Been chasin for a while

[kamrhon]

Alright guys,

I've been after this gal for some time. Ya'll know the routine. I've gotta have her. Thing is, I've noticed that she responds more to me when I pull away. Well, when she responds and gets nearer, I pursue her. When I pursue, she retreats, so I retreat. When I retreat, she's calling again at midnight hours. It's a cyclical thing. F*@# going in circles. Now that I've noticed the pattern, I've developed a plan to stay moving forward. I'm just gonna stay in retreat mode and keep her "responding" to it. Any advice on my tactic, any stones of wisdom I can stand on for when the storm of attraction comes beating on my beaches?

Cameron

 

[Phyzzle]

Well, be more specific. What happens when you retreat? Does she start calling you, or does she start GROPING you?

My experience says that she likely only calls you when it's midnight, she's buzzing, and the 6 other guys she's rather talk to aren't picking up.

 

[Victory Unlimited]

Yo Kamrhon,


Do yourself a favor and do a search in all forums for the term "Attention Whorre". Also, you might wanna try several different spellings for the word "whorre", but the word "attention" will probably remain consistent. And while you're at it, also look up the term "flake" or "Biscuit chick" too.

But the short definition of an Attention Whorre is a chick who gets off on men giving her "attention" the same way a man gets off on a woman giving him ACTUAL sex. They are emotional junkies enslaved by their ongoing need to feel desired, BUT they want NOTHING MORE----at least, not from "you" that is...

And a FLAKE is any woman that acts like she wants to do something with you but BACKS OUT at the last minute, or just pulls a no-show on you altogether. And women who "practice" this type of behavior are said to be "flaking".

But again, do a search on this and you will find MORE comprehensive examples of what I'm talking about here, soldier. And what you find will give you a pretty good idea of what kind of girl you're dealing with, I believe.

And as far as a tactic is concerned, the best thing I can tell you is that the only way to call out an Attention Whorre who constantly flakes is by putting her on the spot. Ask for the hookup/date IMMEDIATELY.

And then just sit back and shut the fukk up while you listen to her hem and haw and come up with EVERY kind of excuse in the book to avoid following through with whatever it is you have just proposed. lol

This is probably the swiftest, and most decisive way to EXPOSE women who are Attention Whorres and Flakes. And once they are revealed as such, my advice to you would be to focus your valuable time and attention on BETTER, more mature, more genuinely INTERESTED targets.


March on.

 

[Metro3pilot]

Oh don't I know this story ....

if you really must do this, here's what I suggest

go out and get a girl or several girls even, who really want you and does not play so many games, then completely forget about this chick. the day you could care less and I'm not talking about acting like it ..I'm talking you really don't care ...that's the day them panties will come off

2 things I must say

1. It's not worth it
2. nothing will change after you bang her, to expand on this ..the games will only get worse and
more hurtful

This is so much more headache then you want ..and it's far easier to just get a girl who likes you ...

a girl who plays games either don't really like you or is in no way ready for a relationship ...either way you lose ! !

good luck

:rockon:

 

[Sinistar]

You have Oneitis

 

[jophil28]

Alright guys,


When I pursue, she retreats, so I retreat. When I retreat, she's calling again at midnight hours. It's a cyclical thing. F*@# going in circles.
Cameron

Yes it is a cyclic thing ,and guess what ? IT WILL NEVER BE ANY DIFFERENT.
I have struck three of these women in the past few years and all were in their 40's so age does not cure this disorder. These women are' little scared girls in adult bodies'. Usually VERY attractive in order to get you to look their way. They make a point of being and looking "hot"..

Read Victory's post in detail -it spells out exactly what you need to know -read it a few times until his explanation of 'Attention Wh)re' sinks in to your befuddled brain. You need to be able to pick these 'women' early in the game.You can waste a lot of YOUR valuable time in playing THEIR games.
These women are intent on stealing your time and attention for their own satisfaction. They are good at playing and they snare genuine men easily by giving just enough 'tease and promise' to keep the guy interested.

Another point - AW's are notoriious cheaters. Their adolescent need for male attention is so high that they will date other guys behind your back if she feels that her addiction to your attention is not being fed by you.
Attention from men is their drug of choice and they are not too choosey about how they get it or from whom..

These women are not fit to waste your time on.

 

[kamrhon]

Easily said...

Thank you, fellas. I see the truth in your words, but, I have to admit, it's not what I wanna hear. Given that it is the truth, I must abide by it. Thank God for places like this where I can find reason in the midst of my whirlwind.

-C

 

[KontrollerX]

You can also do everything right with them by manipulating their emotions and being the top guy in every area money, health, fame, whatever you name it and they will still trade you up eventually simply because they get bored and need something new and feel the need to re-invent themselves and take on a new man's personality to mirror.

I used to mod a forum about this and there was a guy there who was married to one of these for 23 years but she turned on him for some loser plumber.

Thats how fvcked up these women are.

Good work taking the advice to disengage kamrhon.

 

[Victory Unlimited]

Kamrhon,


Think of it this way:

Either accept the things that you learn here that resonate with you as "truth", AND put them into action to BETTER yourself and PROTECT yourself, OR...

...allow yourself to be led down that DARK path to being USED, and ABUSED, and STRIPPED of your self-respect by the type of women out here who won't even remember your NAME by the time they're "finished" with you...

 

[kamrhon]

Well said, Victory. Thank you, all.

 

[jophil28]

Kamrhon,


Think of it this way:

Either accept the things that you learn here that resonate with you as "truth", AND put them into action to BETTER yourself and PROTECT yourself, OR...

