Being a DJ in an LTR is a myth!!!

[The Edge]

Okay lets put the freakyyn fallacy to rest right now. You cannot be in a LTR, and call yourself a DJ... period.

It fukkyn cracks me up, when I see people on this forum, [who claim they have successfully evolved their lives into monogamous relationships(LTR's) with women] try to dish out advice to people on how to be successful as a DJ. Get over it dude..You're no longer a fukkyn DJ!!.... Oh and especially the women on these board, who for one reason or another, have coined the phrase: MY DJ BOYFRIEND ....... What the fukk ever dude...

Wait a second I even have a few reasons why you no longer are a DJ if you're in an LTR...

1. First of all, you can no longer be mysterious and a challenge.. DING!! DING!!... You are now legally boring
As you know the trust factor is a necessity for your relationship to last, and, because you are in it for the long haul, she gets to know everything about you.. Well almost... (Hopefully she never sees you when you cry like a little ole' biyatch
But she still gets to know shytt like:
Your porno fetish, (You know what I am talking about.... your deep seeded nasty fetish of 35 year and older women that only you knew and pined about)..
Your fukkyn weaknesses, your nasty feet and fart smells respectively, and she knows how loud you snore.. Oh! and she then finds out that you're really a momma's boy, and about your deep seeded prejudices, fears and bytchh-like insecurities ......so on and so forth..you get the picture... You basically become transparent...

2. No more different women, especially if you're not the cheating kind. You're stuck with the same boring-ass puss for the rest of time. And stop fukkyn lying to yourself. No amount of role-playing or dildo usage, or communication techniques can substitute for fukkyng two or three different women.. Unless you have a secret stash of porn, and a batcave you can fall into, you have to hope your penile radar stays focused on your womans puss forever....Otherwise you cheat..and that's a whole 'nother story.. No time right now.

3. DJ Persona..... Kino, eye contact, ****y and Funny, calling once or twice a week, going out with wing men, and having your very own so-called life are all out the fukkyn door. Yeah, I hear all the stories of how DJ's in LTR's try to maintain these characteristics,...but stop and think for a second... Who really does any of the above when they get into a relationship. I watch friends and their girlfriends, my dad and mom, my professors that I am close to and their wives, and they will tell you... You don't need that shytt to be successful in an LTR.. Actually all these traits become null and void.. The truth is LTR's have a whole new set of rules... And being a DJ plays no part in it..

4. Compatibility means curbing a majority of your goals and blending your aspirations with hers.. Is this a DJ move? Fukk no!!.. Lets admit it, your aspirations of becoming a porn star and fireman are out the door, once Suzie tells you her goals of being a teacher. Especially if you still plan on living well. Nope, now instead of what you want to do, your fukkyn dreams become synonymous with hers.. "Me and Betty-Boo will be moving to Delaware so I can be a vacuum sales man and she can teach ... That way, we can save enuff money so I can go to school later, and one day buy us nice things..."

5. Clubs and bars....Yeah right??? Only if your intent is to go out and pick your old woman up, again and again and again and again and again and again... Yeah you can lie all you want to, but I am sure you LTR suckers long for the days when you could pick up chykks at those venues... The whole idea of going to Grocery stores, Coffee shops, Libraries no longer have that secondary meaning...Nope, Nope, Nope...... Sorry, no more... You go to these venues strictly for that purpose. Library to read...Coffee shop to taste the latest Carmel Machhiatto Venti flavor,... and Libraries to read the latest Sydney Sheldon and Robert Ludnum books..
You have a ball and chain now, and unfortunately you and her are one....

So please, if you are in an LTR, stop criticizing us STR focused individuals... We can still rock climb, lie just so we can screw six chykks, be ****y and funny with random chykks, and apply kino to your best friends mom, kiss our professors personal secretary without blinking an eye, go to a bar without notifying anyone, wash our whites with our trendy pink luminous shirts and still not bat an eyelid...

Can you say the same Mr. LTR man??....

Nope... 'Cos you're no longer a DJ...

Thanx for stoping by..

The Edge ' Some have it, and some don't '

 

[InLawsHateMe]

Originally posted by The Edge
Okay lets put the freakyyn fallacy to rest right now. You cannot be in a LTR, and call yourself a DJ... period.

