Be careful with your buds

Brazilian_Blues_Boy

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Hello there my dear brothers, after a very nice day I decided to write about something very obvious, yet very important.

The boys.
Your boys.

The buds you share the best moments of laughter, the conversations about sports and pu$$ies.

Yeah, we all love all buds to death.

But, they're usually not aware of the existence of SoSuave.com, nor that you're faithful to its words.

So they begin to doubt you.
They laugh at you, when you say you wanna meet some girls, when you say that X girls were making eye contact with you.

That's all right, because they're not used to it.
They don't see the game as we see.
They don't give any value to things like eye contact, kino, conversations and stuff like that.

Lots of us complain that we're getting no further with girls.
I think that 50% of the times, is because we're allowing ourselves to be influenced by our AFC friends, who bring our confidence down. Really down.

Yet the don't know other better solution.
They believe that they'll get girls talking their bull**** to them (only b!tching about things to try to look funny) or due to their 'good looks'.

They don't know how the game works.
They don't know how valuable a smile and eye contact can be.
They don't get happier and more confident when they talk to beautiful girls.
They don't have charisma.
They don't have the balls to approach the women they want.
And they never accept how you, Good Ol' Charlie Brown has gotten these out of the blue.

So they make each progress look like sh!t.
They doubt you're actions, they think that only because you flirt with a girl you're already deeply loving her, and you'll probably get played.

That's bad man, it gives you a feeling of "am I really progressing or what?"

But YOU ARE !!

Don't listen to their bullsh!t.

A small example:

There's this beautiful 8,75, brown haired, blue eyed lady (beautiful face)checking me out ocasionally.
She looks to me, and after I notice she looks down.

Little Blues Boy here decided that it was time to act.
But I was kind of shy. (Yeah, it's really bad)

But, this lady sat beside me in an musical event that happened in my school today.
I was waiting for the right moment to talk to her... how AFC...
I asked her to ask her friend (who was beside her) what time it was.
I didn't mean to start a conversation by that... but...
After I asked her, she smiled at me and in a ****y way said 'No' .

All you DJ's know what it means. She's was ready and avaliable to be DJ'ed.
Had myself some nice minutes of conversation,
made her smile a lot,kino, and did some flirting.

Nice. She's on 11th grade. I'm in 10th.
In my school, it means a lot.
I was already happy before I went to talk to her, but now I'm hell confident man.
I'm walking around like Don Juan deMarco.

A friend of mine, who was beside me at the time, looked to me as I was the Messiah.
He couldn't believe that the boy he knew for so long could something like that.

After lunch I met other girl I'm DJ'ing, and had a wonderful conversation with her, made her smile a lot, and did some nice kino.

When I told my friends about my victory, what did they tell?

Just because the chick talked to you it doesn't mean anything. Besides, she looks like a chick that it's too hard to get.
You should go easier with yourself or else you will get f*cked off.
I was like: dude, if she had know interest in me, she wouldn't look at me, wouldn't smile at me, wouldn't play (in a light way) with me, wouldn't tell her my name, wouldn't allow me to kino her, wouldn't look me in the eyes and wouldn't carry a conversation with me.
As simple as that.

And for the other part, I don't fall in love with the first lady who smiles at me, I'm not out there to find Cinderellas who loose their shoes, I'm out there to have fun !!
The woman of my life is my mother !! She's the one who can bring me down, and actually the only woman whose actions can change my feelings.
While you're talking about videogames and soccer, I'm flirting, getting much more experience.

I'm becoming very comfortable wih myself, comfortable with approaching.

Kino is my weak point, but I'm already improving it.

These guys don't even know what Kino is.

When your buds come with their AFC crap, you start to wonder about your real progress.

But once again, how many of them have the guts to start talking to a girl they've never seen before, who's with a friend beside her, and you're surrounded by people watching you do it?

Not many...

I admith that approach is the toughest part for me, the only one I haven't mastered yet.
But today I learned that if I thought it was so impossible like my AFC friends do, I wouldn't have approached this girl.
And it was easy you know.
Hell easy.

And it gets you higher than a kitte afterwards.
Sets you in the right mood to charm other ladies.

But, beware of your buds.
For the sake of the good times, and all the fun, they'll try to AFC you.

That's it for now, I'm SURE that a lot of you guys, will identify yourselves with that,
because it's really hard to find DJ friends.

Oh, and be sure to read the latest Don Juan Newsletter, the article 'THE MOST POWERFUL TECHNIQUE OF ALL' is really one of Allen Thompson's most brilliant works.
It makes me smile every time I read a line of it.

BBB

[This message has been edited by Brazilian_Blues_Boy (edited 10-23-2002).]
 

Barbillus

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my core group of friends are 90% AFC and 10% jerk.

At first I would offer them advice on their girl situation. They would repond that stupid! You dont know anything!

I just stopped giving them advice after a few times of that.
 
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so true , when u become a DJ , u see the game ,how michael jordan in his prime saw, the game of basketball,
well im an RAFC tho so i wldnt actually know but i think thats what it wld be like
 

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My friends have learned to listen to my advice about their love lives. Now i'm the official "Go-to" guy in my friends about sh*t like that. Just NEVER tell 'em about the site, I told one friend, and he thought I'm a loser, until he sees how hot my women are. He never listened anyway...
 

