Beginner missions to build confidence?

[eikk008822]

Anyone know of beginner missions to do out in the field to begin feeling more comfortable approaching and starting conversations with women? The approach is the first item on my list of things to accomplish with women and dating. Thanks in advance!

 

[Blurry]

Just sack up and do it. Go to places where you're pretty sure you won't see the same girls again, and just approach random ones and try to have a conversation with them.

 

[Atom Smasher]

Small talk.

It turned me from a shy man, unable to relate to people in social situations, to a man who can command a room.

Talk to everybody throughout the day, male and female alike. There is no need for a payoff... you're just training yourself to be comfortable with people. Ask them how they are, make a comment about the environment, talk to them in a way that conveys that you are interested in them and their experiences.

Small talk was my key to victory over social retardation.

The gains from daily small talk spill over into pickup.

 

[backbreaker]

lol sosuave VR Missions

 

[Harry Wilmington]

Two words: Online Dating.
Need further explanation? Here it is!

- Harry Wilmington

 

[eikk008822]

Thanks everyone! Harry Wilmington, thank you for writing an article about my question. I'll give it a go

 

[Purefilth]

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=195923

Read this and then dig part 2 out of the DJ Tips section.

 

[Mr Wright]

Two words: Online Dating.

This sounds like a good idea because you barely have to invest anything into it, a couple of pictures and a copy and paste message and you're sorted. However, from my experience online dating is one of if not the worst way you can build confidence with women, I actively avoid online dating. Whenever I'm bored and want to meet new women, I stand up, put on clothes, walk outside, grab my balls, go to the shop, banter with the guy who works there and buy a pack of gum. Then as I'm walking to the town centre, I stop random people(old, young whatever) and compliment them on something, it makes them feel good and I feel better. Then I see a girl that I like and I get out of my head, walk towards her and tell her that I came to speak to her because I thought she looked nice. How many bad reactions do I get, it still makes the days of the girls who are engaged or have boyfriends.

But guess what, the first time I started doing this, I crapped myself and I'd already spoken to hundreds of girls in my life. It is scary but you will make the most progress doing it this way. You want to make progress, you'll have to do something which will make you crap yourself. Any guy who has got really good at this will tell you, they went through some tough times, some tough nights where they've gone home with nothing and felt like giving up because of the rejection but they've pulled on through and they're getting all the good pvssy.

Doing it all online is basically just pvssing out, grab your balls, take baby steps but actually go and do what you want to do. Any smuch can sit behind a screen and talk to women online, in fact many do and they send women pictures of their penis and tell them what they want to do to them.

And remember, it doesnt matter if you screw up as long as you're learning, find someone to go through it all with you at the beginning because it will make it easier.

EDIT: However, if you dont feel like going hard at the start, begin by being social. Befriend 2 or 3 girls, totally friendzone them and hang out with them(dont fall for them) then learn from how they interact with guys and how to get what you want from them.

 

[BeDJ]

Small talk.

It turned me from a shy man, unable to relate to people in social situations, to a man who can command a room.

Talk to everybody throughout the day, male and female alike. There is no need for a payoff... you're just training yourself to be comfortable with people. Ask them how they are, make a comment about the environment, talk to them in a way that conveys that you are interested in them and their experiences.

Small talk was my key to victory over social retardation.

The gains from daily small talk spill over into pickup.

This. All the way, across the sky.

 

[Purefilth]

This. All the way, across the sky.

Yeah, not bloody online. If you're not great looking in pictures you will fail miserably.

 

[RedZone]

For a confidence builder I would stay away from online dating. You could do all the right things on there and a girl could reject you because you are under 6 foot or for some other weird reason.