It fukkyn cracks me up, when I see people on this forum, [who claim they have successfully evolved their lives into monogamous relationships(LTR's) with women] try to dish out advice to people on how to be successful as a DJ. Get over it dude..You're no longer a fukkyn DJ!!....

The Edge has spoken.... LOL!

..c'mon dude, just incase you haven't heard learned yet, you can be in a "LTR" and still be a DJ... hell, you can be in several "LTR" and still be a DJ. LOL!!! Trust me, you'll find out one day.

Personally, for me, it don't matter if anyone thinks I'm a DJ, or Big Daddy, or even a ladies man. LOL!! ...as long as the ladies know it, I can give a rats ass what you want to label me. You don't think I'm a DJ, cool, I'll bet my left nut the women think so.

BTW, where was I at when they made the rule that said that everyone who was ina "LTR" is stripped of your DJ skillz?? I missed that declaration. I was probably f*cking somebody.

 

[VeryBadGirl]

Edge, I know you don't like me being on this board and I don't really care. Not everyone in life is going to get along with everyone else.

It all depends on what your definition of a DJ is. You have your own definition, which requires constant macking on lots of women and dating multiple women. That's great for you. I have never once criticized anyone for dating around. If it makes you happy and you are not lying or cheating, I don't care - I think it is great for you.

But for some people, the definition of a DJ is someone who is confident, has self-esteem, knows their own worth, respects themselves and doesn't let women walk all over or disrespect them. And, these are all qualities that you can have in a LTR.

It is also possible that BOTH defintions are correct, both are what a DJ is, the concept just evolves with whatever stage of life you choose to be in.

These guys who are choosing to be in a LTR are making a choice for themselves. And it makes them happy. So why the hell do YOU care? Why do you not want yout fellow men to be happy? So you have decided that a LTR isn't what you want. Great. They are not you. They are their own person and I believe that any definition of a "DJ" would have independent decision-making included in it.

You also have the wrong idea of what a LTR is like, but since you are never going to be in one, it doesn't really matter. But since you have no idea what it is like to be in one, don't judge something you don't know anything about. Some of the things you said are quite true - trust is involved, your girl does get to know the real you, faults and all, you can't hit on or have sex with tons of random people anymore, etc. But, others things you said are quite false in a healthy LTR - like asking permission to go to a bar or losing your goals in life.

The point is, who are you to define the word DJ for the rest of the people on this board? It is a subjective term, since this is only a message board.

Really, there doesn't need to be any animosity between those that choose to get into a LTR and those that don't. If you are not interested in reading about LTRs, don't go to those threads. No need to get your panties in a bunch about it.

 

[InLawsHateMe]

Originally posted by VeryBadGirl


The point is, who are you to define the word DJ for the rest of the people on this board? It is a subjective term, since this is only a message board.

Really, there doesn't need to be any animosity between those that choose to get into a LTR and those that don't. If you are not interested in reading about LTRs, don't go to those threads. No need to get your panties in a bunch about it.

God, I'd marry you and give you the best damn wedding you'll ever have VBG! After carrying you over the threshold, I'd give you a night you'd never forget....grrrrrrrrrrrr.

I think The Edge is in serious need of some nookie, or someone pee pee'd in his Frosted Mini Wheats this morning. Whatever the case is, he's not in a good mood....

 

[boost]

lol... nice thread.

If I ever entered an LTR, there are certainly parts of my life that my girlfriend would never be a part of. If thats unacceptable, well... theres the door.

If any girl ever tried to tell me who to hang out with, when to go out, etc... it would be all I could do not to laugh. If she doesn't like my asperations and wants me to move to delaware to be a vaccume cleaner salesman, guess what. Relationship is over. My dreams become synonymous with hers, especially if she wants to drag me down? NO. Hers become synonomous with mine. If she wants me to change, conform, blah blah blah, she wasn't right for me anyway.

I can see what you are trying to say, but, it only happens like you describe it with WEAK guys, who aren't willing to let their girl go for ANY reason, even if it means abandoning their way of life to make it happen. If you have to do that, WHAT IS THE POINT of being in the damn relationship anyway?

Too many guys these days are just too much of a pvssy to assert that they will be the ones wearing the pants in the relationship. And the way its headed, it looks like this trend will continue. Oh well. Just means more girls for me.

 

[InLawsHateMe]

Originally posted by boost
lol... nice thread.

