Sneevox
Senior Don Juan
I get really vibrant signals from girls all the time. I decide to pursue one of them, then maybe I get pretty far with them... and they're really mad hot for me... then suddenly, I stop feeling attracted to them.
The girl gets clingy. She starts to feel really hot for you.
Well why does the girl start feeling more hot for you?
You begin to enter the mindset of a warrior, and so you stop prioritizing women. They give strong signals, and at the time, you give them back, then you suddenly stop giving them back. They don't know why, but you do. It's because you have other things to do. Your other "plates" aren't just girls. You're prioritizing your time with things that you care about, and that's more on your mind than responding to every little signal they give, yet you have your warrior vision on, so you're actually aware of what they're doing, but you're not responding. This lack of response drives them to get your attention again. They sense that you have a strong sense of priority, and it all started with training your warrior vision.
Warrior vision?
When you become a warrior, you must be aware of everything around you and be ready to set different things as priority. This is done through direct eye contact and peripheral vision.
You can consider those things in your direct eye contact to be in your direct focus.
You can consider other things in your peripheral that you're actively focusing on, but not as much as direct eye focus, to be in your passive focus.
You can thirdly consider things that you barely focus on but generally understand that they are there to be in your background focus.
Well what does all of this have to do with-
Just listen. These types of focus don't only exist in physical eye focus. There are things in life that you prioritize with your direct focus, passive focus and background focus mentally, and the ability to change your mental state of mind starts with firstly learning to physically lower the value you place on things you look at. This is done by training your warrior eyes.
Makes sense. So how do I do that?
Start here: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=150895
Thanks, I'll try to read that when I can. How does this tie into the girl feeling more hot for you?
Well, when you train your ability to prioritize things, and you learn what is truly important (not girls), the ladies tend to pick up on that. They know that you have the ability to be a good protector and provider. This means that you truly have to be training your mind, body and spirit all the time. You must be building on what you value the most in your life, and if this is something that you can not always rely on (such as women), you do not have anything stable to rest your emotions on, and therefore you can not concentrate on everything that is happening at every moment. You lose the ability to focus and know that no matter what happens, you will be able to remain happy.
You become outcome dependent...
Precisely. If you learn to build something stable to depend on, you can remain calm in all situations. You are able to be clear minded. You can think "No matter what happens, I will always be happy with what I have built for myself."
Oh... I get it. You can't be calm when you're talking to a girl if you know that you are depending on winning her to be happy or feel successful!
Yes! That is the alpha male mindset. It's not caring what happens, and always just having fun with what happens. You don't think "Oh, I'll get her no matter what! I might as well have fun with it!" like Pook said. No, doing that would be leaving room for the option to depend on winning the girl to be happy. If you think "Oh, I'll get her no matter what!" and you don't get her, your pride is crushed. You must depend on your dreams and your work for pride, not women.
So I literally need to stop focusing so much on women and talking to girls will be easier? I get it... I've been being too dependent on whether or not I get the girl to feel successful, but the real success is outside of getting the girls!
Yes, that's the key to getting women. They want a guy that can be happy without her so that when she has a womanly emotional fit, she can have someone to go so that she can cry and regain balance whilst you are never even budged by things like that. A true warrior can remain calm in every situation because he knows he can handle it. A warrior stays true to himself and his heart, and he is noble and courageous. A warrior knows what is truly important, and can train his focus... and to become a warrior, you must first start with the physical.
So I start with training my warrior eyes?
Yes, and it's also a pretty good idea to conform to the primal desires of earthlings and lift weights to get big muscles. Everybody knows a good warrior is physically strong.
I'm suddenly really excited to wear a suit of armor and hold a broadsword!
This is SoSuave.net, not the renaissance fair. Take that sh!t somewhere else... but yeah, go ahead and train your warrior eyes. That's a good way to start. Learn to FOCUS! I also find that masturbating and smoking weed are hindrances to my ability to focus, and are therefore pushing me from becoming a warrior. Those things aren't true for everybody, but I just generally recommend to stay away from them.