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My friends suck ass when it comes to girls... Sometimes I'm ashamed to be in their company, and that's not good. And they're getting so damn jealous these days... Don't know what to do, except find new friends. All the ****ers do is talk about videogames (like you said) and it's ticking me off as well. I've got a buddy that's pretty good with girls, so I might start hanging out with him again. But this group of my friends is really... I don't know. They ****ing laugh at me, although they're still jacking off at Lara Croft and I'm dating a girl ten times hotter.
Dammit anyway.
Cheers.
 

oreo_renegade

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yeah man i kno how it is.


a lot of times, ill approach a chick, and b succesful with her, and then a bunch of dumb AFC's will try to teach me about girls, right here in front of the chick, and look like idiots. and im like "wtf?"


example:
in PE, i suck at basketball, and hte ball go away, and a hot chick got it for me, so i came up and started talking to her(like a good DJ does) and after about a minute or so of kino and talking with her, i got her all playful and we were pushing each other around and ****.

then, the dumb fvcks are all like "oreo man, leave tat poor girl alone, she dont like you, u cant get her, wat the hell are u doing tryin like an idiot?"


i was like "FVCK! U BUNCH OF DAMN BASTARDS" i about kicked their asses.

they went and fvcked up my mentality, and now im all having second thots about DJing chicks in front of them, cuz they poke fun at me! a DJ! while they standing there drollin over her while she jump roping, and i actually talk to her, and hten laff at me!!! wtf!?

instead of joining in talkin to me, they would reffer to staying at a safe distance, drooling over them, and then getting up the courage to say sumtin gay like "how bout u jump rope ur way over here and give me ur number?"


and im like hiding my face and gettingthe hell away from them cuz chicks are like "wtf?"

and then sum of them actually listen to them!

like i DJ them, and the chicks would b telling me im suposed to do sumtin AFC for her, i just laff it off tho, and DJ methods always win


it sucks tho, i cant even DJ chicks in front of guys ne more, it sucks, ima have to work on that a lot. and start to lose my fear of them interrupting.

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My friends never take my advice. They thought that i had no balls, untill i started aproaching all these hot girls and sayin dude you have some balls i'd never be able to do that. but i told my friend about eye contact, smiling, kino, and he didn't believe me. he thought i was full of ****. they have noticed that i'm alot more confident.

Well a couple weeks ago i said some **** that pissed them off so i just stoped hangin out with them for like a week. cause they were so pissed that they were gonna kill me. but i started hangin out with me other friends and they really bring out the DJ in me. i feel like 10x more confident around them. so now i hang out with them more than my other friends.

but good post. totally agree

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I go up and talk to this girl that I like, and i'm not trying to even hit on her, I just feel like talking. Then a guy that I would call a friend, but wouldn't talk if I didn't have to, comes up. I say hey, being nice, and then he sticks around and won't leave. After the girl leaves, he says to me with a stupid grin on his face, "You're trying way to hard."
One thing I hate is one of my AFC friends will stand around like a knot on a log and watch me work my magic and won't say anything, and won't go off somewhere else and do something constructive.
I used to be just like both of them. How sad.

RTL
 

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Most of my friends are pretty good about girl things. I have some immature friends that are still back in middle school (I'm in 10th but I act/look/seem older) that don't do so well and fit the "AFC" mold but what u gonna do.. It's not gonna reflect well on you if you just ignore some longtime friend cuz theyre an ass now.

Instead I got some guys I'd call my wingmen cuz when I'm talkin to a girl if theyre going to talk to me they have at least something interesting to bring into the conversation, instead of just standing there telling her about some hole in my pants @ football practice or something. I usually hang with them cuz theyre more fun to be around, so its all good down here lol
 

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Most of the fools who enjoy taunting us are in fact extremely insecure about their own situations, and therefore taunting us is the only way to justify their meager existences.
 

Tell her a little about yourself, but not too much. Maintain some mystery. Give her something to think about and wonder about when she's at home.

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Good to see that I'm not alone in there.

I was thinking about my post, and I noticed that I forgot to say the obvious:

These 'friends' have very low-confidence, but they hide it in a 'hard-@ss bad boy ' attitude, which is pure crap.
They lie to theirselves.
When they see you, confident as hell, they actually envy you, and their stupid minds go like : " No way this geek's going to do better than I"

When they see your progress, they automatically, (and sometimes unconsciously)
start to try to knock you down, by pouring insecurity in you.

It's tough man.

I've been hanging by myself a lot in school.
My friends are very AFC. I like them, but being close to them kinda of takes my courage.

But it's a price I'm gladly paying for the sweetest reward.
While my buds are all saying I'm different, I'm not so cool anymore, I'm too ****y, the ladies are always more open to me, and they all smile and flirt with me.

But it's hard letting your buds...
I guess it is the toughest part of becoming a DJ...
It's like being a doctor, or studying to be a doctor, and being unable to save your best friends from death...

Thanks for all feedback

BBB
 

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I know what you mean. A group of people who I used to think was cool and I tryed to be one of them. I left my true loyal friend to go sit with them.

But now I know the truth.

I now sit with my true friend who doesn't try to put me down or throw stuff at me.

I finally get a gf and what does this lowsy group of people who I thought were cool do? talk to my gf behind my back telling lies about me and try to get her to dump me.


Yea....friends suck
 

WrEcKLeSS2000

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brazilian..i couldn't agree with you more...it seems all of us have these AFC friends who dont know crap about women and put us DJ's down for knowing what to do...these so called "friends" of mine i know that they were talking non true crap aboue me to this girl that i am going for now...but still i am going for her cause i know she has some interest....as much crap as my these kids talked...i am still going for her...these little kids are jealous little runts cause they cant get her...Anyway...i have been giving some advice to my friend but somewhere or another he screws himself over LOL!!! but hey i tried..he did ok...but when he has 2 girls to take to homecoming t hat would be a problem LOL...anyway too many damn AFC suck..but BE THE MAN!!TAKE CHARGE!!!!
 

WrEcKLeSS2000

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Originally posted by EpsilonArmati:
Most of the fools who enjoy taunting us are in fact extremely insecure about their own situations, and therefore taunting us is the only way to justify their meager existences.
SO TRUE!!!
 
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