The following is based on my observations from the "DJs" that came before me; the guys I watched and learned from in the field many years ago. I know that there are quite a few guys here that may not have the same opportunity to see it live like I did, so in the spirit of thanks to those guys that mentored me long ago, I offer up this little chunk of insight with hopes that it will help you as much as it did me.
There is one simple fact rooted deeply in social life that is paramount to pushing your game to exponential levels, and that is that people like to be associated with interesting people. The more interesting you are, the more people will speak highly of you to boost their own social status. If you can achieve this, your game will begin to develop in the absence of your presence. This is when it develops a life of it's own and works for you, even when you're sleeping and completely unaware.
Imagine living your whole life as a construction worker making a meager wage. There is going to be a point in your life when you are going to need a loan, be that for a home or a car, mounting medical bills or whatever it may be. The hoops and tricks you'll have to go through to get approved will not be easy on your income. You'll have to prove yourself. You'll have to chase it. You'll have to work very hard just to be considered for a small loan with high interest, will more than likely be rejected many times, unthankfully dragged through the system and when it finally comes you will possibly end up stuck with terms you may regret later down the road.
The millionaire, on the other hand, has no such issues. Banks pound their doors down offering larger loans with greater deals. Smaller payments. Lower interest. Approvals rushed through. Free perks not offered to "regular" customers (the carpenter) and so on. They can send the banker packing until they come back with a better offer. It all comes easy to them when they need it the least.
Social life and women work under the exact same principles.
If you are socially meager you will need a woman. You will need to chase them. You will need to prove yourself and you will rarely, if ever, get what you were after. You will fail repetitively and often have to settle on terms you may not like. Socially, you're the carpenter.
If you are socially rich, women will want you when you don't need them. They will chase you. You won't need to prove anything and you will often get what you want because it is simply up for offer and there for the taking. You can pick and choose and hold out for better. Socially, you are the millionaire.
So how do you go from carpenter to millionaire? Word of mouth.
Do something that will get people to talk positively about you. There are only 3 requirements in what this thing must achieve:
1) Positive Association: As I said earlier, people like to be associated with interesting people. There was this particular night club I use to frequent that often showcased some of the best local bands in the area. But from time to time, major label acts would play the small venue under an alternate name. Every time this happened, my friend Henry's name would inject into many conversations. Why? Because Henry played in a band that often played at that club, and he was usually able to not only get a few people in on the guest list free of charge, but get you backstage after the show for the party. All Henry needed to become the mystical man to meet for anyone that didn't know him was an average man's effort to be seen as a connected person.
2) Entertainment Value: Women will not claw at each other to get to you if you're the go to man for tax returns, at least not on a sexual level. You want your association to possess an entertainment value. In the previous night club example, the value was simply access to entertainment. But you don't have to be on the VIP list of the city's hottest hot spots. You can just as easily BE the entertainment, and you do not have to be a musician to achieve that. Athletes, actors, even roadies and camera crews have entertainment value. Whatever it may be, it must possess the quality of being a social catalyst. It should lead to nights out or events worth talking about.
A friend of mine worked for a local record store, and he was asked to work overtime at a booth for a local show. Turns out his job was to simply pass out pictures of the bands to people in line waiting to get their autographs. He had access to the booth the bands were sitting in. Women were all over him.
3) Connectivity: If you take this whole article and put it into a spectrum, the millionaire at one end and the carpenter at the opposite end, you will more than likely never be completely on one end or the other. There will always be someone higher than you or lower than you. You're job is to continuously associate yourself with higher ups. Whatever your activity may be, it should give you the opportunity to meet people involved in the same activity; people more talented than you, more connected than you. This will ensure that as you become better at what it is you're doing, you have the right access to expand your influences. All spots become vacant at some point. The DJs of yesteryear eventually give way to the DJs of today, just like fortunes are inherited generation to generation. To become a social millionaire you have to first become a social benefactor, and the best way to become a social benefactor is to begin a path that will make your name worth repeating.