Good luck, my friend, and Namaste.
Namaste to you, Sneevox!
The girl gets clingy. She starts to feel really hot for you.
Well why does the girl start feeling more hot for you?
You begin to enter the mindset of a warrior, and so you stop prioritizing women. They give strong signals, and at the time, you give them back, then you suddenly stop giving them back. They don't know why, but you do. It's because you have other things to do. Your other "plates" aren't just girls. You're prioritizing your time with things that you care about, and that's more on your mind than responding to every little signal they give, yet you have your warrior vision on, so you're actually aware of what they're doing, but you're not responding. This lack of response drives them to get your attention again. They sense that you have a strong sense of priority, and it all started with training your warrior vision.
Warrior vision?
When you become a warrior, you must be aware of everything around you and be ready to set different things as priority. This is done through direct eye contact and peripheral vision.
You can consider those things in your direct eye contact to be in your direct focus.
You can consider other things in your peripheral that you're actively focusing on, but not as much as direct eye focus, to be in your passive focus.
You can thirdly consider things that you barely focus on but generally understand that they are there to be in your background focus.
Well what does all of this have to do with-
Just listen. These types of focus don't only exist in physical eye focus. There are things in life that you prioritize with your direct focus, passive focus and background focus mentally, and the ability to change your mental state of mind starts with firstly learning to physically lower the value you place on things you look at. This is done by training your warrior eyes.
Makes sense. So how do I do that?
Start here: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=150895
Thanks, I'll try to read that when I can. How does this tie into the girl feeling more hot for you?
Well, when you train your ability to prioritize things, and you learn what is truly important (not girls), the ladies tend to pick up on that. They know that you have the ability to be a good protector and provider. This means that you truly have to be training your mind, body and spirit all the time. You must be building on what you value the most in your life, and if this is something that you can not always rely on (such as women), you do not have anything stable to rest your emotions on, and therefore you can not concentrate on everything that is happening at every moment. You lose the ability to focus and know that no matter what happens, you will be able to remain happy.
You become outcome dependent...
Precisely. If you learn to build something stable to depend on, you can remain calm in all situations. You are able to be clear minded. You can think "No matter what happens, I will always be happy with what I have built for myself."
Oh... I get it. You can't be calm when you're talking to a girl if you know that you are depending on winning her to be happy or feel successful!
Yes! That is the alpha male mindset. It's not caring what happens, and always just having fun with what happens. You don't think "Oh, I'll get her no matter what! I might as well have fun with it!" like Pook said. No, doing that would be leaving room for the option to depend on winning the girl to be happy. If you think "Oh, I'll get her no matter what!" and you don't get her, your pride is crushed. You must depend on your dreams and your work for pride, not women.
So I literally need to stop focusing so much on women and talking to girls will be easier? I get it... I've been being too dependent on whether or not I get the girl to feel successful, but the real success is outside of getting the girls!
Yes, that's the key to getting women. They want a guy that can be happy without her so that when she has a womanly emotional fit, she can have someone to go so that she can cry and regain balance whilst you are never even budged by things like that. A true warrior can remain calm in every situation because he knows he can handle it. A warrior stays true to himself and his heart, and he is noble and courageous. A warrior knows what is truly important, and can train his focus... and to become a warrior, you must first start with the physical.
So I start with training my warrior eyes?
Yes, and it's also a pretty good idea to conform to the primal desires of earthlings and lift weights to get big muscles. Everybody knows a good warrior is physically strong.
I'm suddenly really excited to wear a suit of armor and hold a broadsword!
This is SoSuave.net, not the renaissance fair. Take that sh!t somewhere else... but yeah, go ahead and train your warrior eyes. That's a good way to start. Learn to FOCUS! I also find that masturbating and smoking weed are hindrances to my ability to focus, and are therefore pushing me from becoming a warrior. Those things aren't true for everybody, but I just generally recommend to stay away from them.
Good luck, my friend, and Namaste.
Namaste to you, Sneevox!