Before I screw anything up as usual

[S.Y.L]

So theres this girl, me and her have been talking to eachother once in a while, and I'm pretty sure she might be interested, but her friend says she also likes another guy (which would never go out with her lol), and wouldn't tell me if she liked me.

Her friend, I almost went out with a long time ago, but I think she got bored and stuff, cuz I never ever talked to her in person at all, so it never happened. I don't wanna do the same thing here.

I have only talked to her in person a few times though, so It might be too early to ask her out I think.

We used to talk on facebook a bit, but whenever I go on now, she goes off a few minutes later, but I doubt that means anything, so I never talk to her on facebook.

I try to avoid to, cuz of the friend zone, and that I can't use kino or anything, and it should only be used to organize dates and stuff.

Should I just talk to her more often in person and stuff, then ask her out later right?

 

[jeffthechef]

reassurance is nice..but an alpha doesn't need it
i know we're only in high school so this statement does not fully apply..we're still developing

BUT..facebook, phone, texts, myspace, email
are tools for attaining reassurace or even doubt as you might see her in pictures with her arms around another guy even if they are just friends..or so you think

INSTEAD..try to use these tools only to break the barrier...you can't go up to random girls in high school and expect to be able to work your skillz...high school girls are too young for this...SAD AS IT MAY BE..and yes it's really sad
girls still care about social proof and all that superficial bull****

so what do you have to do..i wouldn't give in to the pressures of having to be popular...if you happen to become popular..great..but don't take it as one of your achievements..because it's really not one...just use those tools to break the stranger barrier
after you meet her sometimes..which you have..you can use those tools..facebook in this case..to talk to her a bit...a week is good..all the while continue the conversation in person for about a week more...her interest will usually peak in the first two weeks..after that she begins to forget about you because she sees nothing happening....best of all..just do it in the first two to three weeks..not really a set time limit..but i think it's most beneficial...then ask her out somewehre..of course don't ask her out directly using those exact words...if it goes well..you should be able to detect it in her interactions with you...keep hanging ont he weekends and escalating kino..eventually she'll ask you about your guys' status...

hope that helps

 

[S.Y.L]

I'm just about as popular as her. And shes never had a boyfriend before or anything close either, and yeah, with a lot of girls, I ask em for homework help on facebook to break the ice, then talk with them in class the next day, to not be awkward, always works.

 

[S.Y.L]

anyone else?