be proud of me

[backbreaker]

Okay, first of all, I posted about this one particular girl around a month and a half, maybe 2 months ago.

Basically I had cut off contact with her to move on, because it was becoming not worth it. She had/has a BF for over 2 years, and basically likes the emotional support I provide when we talk. she gets her "fix" and then moves on.

Okay, I am watching the game tonight, and I get a call with a special ring. I know it's one of two people, and it was this girl. I honeslty haven't talked to her in around 1 month and we are pretty good friends, so I was pretty happy to hear from her. She had some pretty good news and we talked for a while. Turns out her mom was on a booty call and she couldn't find anything to do.

While she was on the phone I was getting dressed. Instead of asking her, I told her to meet me at the waffle house. I figured we could kill time, see each other, and I get get a steak in the process.

So I get there, and mind you that was half the battle, because my lexus has rear wheel drive and it was pouring down earlier... anyone knows anything aobut cars knows that is not a good mix, espically on hills and curves, which is all Little Rock is. Anyway, the few times I have seen her recently was always after work, so I was never really "dressed" for the occusion like I would be if I were trying to pick up someone. First, she is shocked by the way I looked. i have also gotten new contacts and lost 12 pounds of fat (gained 3 pounds of muscle) since the last time I spoke with her. She never actually complimened me on the way I looked, but she didn't have to say anything the way she was checking me out.


So we are off, and the very first thing I note is that, although she is good looking, she is by no means a goddess that I made her out to be in the past. I mean, she has her flaws, and for some reason they just jumped out me the entire night. I started poking fun at her about her weight and her breasts (she started it, asking me did she need a boob job.. I told her it actually would look better if she had one.. hell she asked)

So we are chilling, and I am enjoying the hell out of my steak, which wasn't half bad, and she tells me that do I notice that every women in the building was looking at me... which they were, I noticed it, however I told her they are looking at us. She said why, and I told her they are wondeirng how you scored out of your league with me. By this time, I had my hand on her leg, and her foot was damn near in my private area.

We went on and played games like that the entire night, and are pretty good friends, so I can talk to her about things you normally couldn't talk about with women when you are out and get away with it.

However, the entire time, not to say that I didn't want to **** her, this is the first time I actually have seen her and do not want to date her, and I honestly mean that.

So, we paid, which I made her pay by the way, and she asked me to come with her to "ride around"... yeah... ride around at 1:00 am in the morning. I say okay, so we go to taco bell so I can pick up some food for my roomate and then to this empty parking lot so she can "show me teh store she got her shoes from".. yeah, like they are open.

Now I don't know where I grew a pair, but somehwere I did, and I just genetly grabbed her, and in the same motion, turned down the music, put my other hand on her theigh and kissed her mid sentence.

Not only was I suprised by what I did, I was even more suprised by her response. AFter 2 years of worshiping this chick, she says, and I quote

"it's about time"


and we continued for the next 5 mintues. I could have easily, and I mean easily banged her, but I have a roommate (moving this weekend) and she lives with her mom (and her BF was actually at her house waiting for her the entire time) and we were in her cramped up XK-8, so I guess that wasn't ment to be.

Afterwards, there was a kinda awkardness, and we both laughed, and I told her that was a preview of more to come in the future. She smiled and said "is that right" (which she stole from me), and I said if she plays her cards right, sure.

The second she dropped me back off at my car, she called me up wanting to talk, but considering I just made out with you and have been talking to you for the last hour and a half, I don't think there is too much to talk aobut, so I told her I have to get home and go to bed.

Well, to sum it up, by not really caring, I went from worshiping this chick to just not giving a damn about the outcome, and I really didn't, and grabbing her and making out with her.

I guess you live and learn.

 

[maranathaman]

Good Job!

It's so-great when it all comes-together!
Yeah, women like a MAN who is man enough to make a move!
Good-going!

 

[NewMan]

thats DJing..

 

[Knicknack]

congrats and nice story...

 

[Belgium_Freak]

excellent story

 

[Hollowpoint]

story be good, ha!

*Runs off flailing his arms over his head*

 

[Username]

Awesome, awesome story

..but sorry, I just have to do this.

