Nino-Tk
Master Don Juan
Tell me you haven't seen it or it hasn't happened to you. A guy is walking along casually when his eyes catch a sudden glimpse of some scrumptious and beautiful looking babe, he sees her coming his way and his heart starts pounding hard., perhaps his eyes start darting from left to right, mostly not even looking at the woman. While she's coming, the guy is busy prepping himself up to approach her and before he knows it, the girl has passed, the moment has slipped and its game over
You know that has happened to you more times than you can actually remember and God knows how much it has happened to me. The proper term to describe this phenomenon is known as Approach Anxiety (AA).
What is Approach Anxiety?
Its the state in which you are paralysed to take action and approach a woman. You know you have it when you notice the following in yourself.
• Palpitating heart beat.
• Butterflies in your stomach
• Failure to keep eye contact.
• Fidgety movements i.e. scratching your nose when its not itchy, checking your phone for no apparent reason etc.
• Trying to think of a perfect opener.
• Overwhelming negative thoughts about how she will perceive you physically.
These are but some of the signs that one can detect in themselves. If you wish to improve your skill with the opposite sex, you have to up your approaching game. You can have the most solid game in the world but if you hardly approach the females, you will never possess freedom of choice in your mates.
The solutions to AA;
•3 seconds rule
There's an old-school rule which is called the 3-second rule. It states that you are to approach within 3 seconds of spotting a sexy woman. This eliminates mental masturbation that will keep you inside your head and not the babe.
•Approach 1 woman a day
This is essential. It may seem insignificant but think about it, in a week, you'd have approached 7 new women, that's more than some guys approach in a whole year! Approaching everyday gets you into the positive mindset of taking action despite your nerves.
•Don't take yourself seriously
Its not a matter of life and death, you've got nothing to prove to this girl, if anything, amuse yourself. You aren't auditioning for her, you are just seeing if she's cool enough for you, how's that for a bit of perspective.
•Don't expect anything
All you know about this girl is that she is hot and quite frankly, you'd like to bang her in the near future. When you put expectations in your head like getting her numbers or getting an instant date, you put unnecessary pressure on yourself. Approach and see what happens.
•Don't fear rejection
Rejection is one enemy that can stop you dead in the tracks. Rejection is really pointless. Accept this fact right now: no matter how richer you become, how better you dress, or how nicer you look, some girls will just not like you, and that's OK. Maybe she's having a bad day, her dog died, she's lesbian or she's on her period, either way, rejection isn't a reflection on your value as a person.
Approach, approach, approach, let that be your mantra, you will never completely get rid of the butterflies but you will eventually learn to take action despite that, keep calm and keep approaching. You will never be perfect at this, you needn't be, you just need consistency, that's all.
You know that has happened to you more times than you can actually remember and God knows how much it has happened to me. The proper term to describe this phenomenon is known as Approach Anxiety (AA).
What is Approach Anxiety?
Its the state in which you are paralysed to take action and approach a woman. You know you have it when you notice the following in yourself.
• Palpitating heart beat.
• Butterflies in your stomach
• Failure to keep eye contact.
• Fidgety movements i.e. scratching your nose when its not itchy, checking your phone for no apparent reason etc.
• Trying to think of a perfect opener.
• Overwhelming negative thoughts about how she will perceive you physically.
These are but some of the signs that one can detect in themselves. If you wish to improve your skill with the opposite sex, you have to up your approaching game. You can have the most solid game in the world but if you hardly approach the females, you will never possess freedom of choice in your mates.
The solutions to AA;
•3 seconds rule
There's an old-school rule which is called the 3-second rule. It states that you are to approach within 3 seconds of spotting a sexy woman. This eliminates mental masturbation that will keep you inside your head and not the babe.
•Approach 1 woman a day
This is essential. It may seem insignificant but think about it, in a week, you'd have approached 7 new women, that's more than some guys approach in a whole year! Approaching everyday gets you into the positive mindset of taking action despite your nerves.
•Don't take yourself seriously
Its not a matter of life and death, you've got nothing to prove to this girl, if anything, amuse yourself. You aren't auditioning for her, you are just seeing if she's cool enough for you, how's that for a bit of perspective.
•Don't expect anything
All you know about this girl is that she is hot and quite frankly, you'd like to bang her in the near future. When you put expectations in your head like getting her numbers or getting an instant date, you put unnecessary pressure on yourself. Approach and see what happens.
•Don't fear rejection
Rejection is one enemy that can stop you dead in the tracks. Rejection is really pointless. Accept this fact right now: no matter how richer you become, how better you dress, or how nicer you look, some girls will just not like you, and that's OK. Maybe she's having a bad day, her dog died, she's lesbian or she's on her period, either way, rejection isn't a reflection on your value as a person.
Approach, approach, approach, let that be your mantra, you will never completely get rid of the butterflies but you will eventually learn to take action despite that, keep calm and keep approaching. You will never be perfect at this, you needn't be, you just need consistency, that's all.
