Before you post a question...

[Mr. Mystery]

When I first joined the Forums here, I had already studied the bible and tips section of the site, so I knew what I was talking about (at least bookwise and a few pick ups).

I look back on some of the things I've posted in the past to some amazement of how unnessecary some of my questions were.

Now let me say right now that I am not bashing anyone for posting dumb questions, because if the poster thought it was dumb, he wouldn't have bothered taking the time to post it. But...

For the last few months I have got into another kind of habit. I think of a question, then I think of posting the question in the forum, and soon after that I get the answer myself, whether it was something obvious that I missed before or if its something that requires some field testing.

Fella's, there really isn't any need to question alot of this stuff.

There are alot of different technique's/styles to getting women out there. How do you know which one will work for you? By posting a question? No.

The different styles work, but for different people. Different styles fit different peoples personality. Add to that the fact that to really know if the style will work for you, your gonna have to go out and get practice doing it. No one on a message board can tell you whether or not a certain style can work for you, only you can know that, and it takes time.

Should I call her? Yes. I don't care how long youve known her, or what the situation is. Call her, if it doesn't work out and you think its because you called to soon, than you have learned when is too early or too late. If your worried about losing this girl by calling her too quick, then you suffer from a common case of oneitis my friend.

Guys, all I'm trying to get at here is that if you just think about your question and search yourself for its solution, you'll usually find it. Don't become so dependent on this board.

The board is kinda like our mother. Its taught us alot of things and in turn we have become attacted. We feel a dependence for it. But eventually, we grow up and leave our mothers. Its scary and hard, but its what our mother wants: us to succeed on our own. And of course our mother is there for us in the future if we ever have any problem, for some motherly advice, or just want to talk.

Robert Jordan : Dependency breeds fear

I am using this quote alittle out of its original context, but it is true non the less.

Make your goal here to learn enough so that you can one day function without needing the forums advice. That doesn't mean your not welcome to come back, but it makes your mother happy.

Mr. Mystery

 

[thecraftylefty]

Exactly. That's how I learned. Take it step by step, read all the materials, and then become active on the forum when you get some REAL experience in the field.

"If your rap is strong it can't go wrong."

thecraftylefty

 

[MilesDude]

Search function

Use the "search" function...that would prevent many unoriginal posts!!

Miles

 

[Mr. Mystery]

Okay, I feel I rushed alittle in writing this tip. Or maybe I just ain't the greatest writer in the world, but I'm not sure I got my original point across, so please allow me to reinterate, or at least clear up some of the unclear points in my original post...

The main point of the post before I started rambling and getting off topic was that the need to post questions shouldn't be there.

I consider myself relatively self sufficient, I don't rely on anyone (besides my mom, she provides a house, but I help on the mortgage) for anything, I provide for myself, ever since I got my first job at 14. I buy my own groceries, my car is titled to me in my name, I am under my own insurance, I pay my own health insurance, I buy my own clothes, so on and so on... Point being I hate relying on anything but myself.

I think that my strong self rellience (spelling) helps me greatly in the DJ game. I really don't want to rely on this website or forum to solve my problems for me.

When I first started posting, I asked silly questions that I really already knew the answer to, I don't know why, maybe I wanted some reassurance.

Now if I question anything, I test it out myself.

Ex: I get a number from a girl, she shows high interest, she is a 7.5 on hot scale. Instead of coming here and detailing my pickup and asking when I should call, I just call when its convient for me and if it goes well great, if she tells me to go to hell for calling after a month, then I learn not to call a girl after a month.

That was just an example.

I beleive the forum should be compiled of "This is what I did, what went wrong" post's instead of, "What should I do now?" post's.

If you've read the bible and have a little bit of field experience then you really shouldn't have to post a question on what your next step should be, you should be able to search yourself and find the answer, and if its not there, you should hit the field and find the answer through trial and error, and of course post what went right and what went wrong.

I hope I've cleared up the fogginess of my first post.

Let me know what you all think...

Mr. Mystery

 

[iceman666]

Mystery is right on. Everyone has heard the adage "its not the destination thats important, its the journey." everyone here that depends on other peoples experience/answers is ultimately costing themselves the value of the journey. The more you understand how you perceive other people, and how other people perceive you, the more powerful you become. Just the same as the power you felt when you realized you were an AFC and wanted to change to a DJ.

I was always a very little scrawny kid growing up. Yet I was one of the best athletes in my town. My passion was baseball, in specific a pitcher. Every time I stepped on the mound, I felt like a star. Every time I looked down and stared at the catcher's mitt, I only had one visualization in my mind, blowing the batter away. It would never cross my mind that the batter would hit it. Was that the only reason I was good...hell no, like anything else, you passionately work at achieving your goal, you love the feeling of getting stronger, better, more prepared. You learn how to keep the batter guessing. And its a combination of knowing what to do in your mind, and executing in physicality.

Anything less than complete focus and confidence in what you do will result in defeat. That goes for anything in life. If your a football fan, you always see what happens to teams go into prevent defenses-they get scored on. Playing not to lose will only allow defeat.

Approaching a girl looking afraid is like throwing a hanging curveball, its just asking to get smashed out of the park. They may whiff, but is it your pitch? or is it their ineptitude? you'll never know if your good or lucky...But why are you afraid? is it because all the fans will boo you if you give up a dinger...It shouldn't be, half the fans are always rooting against you anyways. Is it because you hate yourself for failing...No, its probably because you realized you should have done something different. And you won't forget it like a quote in a book, or a list of "DJ Qualities" or anything else other than you being there, seeing the cause and consequence of what you did.

But you only learn that by stepping up to the mound and throwing your best pitch, be it a heater, curve or changeup. Ultimately its just you on the mound......

 

[Mr. Mystery]

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Mr. Mystery

 

[Mr. Mystery]

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Mr. Mystery

 

[hardwork]

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[Stackthestyles]

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