Originally posted by backbreaker
my lexus has rear wheel drive and it was pouring down earlier... anyone knows anything aobut cars knows that is not a good mix

People who "know anything about cars" don't use phrases like "my car has RWD."

It's a RWD car. It defines the car...it's not an option that you mention like a sunroof or sat nav.

 

[backbreaker]

good point about the car. Honestly I am know a little something about cars, can I can get under the hood if need be, but I am not fanatic.

But the bottom line is it does handle like crap in rain or when it's wet.

 

[masterp]

Great success story! Lots to be learned there!

 

[backbreaker]

I kinda feel like a kid that went to the NBA straight from HS that is just know starting to get the feel of the game.

It's like it's all a game. The emotions, the conversations, the kinko, everything is just one big game.

Like last night, I realized today out of the blue that she not only wanted me to kiss her, she pretty much expected it. She wasn't shocked whatsoever. The difference last night and went I was usually around this one girl was that 6 months ago to some extent and definatly 2 years ago, I would have told her how pretty she was and how me and her need to be together. It's like she would call me to re-confirm to herself how attractive she was to men.

But last night, i was very careful with the compliments. I never said she was ugly, but I didn't say she was georgous either. She even told me "I know I'm attractive" and I smiled and told her "who gave you that impression" with a smerk on my face.

But anyway my point is, because she couldn't get my approval by her complimenting her, she had to take it one step father and make herself available... and mind you this was no more than 30 mintues after she was telling me she wouldn't feel comfortable with me at the club because she has a BF (guys pay attention and stop the she has a BF posts, if it's not a wedding ring, it's not important)

As of right now, she is expecting me to call her because it's the first time she gave me a taste fo what she has to offer, but what is going to really flip her out is when I call her Friday night to say HI before I go out on a date!!

It's all a game of cat and mouse really. Whoever shows their true emotions first looses.

 

[Tai]

Thats great man, am happy for you and kinda sad how the dating is just just one big game as you put it. I think that she dont truly like you tho cause if she did, she wouldn play so much damn mind games.

 

[backbreaker]

well, women are wired.

I hvae known her for 3 years now. I know her well enough to know when she is attracted to someone. She is attracted to me. We have always connected with each other, just not on a physical level. last night was the first time I could see she really wanted to be taken.

With that said, I really don't care if she likes me or not. I would even date her, but I would know beforehand how we would break up when we did.

Also, the game isn't about ****ing every women in site... It's about ****ing with every women's MIND. I honestly still havent' decided if I want to pursue her. I gave her a semi open inventation to come to my new place next weekend and she seemed to be very interested, but I doubt I follow up.

Right now if she wants a real chance though she has to really prove herself, because she is a looker but I have better , more mature options at this point in time. I am giving her the beneift of the doubt because we are good friends and I know we would get along.

 

[CLOONEY]

Originally posted by Tai
Thats great man, am happy for you and kinda sad how the dating is just just one big game as you put it. I think that she dont truly like you tho cause if she did, she wouldn play so much damn mind games.

Agree, I am VERY happy for u dude!! U finally realised dating is not so uptight, but to just let yourself have fun and tease her.

However, she doesnt like you as much as you think, its obvious:

1) Instead of wanting your compliments for attention.

2) She now KNOWS she has got you, and this builds her EGO more. Indirectly, last night u just gave her more attention than EVER before.

3) Its obvious u still like her, thats why u were happy when she called. U try to tell yourself you dont like her so much, but if she takes her attention away from you, it will pizz u off.



Go out on your dates with other girls and ENJOY THEM!! Really get to know these other girls cause the girl u liked for all that time, your friend IS A HO!!!!!

 

[backbreaker]

oh, I never said I didn't LIKE her.

I said I didn't want to date her.


BIG difference. I LIKE pamala anderson, I wouldn't DATE her because she seems to have issues.

I mean, she is pretty, somewhat smart, a good talker and a flirt.

There is a song out by prince, about this guy who is very good looking, and marries this butt ugly woman but she is LOADED, and he ****s her and goes out with her, but she is buying him new cars and clothes, houses, etc.

... Who's pimping who?

