Behaviour of the dumper

[Monkeynuts]

Ju

OP, to clearity why i called you beta. There's a saying that goes like this:

show me your friends and I will tell you who you are.

Its may now. 5th month. You already stated that your homie got played and 4 months later he still isn't over that shyte. That's why I warn you and advice you to "alpha up" the rest of this year. If you and your friend are somewhat similar, you'll enter the month September still being heartbroken.

Dont try to get another womam right away. You got SO MUCH to learn, and being 36 is the perfect (but also crucial) age to finally pick up on life lessons your old man should've taught you .

Your friends are also beta, so you all will just reinforce the beta behaviour that's allowing the women to play yalll ike fiddles.

I appreciate your words.

A few weeks back with another argument she really hit home how I’m 36. That if I want a family I need to pull my finger out - some bits hit home and has just made me self reflect but too much.

Honestly when I look back there was a lot of **** that I should not of put up with. I guess I need to work on being alone. I think my fear stems from that as my dad left when I was a kid and was never around or supported in any shape or form.

F@ck I sound like a sob story.

 

[Gamisch]

Ju

I appreciate your words.

A few weeks back with another argument she really hit home how I’m 36. That if I want a family I need to pull my finger out - some bits hit home and has just made me self reflect but too much.

Honestly when I look back there was a lot of **** that I should not of put up with. I guess I need to work on being alone. I think my fear stems from that as my dad left when I was a kid and was never around or supported in any shape or form.

F@ck I sound like a sob story.

Because the tables are turned. You being 36 vs her being 28 is like her being 18 vs you being 26. Feel me? She'll start to lose raw and primal attraction in the eyes of us men, while you got at least 14 years left of prime life.

She has reached an age where she should be worried about family, kids ect,hence her irrational behaviour And you being a " good man"( probably her best prospect for starting a famliy) gives you plenty of opportunity to find a decent woman and live that life. She understands and knows that (maybe better than you do right now)

She needs to pull her finger out herself. But now its too late for her to have you as that teacher. Let her pump/dump chads teach her that!

 

[Monkeynuts]

Yeah I get you.

Being blocked by her on everything was a blessing. I don’t understand why she would unblock me just on Facebook unless she’s trying to get me to reach out.

Imagine if I did that ha, I’d literally have no self respect left.

I know what needs to be done and it’s just putting the wheels into motion. It’s still early days.

Hitting training hard to get back into the best shape I’ve ever been in.
Applying for a new job
Just trying to keep myself busy.

As someone said I’m staying away from women for a few weeks. My head is not right and I quite frankly can’t be assed. I need to work on things and just start enjoying this freedom I have

 

[Robert28]

Yeah I get you.

Being blocked by her on everything was a blessing. I don’t understand why she would unblock me just on Facebook unless she’s trying to get me to reach out.

Imagine if I did that ha, I’d literally have no self respect left.

I know what needs to be done and it’s just putting the wheels into motion. It’s still early days.

Hitting training hard to get back into the best shape I’ve ever been in.
Applying for a new job
Just trying to keep myself busy.

As someone said I’m staying away from women for a few weeks. My head is not right and I quite frankly can’t be assed. I need to work on things and just start enjoying this freedom I have

The girl I posted the pic of the text, she would ALWAYS have some falling out with friends and yet when I was around her she’d look them up on Facebook to keep up with them. It was the weirdest thing ever. Once she blocked me, I changed my profile pic and I guess she unblocked me to look at it and then block me again. During the time I knew her she had a falling out with two long time girl friends and yet she’d tell me something about what they’d been up to because she’d seen it on their page. And she said I’m full of drama.lol

 

[DonJuanjr]

Girlfriend status should be treated as a sacred oath where the woman has to put in the work for and uphold.
You just can’t give the title to any woman who gives you the azz and that is for the sake of own peace of mind.

This should be your signature. A good way to look at it.

 

[Monkeynuts]

So I had a WhatsApp off her this evening ( she unblocked me on that too then )

Asking how I was. Do I still want the trainers she got me and whether I could send her the money if so. And whether I wanted to talk to ‘clear the air’

What the actual **** does that mean!

I want the trainers I’m not gonna lie haha

 

[Gamisch]

So I had a WhatsApp off her this evening ( she unblocked me on that too then )

Asking how I was. Do I still want the trainers she got me and whether I could send her the money if so. And whether I wanted to talk to ‘clear the air’

What the actual **** does that mean!

I want the trainers I’m not gonna lie haha

My God you are beta...got alot of work to do bruh...

You probably (for the first time in months) didn't gave her any attention. That got her hamster spinning like crazy. So she reached out with the oldest excuse in the book; trainers/boxer/toothbrùsh /whatever.

Reread this thread 4 times before you respond. Especially @RazorRambo24 's post.

She almost has you back already..treat with extreme caution.

 

[Gamisch]

You on other side of the tracks now where the first round is on the house and the real fellas around here will speak in parables.
The game should be sold not told.
This female should have been gone since last year, let alone become nothing more than a fvck buddy piece of azz for entertainment use only.
Girlfriend status should be treated as a sacred oath where the woman has to put in the work for and uphold.
You just can’t give the title to any woman who gives you the azz and that is for the sake of own peace of mind.
She needs to earn that privilege and after that she needs to earn it again.
These baddies should not take you off the market that easy.

Respect is the bedrock of a prosperous healthy relationship with a woman. I can give a fvck about love and I will keep saying that till my casket drops.
If she respects you, she will not cheat on you or be bidding in the dark on her phone.

