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Becoming complacent

Huffman

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Do you guys get the feeling that, as you're older and more experienced, you get complacent with your achievements?

I just went out solo tonight (my friends suck), and I frankly didn't get up the balls to do anythig interesting. I mean I don't stop girls on the street, but I would usually go into a pub, have a drink, chat up some 2sets of girls near the bar.

I didn't even manage. I ended up having to force myself to even enter two bars. Long story short, inside were absolute weinerfests, but the 3rd bar which should have been good I chickened out on. Pathetic! Just because I wanted something, and I didn't dare to even try.

Back in the day I used to do crazy openers&stuff, just for fun, just to prove that I could. I was so ****y and ballsy, but all that is gone now. Funnily enough, I look alot better and am experienced today, so I actually get laid alot more (medium quality girls chase me).

But it really makes me think I've become complacent. I do get laid, but not with the girls I REALLY want. Makes me think that all the courage I thought I had - I never had it to begin with.

Anybody else in here feel like a balding wannabe James Bond? :p
 

Huffman

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I realize that there are better options than going out solo (like building a better social circle) but, for me, it's simply that I wanted something (really felt like chatting up some girls) and didn't go for it.

Sometimes it really feels like all those achievements were for nothing. What good are skills, if I can't summon them at need?
 

Fruitbat

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the skills are there, perhaps, like me, experience teaches you there are few worthy females in bars? Are you just looking for a lay? Or are you looking for an interesting and decent woman?
 

Huffman

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It's besides the point, fact is that I chickened out on something I wanted to do.

Getting a number, getting laid, doesn't matter all that much. I felt like fun human interaction yesterday but I didn't have it.
 

Rainman4707

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Huffman - What are good skills, if I cannot summon them at need?

Rainman - Don't summon them, just do it!
 

piranha45

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I'd argue its all about how many orgasms you're letting yourself have... cut back on them if you want the drive... Makes all the difference in the world for me, hah.
 
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