be happy my friends

[joekerr31]

hey buds,

im just sitting here listening to some Jamiriroqaui, having a gin and crannberry juice (my third) and i want to tell you to enjoy life, whatever the state of your life is.

you know, ive had a hard life, the cards weren't delt in my favor from the beginning. but let me tell you, i've never stopped fighting.

and i've fought on all fronts.
- i've kept fighting for my career despite many times wanting to throw in the towel
- ive kept fighthing to find the answers to life - not just women
- ive fought to be physical fit
- ive fought to remain spiritual despite living in a world that tests ones faith.
- ive fought to beleive that there are high quality woman, and that there is one out there for me
- ive fought to become the a man i admire despite being raised to be a total prick and *sshole.

and as i sit here at 32 looking back on my life there is one thing that strikes me like a ton of bricks - i have so much self respect for who i am as a person it's crazy.

i mean, I'M a great person. not a guy, not a woman, not 32, no white, not tall or short, not fat or thin - IM A F*CKING GREAT HUMAN BEING.

and regardless if my career continues to climb, if i continue to be fit, if i find the woman for me, etc. - what i realize is that I've won. I've become the PRIZE.

NOT the prize for a woman. NOT the prize for an employer. NOT the prize in othe rpeople's eyes. Even though all that may be true, its NOT what's important.

I'm the PRIZE in my own eyes. I'm the guy that I wish there were more of in the world.

So to all you guys going through hardships, or trying to figure things out, stick with it brotha. Just keep moving forward, even if you're beaten, broke and on your knees, because trust me, one day you'll look in the mirror and you will realize that you've become a man that you respect.

and when times are a good and when times are tough, when you need a break, just put on some Jamiroquai, get yourself some gin and cranberry and chilll out.

 

[Last Man Standing]

Haha, I've made my best posts when I was drinking too! I think the spirtual connection to your humanity is the key - not hors, not a job, not money, not what you have!! Some figure it out and some don't - I say have a Jamiriroqaui (whatever that is) and think about it!

 

[Victory Unlimited]

Yo Joekerr and LMS,


I'm FEELIN' you guys.

I sit here in the wee hours of the morning amidst the smoking ruins and devastation of yet another promising, potential relationship gone awry.

Quite possibly, I may have just ended it with this "latest" prospect that I had. This one has hung in there with me for about 6 months, so I understandably had some emotional investment in the situation. (sigh)

But alas, the situation dictated that I BE THE MAN, call her on her behaviors, lay down the law of what I find acceptable and unacceptable, then drop her little ass off to ponder the error of her LAX ways. lol

And that was an hour and a half ago. Don't really know yet if it's over for good, or if it's just a painful growing period that may take us to another level, but here's the important thing:

Before I realized I'd have to lace up my Big Boy Shoes and be THE MAN, and while I was actually being THE MAN, and now even after my unpleasant mission has been completed-----I am at absolute PEACE with my stance, my behavior, and my decision.

I have NO REGRETS...the CLEAR CONSCIENCE that comes from being true to yourself-----and being true to your AND ironically, the OTHER person's ultimate best interest is worth more than this world has to offer.

I am comfortable in the skin i'm in. No MATTER what the future holds. I KNOW who I am, and I KNOW what I'm worth. And subsequently, I KNOW what a good, upstanding, confident, intelligent, successful, handsome, sexually-proficient, spiritual, BLACK man that I am.

I am a RARE find, and I KNOW it.

Gone is the angst that I was battling against when I started THIS thread a long time ago:

Objective: The Value Recognition Factor!
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=108236

Over the past year and a half, the amount of growth that I have experienced has been off the charts---and my tour of duty in the Sosuave Army has benefited me greatly. I came here asking questions about women. Then I started asking questions about CONCEPTS.

NOW...I only come here to ANSWER questions, discuss concepts, teach other men what I know as truth in the most ENTERTAINING way as possible, and hopefully still learn from my fellow internet "Brothers in Arms" along the way.

I recognize that the credit for my growth is due to my SPIRITUALITY (something many here have NO concept of, or USE for, because they still confuse it with man-made "religion". And I RESPECT their choice---- for to each his own...), my desire to learn, and my determination to be a better man TODAY than I was yesterday.

The enemies to my self-improvement have been many. The enemies I face have always been both foreign and domestic. Foreign (warped women who I now KNOW to expect to be adversarial towards me). Domestic (maladjusted men who for some reason are ALSO adversarial towards me---usually due to some macho, bullshyt, self-esteem issues that they're too proud to admit...lol).

So make no mistake, the constant barrage of bitter Brainwashing Bombs deployed by heartless, manipulative females and lust-blinded, testosterone-crazed males constantly explode all around me----seeking to steer me into little compartmentalized, side skirmishes-----seeking to take my eyes off the bigger picture of the WHOLE mission:

Which is----TO BE A BETTER MAN.

But I stand strong.

Time marches on.

...and so does the soldier known only as VICTORY UNLIMITED.


Peace...one day.

 

[penkitten]

how come i couldn't find this post last night when i was drinking?
i could have added so much.