Bearing and Posture

[AmsterdamAssassin]

In a conversation, the ladies and I were talking about the importance of body posture in selecting lovers. The essence was that some women select future lovers on their 'bearing and posture'. One of the reasons were masculine men tended to have a more 'military bearing', but people who are alert and aware of their surroundings just seem more interesting. An active and aware body posture would probably indicate an active and aware mind. An upright body posture shows confidence; slumped shoulders show defeat.

And I see for myself how important a woman's poise is for my attraction; not for nothing the majority of the women I've dated are graceful and lithe on their feet, like dancers/yoga/martial artists. A graceless woman plodding around is unattractive to me. And women often comment favourably on my posture and bearing.

How much do you look at someone's body language for attraction?

 

[DJ Novice]

It’s only one feature. A woman’s personality can detract from any outward physical characteristics. You need to assess the whole package. Which can be hard as a woman’s real personality is often only revealed through their actions over time and in certain situations.

But initially for me the way a woman carries herself is something I look for.

 

[zekko]

people who are alert and aware of their surroundings just seem more interesting. An active and aware body posture would probably indicate an active and aware mind.

The posture stuff has been talked about a lot, but being alert and aware basically means you are more alive. More fun, energetic, and more healthy. All attractive qualities.