You did the right move by nutting up and dispatching her back to the curb where she belongs.
Read 48 laws of power and make money.
If you believe in God, pray.

This shyte right here is fecking GOLD.

Screenshot worthy .

 

[Robert28]

So I had a WhatsApp off her this evening ( she unblocked me on that too then )

Asking how I was. Do I still want the trainers she got me and whether I could send her the money if so. And whether I wanted to talk to ‘clear the air’

What the actual **** does that mean!

I want the trainers I’m not gonna lie haha

Let me tell you how it’s going to end, because I’ve been there with the same type of woman. The next fallout will come sooner AND be worse than the last one. Alarm bells need to be going off in your head that she’s not even apologizing to you but she wants to meet up so she can shift some of the blame on to you and give you some half ass apology that means nothing on her end. This woman is bad news, just like the woman I posted the text of earlier in the thread.

 

[Monkeynuts]

Genuinely , I collect sneakers and she won a pair of the new SB jewels on a raffle….I can’t pay resale for them
She still has aload of my clothes etc…I’m not worried about them I just want the trainers

 

[Monkeynuts]

Let me tell you how it’s going to end, because I’ve been there with the same type of woman. The next fallout will come sooner AND be worse than the last one. Alarm bells need to be going off in your head that she’s not even apologizing to you but she wants to meet up so she can shift some of the blame on to you and give you some half ass apology that means nothing on her end. This woman is bad news, just like the woman I posted the text of earlier in the thread.

Oh I’m under no elusion it’ll be flipped onto me some how. Basically I’m toxic as I went on her phone or some ****e.

I haven’t said I’m meeting her. I’m going to ask her to drop the trainers round and leave them on the porch

I’m not opening myself up to anymore hurt or torment anymore.

 

[Robert28]

Oh I’m under no elusion it’ll be flipped onto me some how. Basically I’m toxic as I went on her phone or some ****e.

I haven’t said I’m meeting her. I’m going to ask her to drop the trainers round and leave them on the porch

I’m not opening myself up to anymore hurt or torment anymore.

Actually you ARE opening yourself up to more hurt and torment by engaging with her. Even if it’s dropping off a pair of shoes. Even if it’s answering a text. You’re engaging. All she needs is that crack in the door and you’re giving her that. Keep that door locked and dead bolted, DO NOT ANSWER IT.

 

[The Duke]

Asides from what the other guys told you........... you need to program that "partner"-thing out of you.

Women are not supposed to be our partners. Women are supposed to be led by men and act accordingly (be compliant/obediant).
Once you got them in that frame, your life will be much easier and they will work their mind around staying in line and not about other men to get validation or dyck from them.

I don't disagree, but what do you do when they stop being disobedient/compliant? And it wasn't the man's loss of frame/leadership that brought that on. All I know is to Dump them. You happy with changing solid girls out every 2-3 yrs because that's when it seems to happen in LTR's. I don't want to have a notch count of 200 by the time I can't get it up anymore but I will if I have to.

 

[ThisIsSparta]

I don't disagree, but what do you do when they stop being disobedient/compliant? And it wasn't the man's loss of frame/leadership that brought that on. All I know is to Dump them. You happy with changing solid girls out every 2-3 yrs because that's when it seems to happen in LTR's. I don't want to have a notch count of 200 by the time I can't get it up anymore but I will if I have to.

For me its enough when they are compliant. Obediance is a bonus but unless she comes with that trait, there would be a need of some serious mindgames to achieve that.

What worked for me to keep them/bring them in line:

1. Be financially independant from your woman. YOU own your home or if you live at her place, have a property you can bugout to. No shared debts, no car you payed for together, nothing.

2. Be (in her mind) the best that she can get. This might propably mean you have to settle for a lvl below your own.....the "pleasant 6/7 over the bitchy 8+"

3. Be mentally and emotionally prepared to walk away at any point and let her at least indirectly know this. The downside to this is you most likely will not/cant have that deep emotions for her.

4. She needs to know you have options, that other women are interested in you and that you could exchange her in no time. Dread game works wonders.

 

[Foe]

Don't be a fool and ignore the lesson.

I haven’t said I’m meeting her. I’m going to ask her to drop the trainers round and leave them on the porch

Aaaaaaaaand hes done.

I knew it was going to happen, I saw too much of myself in his response. Get ready boys, rationalisation inbound

 

[Gamisch]

For me its enough when they are compliant. Obediance is a bonus but unless she comes with that trait, there would be a need of some serious mindgames to achieve that.

What worked for me to keep them/bring them in line:

1. Be financially independant from your woman. YOU own your home or if you live at her place, have a property you can bugout to. No shared debts, no car you payed for together, nothing.

2. Be (in her mind) the best that she can get. This might propably mean you have to settle for a lvl below your own.....the "pleasant 6/7 over the bitchy 8+"

3. Be mentally and emotionally prepared to walk away at any point and let her at least indirectly know this. The downside to this is you most likely will not/cant have that deep emotions for her.

4. She needs to know you have options, that other women are interested in you and that you could exchange her in no time. Dread game works wonders.

Responding to 3; you definitely can have a deep connection, but like you say, you gotta be willing (and able!!!) to throw away all of your effort and investment at any giving time.

That's easier said than done.

Aaaaaaaaand hes done.

I knew it was going to happen, I saw too much of myself in his response. Get ready boys, rationalisation inbound

Most definitely the case. Still I love these threads. From a distance we can see how ludacris it really is. And we all know its a matter of time before "she" is something we have to deal with ourselves (again).

Great to see women all over the world in all situations are all the same.