If I ever entered an LTR, there are certainly parts of my life that my girlfriend would never be a part of. If thats unacceptable, well... theres the door.

If any girl ever tried to tell me who to hang out with, when to go out, etc... it would be all I could do not to laugh. If she doesn't like my asperations and wants me to move to delaware to be a vaccume cleaner salesman, guess what. Relationship is over. My dreams become synonymous with hers, especially if she wants to drag me down? NO. Hers become synonomous with mine. If she wants me to change, conform, blah blah blah, she wasn't right for me anyway.

I can see what you are trying to say, but, it only happens like you describe it with WEAK guys, who aren't willing to let their girl go for ANY reason, even if it means abandoning their way of life to make it happen. If you have to do that, WHAT IS THE POINT of being in the damn relationship anyway?

Too many guys these days are just too much of a pvssy to assert that they will be the ones wearing the pants in the relationship. And the way its headed, it looks like this trend will continue. Oh well. Just means more girls for me.

Sounds like a DJ to me.....

 

[Oscar Wilde]

I think there's a bit of a terminology problem here.

On the one hand, we're taking about being a DJ when taking about pickups.

On the other, we're taking about being a DJ when in an LTR.

I think the 2nd is a misnomer: I think what we mean when we say "DJ boyfriend" is someone who is using a Doc Love approach (still being a bit of a challenge, mysterious, in control), but not trying to hit on all these girls in the street for numbers (cos that's just BS if you're in LTR).

Oscar.

 

[Matt ala Casanova]

Sucks to be you dude!

Maybe it may apply to 95% of the DJ population in LTR's but not everyone. Come to New Hampshire and I shall prove your view wrong.

Not a hit, just a disagreement.

M.A.C.

 

[The Edge]

VBG....(This is sugarcoated for your pleasure)
I have nothing against you...I don't know you,.. and I think the quality of your posts are just that quality.. However, your advice does not, in anyway move, in the direction of what I interpret as being a DJ..(Thats the best sugarcoating I can do, without coming off as offensive..)

InLawsHateMe I never said people in LTR's were stripped of being DJ's. What I said had to do with the fact that it's impossible to operate as a DJ in an honest, committed, LTR.. Impossible!!!!!

Dude, I don't care if you have the most understanding chykk on this planet... You will never be able to operate as a full fledged DJ once you are in a LTR...

The Edge ' Some have it, and some don't '

 

[jwhite17]

Dammit Edge,
Now you making me wonder if being in a LTR is worth it. I always hear from the guy's on this forum(Gio and Bungo) praising the LTR. Maybe, these guys just like having a relationship with someone rather being single. I don't know because I wouldn't want to give up all the time and dedication in a relationship when I'm happy being single. I guess don't want a LTR. Hey Edge, are you ever going to be in a LTR sometime down the road(like in your 30's) and settle down? Or are you going to enjoy being single and fukking all the women you want until you die?

 

[VeryBadGirl]

Edge, I am not one of those women that needs sugar coating, but thanks anyway.

I am fine with the definition of DJ being interpreted by others as they please. In my mind, there is no need to have one single definition. As long as the one you are using works for you and is increasing your happiness, that is great, in my opinion.

 

[Oscar Wilde]

Gawddamn, your inexperience in relationships is showing baaad.

LTRs can be great, don't dis 'em! There's a reason people make commitments!

Personally, I've been in a few LTRs, prolly more correctly termed "medium term" Rs, and I intend to be a DJ for a while, and maybe have an exclusive MTR or 3 before I'm 30 - 35. At that stage I might decide to go for the whole shebang.

But you guys are completely discounting the fact that *you* may fall in love.

Osc.

 

[Matt ala Casanova]

Love many and remain a DJ, love one and become a Has-been DJ.

May I remind you about the real Duan Juan and Casanova, read and learn: Duan Juan & Casanova

M.A.C.

 

[Demon]

A DJ is not a player. This is one reason I have The Edge on ignore.

 

[The Edge]

Originally posted by Demon
A DJ is not a player. This is one reason I have The Edge on ignore.

Once again you're right and I am wrong.... Demon is a 17 year old god, and I want to thank him for putting me on ignore.. Hopefully I can change my ways now and be a DJ just like him.....