Eventually, you won't have to knock on doors anymore. They'll come knocking on yours.
There is one simple fact rooted deeply in social life that is paramount to pushing your game to exponential levels, and that is that people like to be associated with interesting people. The more interesting you are, the more people will speak highly of you to boost their own social status. If you can achieve this, your game will begin to develop in the absence of your presence. This is when it develops a life of it's own and works for you, even when you're sleeping and completely unaware.
Imagine living your whole life as a construction worker making a meager wage. There is going to be a point in your life when you are going to need a loan, be that for a home or a car, mounting medical bills or whatever it may be. The hoops and tricks you'll have to go through to get approved will not be easy on your income. You'll have to prove yourself. You'll have to chase it. You'll have to work very hard just to be considered for a small loan with high interest, will more than likely be rejected many times, unthankfully dragged through the system and when it finally comes you will possibly end up stuck with terms you may regret later down the road.
The millionaire, on the other hand, has no such issues. Banks pound their doors down offering larger loans with greater deals. Smaller payments. Lower interest. Approvals rushed through. Free perks not offered to "regular" customers (the carpenter) and so on. They can send the banker packing until they come back with a better offer. It all comes easy to them when they need it the least.
Social life and women work under the exact same principles.
If you are socially meager you will need a woman. You will need to chase them. You will need to prove yourself and you will rarely, if ever, get what you were after. You will fail repetitively and often have to settle on terms you may not like. Socially, you're the carpenter.
If you are socially rich, women will want you when you don't need them. They will chase you. You won't need to prove anything and you will often get what you want because it is simply up for offer and there for the taking. You can pick and choose and hold out for better. Socially, you are the millionaire.
So how do you go from carpenter to millionaire? Word of mouth.
Do something that will get people to talk positively about you. There are only 3 requirements in what this thing must achieve:
1) Positive Association: As I said earlier, people like to be associated with interesting people. There was this particular night club I use to frequent that often showcased some of the best local bands in the area. But from time to time, major label acts would play the small venue under an alternate name. Every time this happened, my friend Henry's name would inject into many conversations. Why? Because Henry played in a band that often played at that club, and he was usually able to not only get a few people in on the guest list free of charge, but get you backstage after the show for the party. All Henry needed to become the mystical man to meet for anyone that didn't know him was an average man's effort to be seen as a connected person.
2) Entertainment Value: Women will not claw at each other to get to you if you're the go to man for tax returns, at least not on a sexual level. You want your association to possess an entertainment value. In the previous night club example, the value was simply access to entertainment. But you don't have to be on the VIP list of the city's hottest hot spots. You can just as easily BE the entertainment, and you do not have to be a musician to achieve that. Athletes, actors, even roadies and camera crews have entertainment value. Whatever it may be, it must possess the quality of being a social catalyst. It should lead to nights out or events worth talking about.
A friend of mine worked for a local record store, and he was asked to work overtime at a booth for a local show. Turns out his job was to simply pass out pictures of the bands to people in line waiting to get their autographs. He had access to the booth the bands were sitting in. Women were all over him.
3) Connectivity: If you take this whole article and put it into a spectrum, the millionaire at one end and the carpenter at the opposite end, you will more than likely never be completely on one end or the other. There will always be someone higher than you or lower than you. You're job is to continuously associate yourself with higher ups. Whatever your activity may be, it should give you the opportunity to meet people involved in the same activity; people more talented than you, more connected than you. This will ensure that as you become better at what it is you're doing, you have the right access to expand your influences. All spots become vacant at some point. The DJs of yesteryear eventually give way to the DJs of today, just like fortunes are inherited generation to generation. To become a social millionaire you have to first become a social benefactor, and the best way to become a social benefactor is to begin a path that will make your name worth repeating.
Eventually, you won't have to knock on doors anymore. They'll come knocking on yours.
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