...allow yourself to be led down that DARK path to being USED, and ABUSED, and STRIPPED of your self-respect by the type of women out here who won't even remember your NAME by the time they're "finished" with you...

This is golden.

The sort of women who are ABUSERS usually come packaged as "an angel of light "... The giveaway signs of the AW's (aka Users and Abusers) are many and varied however they all exhibit some signs and symptoms which include -

Unstable relationship history (Lots of stormy breakups )
Bad or neglectful or abusing father-
Teenage promiscuity
Compulsive flirty behavior.
A preoccupation with their appearance .
Drama queen behavior ( this is overt or can be covert )
Talking about other guys in your presence.
Mindfvcking games.
If they give anything to you it sometimes 'feels" like a tactic.
Thet use sex, or the 'promise' of sex ,to hook you in.
They use sex to reward or punish you .
The more attention and affection you give, the more she wants.
She become hostile or distant if you expect closeness or commitment from her in return.


These women are not fit to be recipients of your time and affection.
Read up on NPD, BPD and HPD.. If a lot of what you read "resonates" with you ,head for the door.

Good hunting.

 

[decades]

find another woman who is emotionally and physically "available". she is going to make you crazy.

 

[Sinistar]

I swear, these chicks with bad childhoods, alcoholic/addict parents, sh!tty fathers, distant mothers and the entire Cluster-B category lead more AFCs to discover the matrix than anything else. Is this bad .... or is this maybe good?

 

[edger]

My experience says that she likely only calls you when it's midnight, she's buzzing, and the 6 other guys she's rather talk to aren't picking up.

I experienced the "when she's buzzing/drunk" scenario back in 2001 with this 32 yr old Russian chick( I think that's how old she was if I'm not mistaken). Only time she would wanted to f*ck was when she was buzzed/drunk. Otherwise, she wanted NOTHING to do with me on a sexual level. First time she did it, she calls me one night around exactly like you said, 12 midnight, and is like "Hi, I'm drunk, I'm at xyz bar, let's hang out". Stupid me at the time, I'm thinking, "awesome, I'm gonna get some". But when I got there, I was put right back into the "friendzone", as she acted like she wanted nothing to do with me sexually. Obviously she had sobered up by the time I got there. She even gave me the rundown how I was in her exact words, "too good for her" and how all the other guys she's dated were such "jerks", and how I'm not like that. She would go on to do it a second time, though this was 5-6 months later after we had stopped hanging out, calls my cell at 12 or 1am in the morning(my dad picked up, as he had my cell that night, he needed to borrow it. He told me the next morning that she had called). Stupid me again, I called her back, only to never have her return my call. Then like 7 months later, I decided one day to call her out of the blue, and we hang out. Of course nothing happens, doesn't show ANY sexual interest, and she starts flirting with my friend. So a few weeks/a month go by, and I get a call one night, at once again, 12am, she's all drunk, wants to hang out..even bluntly tells me she wants to f*ck, but I refuse because I'm annoyed that she's pulling the same crap again. I told her "you're only like this when you're drunk". So, she tells me, "you're complicated". Hahaha, aint that a laugh. I tell her "I have to go", but she's still dragging on how she wants to get together, and won't get off the phone. I finally hang up. I think she tried calling back(can't remember, it was so long ago), but I didn't pick up. She calls me the next day on my home phone, but I wasn't home. My dad picked up the phone, told me she called. I never called her back, and that was the end of that, never heard from her again.

Here's a chick who was good looking, drunk/buzzed at a bar all these times, yet calls ME. You would think a good looking woman would have no problem f*cking some other dude those nights, instead of calling me, especially since she's at a bar. Strange.

Anyway, I just wanted to tell ya my tale. Yup, chicks get beer goggles too.

 

[jophil28]

I swear, these chicks with bad childhoods, alcoholic/addict parents, sh!tty fathers, distant mothers and the entire Cluster-B category lead more AFCs to discover the matrix than anything else. Is this bad .... or is this maybe good?

Great observation Sinistar - sooo true.
Beware the AxisII Cluster B whackjobs - the trick in handling them is to reach forward to the button marked 'EJECT' and parachute yourselfself back down to Planet Earth.

 

[jophil28]

Here's a chick who was good looking, drunk/buzzed at a bar all these times, yet calls ME. You would think a good looking woman would have no problem f*cking some other dude those nights, instead of calling me, especially since she's at a bar. Strange.

Anyway, I just wanted to tell ya my tale. Yup, chicks get beer goggles too.

Hey, Ed, You should know the signs and behavior of a drama queen, attention wh)re by now. SHe wanted to fvck with your mind not your dyck. Just another looney sleezebucket dame getting off on making a guy dance to that ole tune called .."Ya want some-here I am ."

 

[edger]

Hey, Ed, You should know the signs and behavior of a drama queen, attention wh)re by now. SHe wanted to fvck with your mind not your dyck. Just another looney sleezebucket dame getting off on making a guy dance to that ole tune called .."Ya want some-here I am ."

I know the signs of an attention wh*re, drama queen exceptionally well how 'bout I add. I've dealt with enough of 'em. OBVIOUSLY her overall general goal, was to f*ck with my mind and not with my d*ck. But I'm pretty sure she was serious about f*cking(and not playing games during those instances) while in those buzzed/drunken states. What I was trying to say where you quoted me was, if the b*tch was so drunk and horny, why not just hook up with some guy at the bar she was at and use her beer goggles for him? Why not make better use of her time and f*ck some dude who's right there at the bar, instead of wasting her time going out of her way to call me. The time she spent on the phone and calling me, she could've been f*cking some dude. That was what I meant by strange.