Being a "Lone Wolf"-picking up girls at clubs on your own

[Matt Rogers]

I am determined to get good at the club scene, as this is an area I have neglected over the last few years, and I do believe it represents a fertile area to meet women. I am at university, so we have these discos at the union every single night, where there is a bar a dancefloor and upstairs sofas, pool tables etc.

I have yet to find an effective or reliable wingman, as my friends are rather geeky and not very outgoing.

I am not the best looking of guys-i am around a 6 or 7 so cannot rely on instant physical attraction. If I go to a club I rarely get girls hitting on me. So what is the best way to get girls at clubs when you are going alone, as they are usually in groups and it is hard to isolate girls.

The only success I have had in the past is from girls approaching me. What is the best way to get them to do this? I was thinking of maybe getting a table and sitting with a drink, so that girls passing me on the way from the bar from the dancefloor, I could catch their eye and then go over to talk to them if I get a positive response. On the dancefloor it is too crowded to really be noticed by enough girls.

Any other tips and strategies?

 

[DJDamage]

If you are going by yourself, find a stool and hang out by the bar. Its a traffic area for people going in and out for drinks. You can chat up with the barmaids creating rapport and some social proof, as well as chatting up with girls waiting for their drinks by just saying something random like:

" Its really jam packed in here tonight!! isn't it?" then take it from there.

 

[Unbridled_1]

whatever you do, do not stand by the women's bathroom. Nothing says creep like the guy trying to hit on women and they are stepping out for a private moment.

 

[Matt Rogers]

lol, unbridled, do you speak from experience?

Yeah, hanging by the bar sounds like a good idea.

 

[Phoenix_of_the_ashes]

Yeah this is a good thread, I myself dont have many friends anyway and I just feel stronger being on my own. Unfortunatly solitude isnt seen as strength but as weakness.

 

[I-am-someone]

Why exactly do you have to be noticed by girls? Can't you just walk up to them and make them notice you, simply by your self-confidence?
You're the initiator - you shouldn't have to wait for them to get eyecontact with you.

Make sure you are self-confident though. I don't even want to think about what will happen if you're not.

 

[Matt Rogers]

Good points, I-am-someone. I just find that at clubs a lot of girls have ***** shields up, so I usually like to try and get eye contact and a smile before I go up to them.

And yeah, Phoenix, for some reason it is seen as a bad thing to go clubbing alone-and people always ask where your friends are. Usually I say something vague, or say something like I hunt alone.

 

[Phoenix_of_the_ashes]

I actually think its pure weakness that your status in determined by the number of friends you have.

 

[catch]

youve got to actually HAVE the confidence to approach a chick,

you know, thats what being a DON JAUN is all about,

you dont care if a chick thinks your a loser, witch is unlikley bengs you show your a man by getting up and talking to her, your an up and coming doun jaun, man shes loosing out here, ha ha not you!

and in a club, youve gota dance, or learn to anyway and the more you approach girls, the easier it becomes until it actually becomes fun and you love it because you know you can and you got10 chicks waitng for you to call anyways!! youve got to have fun when you make your approach otherwise, wheres the point!! your becoming a DON JAUN, you will have all the women you could dream about any way. YOUR THE PRIZE, in any club, make sure they know that!!!

 

[crotchrocket]

Props to you man for being a 'lone wolf' its an admirable thing. I TOTALLY disagree with anyone thinking solitude is seen as weakness, being a loner and repelling people who try and befriend you just to be by yourself YES!

Next time you hear of a buddy, or anyone for that matter, going to an event... by themselves take note of your own reaction to the news, chances are you won't be thinking "what a pvssy-going to that all by himself". NEVER let the fact you don't have someone to go with, prevent you from going somewhere, doing the things you want or need to do, enjoying life for that matter.

Some good advice here, on this site, read it, use it, success will follow.

 

[Mr. Mystery II]

I usually sarge alone at clubs, but I come with friends that hang out at the bar or at a table. So I'm not actually alone, but girls don't know that.

It is awkward at first, like anything your not used to doing, but it does become very easy and fun when your comfortable with it.

There is no one approach that will work at the clubs, there are soo many different ways to approach or be approached, just go in there and have a good time and good things will happen. I have found better luck solo, because there is less chance my friends will screw things up with her friends.

Mr. Mystery

 

[Fatality]

Originally posted by Phoenix_of_the_ashes
I actually think its pure weakness that your status in determined by the number of friends you have.

Actually the people that think it is a weakness are too weak to do anything by themselves.

 

[Phoenix_of_the_ashes]

Originally posted by Fatality
Actually the people that think it is a weakness are too weak to do anything by themselves.

Yeah, but that is the way most people are.

 

[Ricky]

If you are at a bar by yourself and a girl asks, remember you are waiting for friends to show up.

Talk to her casually.

You absolutely can meet girls by yourself and honestly it can be a bit easier. I have gotten everything to kisses to numbers to sex that night when I've been by myself.

BTW one thing that is great about being by yourself and I did this often was to hit one bar to start off the night and have a few drinks, then hit a second or third. One night I made friends with another guy that was there by himself before I hit the third bar. It was so funny because we picked up two girls that were there together and they asked how we knew each other. Pretty funny!
I didn't let on that he was someone i talked to at a bar 30 minutes ago.

Winging alone can and often times is easier. Think about how many times you wanted to hit a certain bar but your friends didn't or vice versa. You always do your best when you are at a bar or club that you like best.

 

[Matt Rogers]

Great advice guys. This is my last year of college so want to get good at the club scene while I still am able to party without having to go to work the next day.

I am a loner by nature, although I have lots of acquantainces I get on very well with. I just prefer my own company, and like to do things when I want to do them, rather than have to rely on other people.

 

[BigWillyStyle]

Personally, I find going out without the intention of picking up *****es works a treat. Have fun, get drunk, if you catch the eye of a decent girlm approach. Sorry didn't read all the replies.

Going out without the intention of picking up is the best fun. Trying to pick up and not suceeding can **** up your whole night.

Oh, and by the way. NOBODY goes out alone to clubs these days. Get some wingman together. As going out alone is BORING AS FVCK and looks weak. Just my 2c.

 

[TyTe`EyEs]

I would never go to a club alone. From my experience, it makes you look like a loser.

 

[BigWillyStyle]

I would never go to a club alone. From my experience, it makes you look like a loser.

Jackpot. Even if your buds are chumps, go with them...

 

[SheepSter]

Going out alone doesn't make you look like a loser. At least if you approach. I mean standing alone in the corner trying to find IOI's, yes that is VERY AFC. The trick is to become the life of the party, read this: Attaining Social Mastery. This post is dead on, you'll have a great time because you're THE MAN. I must say I actually got better results in the clubscene going out alone,then in a group. But in my case that's because going alone makes me approach everybody because else I'm bored. I still like going out with wings though, there's nothing like checking out the fine honeyz in the joint and grading them, approaching and having great fun.

 

[Ricky]

Think of it this way.

It takes balls to go out alone, but the thing is, you become the person that does what he wants, when he wants regardless of if he brings people or not.

I know some people that won't even go shopping alone. They call one of their friends for that.

Come on, we don't have to be co-dependent all the time as people.