Been going for and using emails instead

[Mid3Way]

Hello,

Just wanted to say that this forum and the vibe here is awesome. Just about improvement and very little negative thoughts. Lately I have been trying to close with an email only instead (although will try telling her to give me her number as well once she agrees) and then sending something like this 2 days later:

"Hello <her name>,

This is Mid3Way. I enjoyed meeting you <where we met>. I think it's cool/interesting that <something I liked about her personality/skills/etc. during initial talk>. I'd like to talk to you again. Would you like to get a coffee <give two choices of definite times and places>? "

Any opinions on this or how it should be reworded? Finally, what do you do, if anything, if there is no response at all?

 

[MisterMcGee]

Booring way to talk to a person, let alone a woman. Is that a business meeting?

 

[Mid3Way]

Point Taken.

Haha. Point taken. How would you phrase it however? My goal is simply to get her alone again and see if I still find her interesting/fun. I think I made my intentions reasonably clear during initial meeting with lots of EC, smiling, looking her over, standing closer, telling her that I think she's an interesting girl, etc. What do you think of this as an improvement:

"Hello <her name>,

I enjoyed meeting you <where we met>. I'm wondering if you're fun in addition to <insert personality trait/skills/etc. that I liked>. We should grab a coffee <choice of definite times/places> and then go squirrel fishing in the park nearby."

Squirrel fishing is exactly what it sounds like. If she can't go little girl silly and playful doing that she's probably boring.

 

[LinkinParkROX]

What's EC? And personally I'd write this in an e-mail.

Hey Maddy,

I had a pretty sweet time a few days back. We should totally get together again sometime. Squirrel fishing & the park perhaps? Haha, call me when you get this. Cheers.

I bet this would draw a smile on her face & she'd call the second she receives it. Short and sweet. You don't want to say "I enjoyed meeting you <where we met>" because you don't want to come off as the kind of guy who would remember exactly where you guys met and every other detail. Something blurry/unclear would work better. Also notice how I don't say "I had a pretty sweet time with you a few days back.". Never let her know you had a good time because of her. Leave it a mystery. Let her ask herself, "I wonder why he had a good time. Maybe because of me? Or was it because of his other friends?" Personally I refrain from using the word "you" with women when referring to past dates/meets.

I'm wondering if you're fun in addition to <insert personality trait/skills/etc. that I liked>

This sounds a bit like complimenting. Be careful, I hope you know what you're doing. You don't want to compliment her too much, or you'll come off as needy. Something like "I wonder if you'd be as much fun alone. " Would work better because that will make her try to win you over more, and at the same time make your intentions more clear, smooth & subtly, of course. It'll make it crystal clear to her that it's a "date" date as they say. And you don't want to give her a choice of set times & places. Just tell her when's best for you. If she can't make it, her loss. "We should totally grab a coffee tomorrow at 7. "

I loved the squirrel fishing bit. It cracked me up. Good job! And good luck!

 

[COD]

well U got the date so thats worth an round of applause.

RULE OF THUMB-the hotter the chic is the more OPTIONS she has. ONLINE seducing a hot chic will require a fair amount of attention grabbing.

Clever/funny emails and a phone number will work in your favor. Second dates are a little more tricky.

You have to make yourself standout and keep the spotlight on you. Tricky because too much and U appear desperate , too little and she explores her other options. Its subtle persistance that ultimately wins them over.

Follow up emails.............really pointless.........U got the date and her digits.......leave the virtual world behind. Make a connection with your voice, presence.

Relying on artificial methods to keep you in the spotlight is the lazy mans way to seduction. THE MORE TIME SHE SPENDS ONLINE THE MORE MEN WILL CONTACT HER.........get her on the phone, get her on her way over to your place, etc.

 

[Mid3Way]

These are all good suggestions. I am not quite confident enough (first time doing this) to say something like the rewrite below (based on your advice) - but next time I will do it unflinchingly and stop procrastinating about writing an email to girl.

The reason I'm going with the compliment is to try and indicate what I want and why I'm asking this (the conversation with her started business-like). I also made a personality compliment to her in person that may have been an error. Anyway, the rewrite:

"Hello <her name>,

This is Mid3Way. Last <day we met> was entertaining. I'm wondering if you're a fun girl. Would you like to get a coffee <definite time and place> and go squirrel fishing? "

COD:

I didn't ask for her number in addition (mistake no doubt) to email and I have not received a response to the email as worded in the first post. I am wondering if it's worth it to send another email trying again. The definite times mentioned in previous email have passed by now.

 

[eaglez1177]

Dude your making this whole situation seem like rocket science lol. Just grow a pair and ask her in person.

 

[Mid3Way]

I'd have to walk into an office building to ask her in person and she might not even be there.