! I can not do it without you! Hug me now darling! YOU are the one that brings happiness to my life!"
And then come the extremes: "My world depends on you! I am willing to risk my life for you! I am willing to die for you!"
Standard shakespearian crap: Bringing an everyday scenario to an extreme.
Too bad we only see it in the movies. Most people are too insecure to openly admit needing someone else. Everybody walks around with a air of independence and trying to "look cool", while secretly wanting to a sign that they are NEEDED.
And in the evening, they pay 8 bucks to see the movie and imagine yourself in place of that oh-so-seductive character.
A lot of self-proclaimed DonJuans fail to realize this.