Edge

 

[Shiftkey]

lol a DJ is someone who's a registered member of the sosuave.com message board. See the title below everyone's name? It's as simple as that. You're making it sound so special, when it's really not...

Demon hit the nail on the head. What you're really describing is a player - not that it's a bad thing. You can do what you want with the tools taught here.

 

[The Edge]

Originally posted by jwhite17
Dammit Edge,
Hey Edge, are you ever going to be in a LTR sometime down the road(like in your 30's) and settle down? Or are you going to enjoy being single and fukking all the women you want until you die?

I highly doubt an LTR is in my future... However, I have learned never to say never.. I just can't see myself settling with a woman unless she see's things my way... Entirely.. Call it ignorance and youth, but I live under the old adage that the man should have the dream and the woman should help him accomplish it..

Then again, every woman I date calls me a Selfish ba*s*tard,.. so..go figure...

The Edge ' Some have it, and some don't '

 

[InLawsHateMe]

Someone needs a nap.


Edge, bro, please stop. I mean, you're as much as a DJ as the rest of us here, but all this hate, it's not...well ....very DJ'ish. This all out attack on peeps with LTR, and peeps who want to ignore you for it, is uncalled for. Now, I know you're a good guy, you come here to help others like some of us. But when you start going off like this, it's hurting your credibility, so please stop.


Being a DJ, is an attitude. Yes, your game changes when you get in a LTR, but it doesn't stop you from being a DJ. Actually, this is where being a DJ is most important to me. Since being a DJ, I managed to score a pretty hot babe, who's hella younger than me. Man, if my ex-wife can only see me now, she would kill herself. Now, that I got her, a woman who's a nurse(A NURSE!! Oh my fantasies have come true!) , blonde, blue eyes, speaks 3 different languages, the most incredible body I have ever seen (and I've seen plenty) and would make a perfect mother for my kids(When I want to have some.. I'm a bit selfish right now. ) ..now that I got all THAT, how do you keep her? How do you keep her from guys like you Edge? ...I'll tell ya how.... you take your DJ skillz to another level, that's how.

 

[boost]

The way I personally interpret the definition of “DJ” is… a guy that gets what he wants to make him happy. To me, the “DJ” type philosophy doesn’t specifically have to do with women at all. It basically dictates that as a man, you do WHATEVER is required to achieve your goals, without apology or regret. If that goal is to make a million a year, great. If you want to nail 30 different chicks a month, outstanding. If you want a quality LTR, well then, happy trails. If you want to drive car XXX, get off your ass and go get one instead of whining about it. Any man’s ability to be successful with women just happens to be a culmination of sorts, which tends to indicate how well he’s doing in the rest of his life.

How this applies to my specific situation: My longest “relationship” to date lasted several months during my senior year of high school. It didn’t end well, because I had hella AFC tendencies back then. When I came to college, I promised myself that I wouldn’t be in another relationship for a long time to come, and that I would change, so as never to repeat the experience I had in HS.

I did exactly that… haven’t done anything but nail skanks for the last 3.5 years. The bottom line now, is that its simply getting boring. It doesn’t mean anything to me anymore. There is very little thrill to it. Basically, I wouldn’t mind moving on for a while, to get out of the rut. I don’t want any half-skank kids. I don’t want any diseases. And, I want to try something different. So, if the opportunity presents itself, I probably wouldn’t stop myself from entering a relationship at this point. Not just for the sake of having a girlfriend, ANY girlfriend, as MANY guys do… but because I meet someone that I could really share with. The chances of actually meeting a decent girl like that are just about zero of course… but I’ve got all the time in the world. I passed on one such opportunity last fall, because I didn’t want a gf at that point. Now I wouldn’t mind one, so I’m going to do what I want. If I were to get a gf, and at any point I decide I’d rather be single and start nailing skanks again, I’ll do that too. See where I’m going with this?

The “DJ” has the balls and ability to do what makes him happy, whatever that might be. For the edge, that might mean nailing skanks for the rest of his life. Nothing wrong with that. Other guys might decide they’d like to pursue a relationship at some point. And there is nothing wrong with that either, as long they are doing it for the right reasons. Just be aware that not everyone that pursues a relationship does so out of weakness.

 

[strong like bull]

being a DJ does not define the life of a player; nor the life of an LTR'er. it is a state of mind, which has been lived by the player and married man alike.