Be more serious with women.

[SamTheHobit]

After a couple of years of battling to get women and seeing guys around me get women.

Things have finally taken a turn for the best.

My brother told me that I have to be more serious with women if I want to get anywhere with them.

After years of brainwashing "make a girl laugh and she's yours" and simple pickups bullsh1t pick up tactics.

I failed alot.

Let's me tell you that trying to entertain them and make them laugh is one of the biggest mistakes.

And yeah I was pretty fvcking good at making women laugh but because of this they only viewed me as entertainment and someone that can't be taken seriously.

And then it fvcking hit me with the force of 10 fvcking trucks.

Before I came across this wisdom I only went out with two girls from a random approach and then I realised both times I was completely serious with them. (Not alot of energy to entertainment them.)

Went out with a girl yesterday hb8 she was incredibly attracted and I hardly done anything. But you could see she was highly attracted to me. She laughed alot actually and I wasn't even trying. Putting little effort but mostly maintain an aura of seriousness.

Field tested it works. Don't clown around you gonna get women.

 

[Mike32ct]

Exactly.

I haven't seen a funny guy score since 8th grade. Most solid pickups are relatively serious. Even women who are DTF often look a bit pissed off initially.

If she giggles when you AREN'T TRYING to be funny, great. It just means she's attracted to you.

If a "good one" comes to mind, I might slip in a funny line every so often, but I much prefer to be serious.

But dancing monkey constant humor* is a one-way ticket to friendzone. As soon as your routine runs out, she will ditch you and start eyeing the good looking serious guy.

*I'm not referring to c&f, teasing, being playful, negging, or as$hole game. That's a different animal, and it certainly can work. I just mean humor, by itself, is not a turn on.

 

[dutchmaster]

This is true, but there's nothing wrong with using humor around girls for your own amusement, as long as you aren't doing it to impress her, I'm sure it shouldn't matter too much.

 

[Mike32ct]

This is true, but there's nothing wrong with using humor around girls for your own amusement, as long as you aren't doing it to impress her, I'm sure it shouldn't matter too much.

Correct. If you are just having fun, it's fine. Joke around as much as you like. The point here is to help guys who keep trying to be funny as a pickup technique.

Women certainly rate humor as an attractive trait, but it's for two reasons:

1. Entertainment. A lot of girls have funny orbiters that they joke with via text or on the phone.

2. Women will giggle at the most silly/lame/corny/dry humor from a hot guy due to their attraction. Even though he might not be funny objectively speaking, she will believe he is. Then she will go on and on about how she loves funny guys.

Guys either see #2 with their own eyes and think it's humor that is attracting her (and it isn't) or they get advice FROM women to be funny because of her experience with #1 and #2.

Finally, it's easier for PUA gurus to sell humor as a game technique because it looks like an easy way to score lol.

 

[Purefilth]

You guys just aren't funny. *shrugs*

this.

I have no problem making girls laugh and getting them into the sack.

Be funny but don't be a clown.

 

[JoeMarron]

After years of brainwashing "make a girl laugh and she's yours" and simple pickups bullsh1t pick up tactics.

Hah what's wrong with simple pickup's tactics? Their main thing is telling dudes to stop being pvssies and simply start talking to women about anything.

 

[PeasantPlayer]

Its about balance. My game adapts

 

[Atom Smasher]

As with anything, every useful technique carries with it a danger of over-use.

The danger of humor is that if overused, it can erode respect and you can be turned into a clown in others' eyes.

Just yesterday I was standing in line at a pharmacy, and this woman came in who I knew from an office years ago. She was always very fun and clowned around a lot. I was in kind of a serious mood and greeted her with much more sobriety and almost stand-offishness than normal for me. Essentially I was a bit reserved which is interesting because I've been thinking of writing a new post on the power of a man's being reserved in all that he does.

I was less animated, had less vocal inflection, and was sort of blasé about the conversation (though friendly, of course), and I did notice that I had a lot more power and value in her eyes. She was essentially deferring to me, an attitude I hadn't seen in her before. I was keenly aware of my reserved stance that day.

It seems that the best use of humor is to use it a lot but to offset it with seriousness and reserve in order to avoid being seen a s a clown.

The bottom line is that you can't go wrong with women when you make every interaction FUN. When you make sure you and she are having fun, she will be dying to see you again to get her fix of good feelings. When those good feelings are associated with you, you're golden. She starts to see you as a refreshing oasis in her desert of boredom.

 

[skinnyguy]

C+F is a joke (ironically). If you want to get laid you need to capture a woman's emotions. Some guys do this by telling stories about themselves. When a woman learns stories about your life she feels drawn to you. This helps guys who don't look like Brad Pitt. A woman will start liking you even if she doesn't find you good looking if she can relate to you.

I agree with northside though.

 

[PlayHer Man]

The only activity you should put any effort into with women is flirting. Flirt with them and touch them a lot. This is the most efficient way to deal with women for two reasons:

1. You know where to stand FAST. (an ass-grab is worth 1,000 words)

2. You f*ck her faster and/or rule out the friend zone immediately (an ass-grab is worth 1,000 words)

Men use "techniques" because they are too chicken-sh!t to be direct and risk rejection. But the faster you get rejected the better. Time is precious.

 

[Robert28]

The only activity you should put any effort into with women is flirting. Flirt with them and touch them a lot. This is the most efficient way to deal with women for two reasons:

1. You know where to stand FAST. (an ass-grab is worth 1,000 words)

2. You f*ck her faster and/or rule out the friend zone immediately (an ass-grab is worth 1,000 words)

Men use "techniques" because they are too chicken-sh!t to be direct and risk rejection. But the faster you get rejected the better. Time is precious.

I think the main reason men aren't more bold is there are women out there who will slap a sexual harassment suit on you or holler rape and you're ruined. Even if you're found not guilty, you can kiss whatever reputation you had bye bye.

 

[skinnyguy]

I think the main reason men aren't more bold is there are women out there who will slap a sexual harassment suit on you or holler rape and you're ruined. Even if you're found not guilty, you can kiss whatever reputation you had bye bye.

Honestly bro I don't think a woman would file a harassment suit if you just grabbed her azz. It costs hundreds to file a lawsuit and she would need to have witnesses. Basically if you touch her and she pushes back or plays games just next her.

 

[str8-2-BONEzone]

i luv 2 bone hb8 im like a dawg in the sack if u no what i meen :rock:

str8 2 bone zone! theirs no other way 2 do it bro :crackup:

 

[PlayHer Man]

I think the main reason men aren't more bold is there are women out there who will slap a sexual harassment suit on you or holler rape and you're ruined. Even if you're found not guilty, you can kiss whatever reputation you had bye bye.

Sexual harassment would only happen at work and only if the woman hates you or believes she can benefit financially by destroying you.

False rape charges similar. Some random woman you just met won't cry "rape" because she doesn't see how that would benefit her. False rape is reserved for men a woman wants to destroy. Its revenge. Usually high status men who pull a f*ck-and-chuck on a naive wh0re get themselves into these situations.

Your regular everyday DJ, player, alpha can get away with far more than any high status or famous man. Sometimes status can be a form of enslavement because of the added competition and responsibility.

Also.. you don't ass-grab a woman before talking to her. :crazy: You ass-grab after you've been flirting and its going well.