I’m sure one is able to logically understand this - to not place attractive women on a pedestal. But how, in practice and reality doeS one get over the anxiety of talking to hot women without turning in to mush?
From your experience how did you start being able to forget about the fact that they are indeed super attractive without giving them automatic power; starting from the opening to eventual relationship? If you have personally experienced this. And I’m talking about women who are genuinely attractive, not the‘hot’ lip injection bimbo types.
I am not into "exotic" "striking"" looking women. Giant painted on eyebrows, lip injections, airbrushed makeup, GIANT azzes and all that. It's not my scene. I'm into slender, fit, petit, girls with long legs who really don't need to wear any makeup to look hot. The girls I date are down to earth, into the out-doors, don't go to clubs, are smart, and naturally beautiful. Most participate in some type of sport (which is where I meet the majority of them).
I used to be terrified of talking to women. I was nervous, I felt like they were a prize I needed to "win", and I was so in my head about it. I would have conversations by conducting interviews. So where are you from? Oh yeah? Where do you work? Oh cool. What do you do for fun? NO WAY THATS SO COOL!!!! Basically the typical blue-pill crap. I might be exaggerating a little bit, but when I was really nervous, I'm sure I had plenty of interactions like that. But I fixed it.
To directly answer your question:
1. Accept that a woman's confidence is often based solely on how men have treated her since early teens based on her looks alone.
2. Really think about what you are afraid of? The only logical answer is rejection. That's literally the worst thing that can happen when meeting a girl for the first time. That's it. Is that so bad? Who cares if some stranger "rejects" you. She isn't rejecting you as a person because she doesn't know you.
3. As things move into a relationship, you avoid giving them power by knowing you can replace her, by knowing you have an awesome fun life with a lot of friends so you don't need her, and leveraging red pill to understand that you will not get some sort of magical love out of her. You'll get sex, and some companionship (the latter of which you can also get from friends), and in trade you'll have to make compromises. Is all that really that big of a deal? Some huge prize?
4. Approach a LOT of women, until you have cured yourself. I do still believe in cold approaching, but not setting out for the sole purpose of doing it, however, I make an exception to that last rule if you are new and trying to rid yourself of some hang-ups. I had a three month period where I would cold approach dozens of women per week. The goal wasn't to get laid (though that was always nice when it happened). The goal was to learn to pull the trigger, realize that most women are open to having an interaction with you if you come across well and are calibrated, that less than 1% of the time will you get a really bad response, and to hone your conversation skills so you have having meaningful interactions and getting to know them at the core, instead of just surface level BS. It really helps your confidence.
5. Learn to put girls on the defense and have them qualify themselves to you. This is where you get your power. Once you've done this with enough girls, their power is gone because you realize you wield the same power as them, and you can use it as you wish. And because you know how it works, you don't fear it from them and you know how to respond to them if they try to apply it to you.
Talking to women is a muscle and a skill. When you get out of practice, to some degree, you'll be a bit nervous when you approach a hot girl, but the more you practice, the easier it gets. During the middle to end of my cold approach months, I had zero fear or anxiety. I might get a small amount of anxiety when approaching a girl today (since I've been dating a girl for 9 months) but not enough to stop me or make me nervous enough in the interaction that I wouldn't act right.