 

[Fruitbat]

This sounds like a good idea because you barely have to invest anything into it, a couple of pictures and a copy and paste message and you're sorted. However, from my experience online dating is one of if not the worst way you can build confidence with women, I actively avoid online dating. Whenever I'm bored and want to meet new women, I stand up, put on clothes, walk outside, grab my balls, go to the shop, banter with the guy who works there and buy a pack of gum. Then as I'm walking to the town centre, I stop random people(old, young whatever) and compliment them on something, it makes them feel good and I feel better. Then I see a girl that I like and I get out of my head, walk towards her and tell her that I came to speak to her because I thought she looked nice. How many bad reactions do I get, it still makes the days of the girls who are engaged or have boyfriends.

But guess what, the first time I started doing this, I crapped myself and I'd already spoken to hundreds of girls in my life. It is scary but you will make the most progress doing it this way. You want to make progress, you'll have to do something which will make you crap yourself. Any guy who has got really good at this will tell you, they went through some tough times, some tough nights where they've gone home with nothing and felt like giving up because of the rejection but they've pulled on through and they're getting all the good pvssy.

Doing it all online is basically just pvssing out, grab your balls, take baby steps but actually go and do what you want to do. Any smuch can sit behind a screen and talk to women online, in fact many do and they send women pictures of their penis and tell them what they want to do to them.

And remember, it doesnt matter if you screw up as long as you're learning, find someone to go through it all with you at the beginning because it will make it easier.

EDIT: However, if you dont feel like going hard at the start, begin by being social. Befriend 2 or 3 girls, totally friendzone them and hang out with them(dont fall for them) then learn from how they interact with guys and how to get what you want from them.

You're telling me that in the UK you just stop random women on the street, in broad daylight, and start chatting them up? Does this work?

I ask because I am really good once I get talking to women (salesman) but I struggle to get places to approach women. I often see women walking past me and have an urge to do it, but wonder whether they would think I was a weirdo....in the UK people don't tend to speak to strangers and think there is something up with you if you do!

Or, are you talking about different situations, like in a shop or coffee house etc?

I would have the bottle to do it, just thought I would be kind of deperate to stop women in the street and tell them I want their number.

Explain a bit better how you do it please....

 

[Gunner26]

You could just start off saying hi to people with a smile.

If you get a warm response you can try and take it from there, if not no loss and continue on your way.

Ask simple questions, just to get a feel for conversations with new people. This will make you more comfortable, which in turn will make you more confident talking to people.

Or as others say, just throw yourself in at the deep end.

Gunner

 

[Mr Wright]

You're telling me that in the UK you just stop random women on the street, in broad daylight, and start chatting them up? Does this work?

I ask because I am really good once I get talking to women (salesman) but I struggle to get places to approach women. I often see women walking past me and have an urge to do it, but wonder whether they would think I was a weirdo....in the UK people don't tend to speak to strangers and think there is something up with you if you do!

Or, are you talking about different situations, like in a shop or coffee house etc?

I would have the bottle to do it, just thought I would be kind of deperate to stop women in the street and tell them I want their number.

Explain a bit better how you do it please....

YES! I actually do this, I'm talking anywhere. The street, in Boots, if they're sitting in Hyde Park or whether they're walking outside my house.

I always found it frustrating that I was limited to meeting girls in nightclubs, when you get really hot girls walk past you on the street. I know in the UK it is pretty weird to talk to someone in the street but when I approach a girl I acknowledge how odd it is by saying something simple like "I know this is really random..." or other guys use "I literally just say you over there and I had to come and meet you." That just gets rid of all the 'what does this guy want from me?'

I dont really get any of the negative b!tchy behaviour you get in clubs, when you approach a girl on the street because it takes balls. But what really got me into this was when I realised that girls wanted me to approach them too, the first or second time I tried it, I got the number of this hot Swiss girl. What was interesting was, we made solid eye contact before, and as I started walking over to her, she took her earphones out of her ears, there was mutual attraction and it was just so easy. If I was in a club, it would have been so much more work.

In the day it's simple, I see hotter girls, I close hotter girls and they are less flakey. So yes, you can just walk up to a girl on the street and go and meet her, other guys do it on here and they would testify that it is different, it is scary at the start but once you get into it, you're on fire.