Yes, she got her comfirmation from me that she is attractive. Hell, she is attractive, i will tell her that, but I got what I wanted out of the ordeal as well. I went in with a game plan to make her see me in a more physical manner, and consdering I was kissing her breats for 5 mintues, I dont' think it gets more physical than that.

However, I see your point, and to be honest, I am not a pimp, I am having fun. Sheis by no means the only girl I am after (well I am not after any, but you get my point), and is probably the most unstable of the bunch (but the best kisser )

Also, remember, I honestly do like her as a friend... We have been friends for a while now, so why wouldn't I be happy when she calls. I am sure she is pretty happy when I get in contact with her from time to time.

 

[backbreaker]

Originally posted by CLOONEY


3) Its obvious u still like her, thats why u were happy when she called. U try to tell yourself you dont like her so much, but if she takes her attention away from you, it will pizz u off.



Go out on your dates with other girls and ENJOY THEM!! Really get to know these other girls cause the girl u liked for all that time, your friend IS A HO!!!!!

First, watch yourself. This is a friend of mine. I will not let you disrespect any of my friends, just like i owuld not let any of my friends disresect you. She is not a Hoe, she is a 20 year old attrative female... These are the things 20 year old attractive females do. Deal with it

Also, I haven't talked to her in a month and a half, i think she lost my attention a long time ago.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

One thing you learned from all of this is that you must go after what you want or else you'll never get it; however, if you wait three years to go after something/someone it/she may not be there for the taking.

In terms of respect, I wouldn't hold her in too high esteem considering that she had her legs wrapped around you while her boyfriend was at home! If she ever becomes your 'girl' don't think that she won't do the same to you - 'friend' or no friend. This tels you about her character - no excuses.

Don't uphold a woman's honor if she has none!

 

[backbreaker]

you are exactly right, you can't date a cheat, that you know will cheat.

That's why I said I wouldn't date her, she is to unstable for me right now

 

[CLOONEY]

Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
One thing you learned from all of this is that you must go after what you want or else you'll never get it; however, if you wait three years to go after something/someone it/she may not be there for the taking.

In terms of respect, I wouldn't hold her in too high esteem considering that she had her legs wrapped around you while her boyfriend was at home! If she ever becomes your 'girl' don't think that she won't do the same to you - 'friend' or no friend. This tels you about her character - no excuses.

Don't uphold a woman's honor if she has none!

This is the truth. Plus what u said is VERY wrong!! U say, this is what ALL 20 years olds do?? Cheat on their boyfriend!!! lol, this is what MOST 20 year olds do from my experience. Not ALL!! U have to weed out those bad ones and take the good ones. Weather u like it or not, stop justifying her, she is a ho and thats all there is to it!! I am not disrespecting anyone, I am simply pointing out a fact. She might be a real nice girl, and I am sure she is, I am sure she helps people out when they need it, but sexually, she is a ho (i.e she does not stick to her one man).

 

[backbreaker]

with all due respect Clooney, you are putting words in my mouth. If I said all 20 year olds were cheats, that would be as discriment as me saying all Asians have small private areas or that all black people are ignorant.

Yes MOST of 20 year olds, espically cute attractive ones, are going to do what they want to do. They have done it their whole lives, and most men are too AFCish to tell them otherwise. They don't mature until they are out of college, and even that takes a copule of years.

Also, i know what works for me. I am not here to debate my philosophy with anyone, I am here to post a positive experince and to provide advice if anyone asks for it.

andi f you have to say No Disrepsect before you say anything, you are disrespecting someone. Period. yes she is a nice girl, and she is my friend, and I will not stand you calling her a hoe, even if she was. I am not saying she doesn't have her issues, but you are in no place to call someone out, espically a friend of mine for their sexual activies.

Plus, you can't even get your words right. A Hoe is someone who has sex for money. This girl is from old money, she is loaded (she has an XK-8 for crying out loud). She has sex because she likes sex. That's being Fast. A slut? maybe. A Hoe? no.

 

[CLOONEY]

I am glad for you, that now u are learning the ways with woman.

As for a hoe, I am not directly talking about the dictionary term. And maybe u are misunderstanding me. A "ho", in the sense I am meaning is someone who has a boyfriend and does not stay faithful to him. I know that most people do it, but that is no excuse. Thats all I am saying.