Be careful using The one strike policy

[Bingo-Player]

Don’t get me wrong I’m a big fan of banishing toxic women from my life I’ve recently done it to a very poisonous plate of mine she fully deserved it and it feels great

BUT

Some women aren’t toxic they’re just plain stupid and sometimes don’t understand what your saying to them or what signals your giving them

Certainly i would say Since ive become “hyper game aware” ive had a lot of women tell me they don’t understand me or don’t understand what i want from them

Which can be good in some respects but in others not so much......ive lost a good few girls this year from being too detached , too mysterious and too illusive

One HB 8 even told me she didn’t even want to attempt speaking to me because she didn’t think i would even entertain a conversation with her

Contrary to popular believe not all chicks are as clued up about playing games as we are and i think sometimes it can all get a bit too much for a girl prompting her to shut down

Another time i asked a chick to come over and chill she agreed but later flaked on me with what i thought to be a lame excuse.......i was disappointed but didn’t throw my toys out of the pram and occupied myself with other plates

A few weeks later she reached out to me ,and asked if i wanted to spend the afternoon with her........she came straight over my place and fvcked me for 4 hours

After id fvcked her i asked her why she didn’t just meet me the first time she said she genuinely was ill and didn’t feel like it

Thanks to this girl im always cautious of using the “one strike policy”

 

[Harry Wilmington]

I don't understand why anyone would even do a 1-strike rule. I always tell guys, you give a girl at least 2 chances because (a) her flaking out the first time may be due to a reason that's not an excuse, and (b) only flaking once isn't an established enough pattern to believe she will do it every time. Now, if she does it more than once, at least you can start to see that there may be lacking interest there... but only one time? Gotta try at least once more, people!

 

[GS750]

I don't understand why anyone would even do a 1-strike rule. I always tell guys, you give a girl at least 2 chances because (a) her flaking out the first time may be due to a reason that's not an excuse, and (b) only flaking once isn't an established enough pattern to believe she will do it every time. Now, if she does it more than once, at least you can start to see that there may be lacking interest there... but only one time? Gotta try at least once more, people!

Yeah I agree with this. More than once and my gut tells me I'm being d*cked around.

 

[bigneil]

Working Example of "light" one strike policy.

1) First date I flaked. I learned that she really wanted to go.
2) First date (take 2) I showed up. Great date.
3) Second date she seemed to resist my first offer (to watch movie at my house). I bided my time.
4) Later Second date (take 2) she agreed (overnight date to a concert in another city). Great date.
5) Third date she said she was busy (her first flake), so I retracted offer.
6) I went NC until she initiated (took about 10 days).
7) Third date (take 2) she eagerly agreed to go. Great date.
8) At that point she would text back within 1 minute of my every text. So her original flake was not that serious (and neither was my own).
9) Fourth date she eagerly agreed and showed up. Best date.
10) (I moved out of state so the relationship ended).

So you basically make offers and they either accept, or you disappear into the background until you hear from them. Do this with several women at once for a good dating life.

 

[GS750]

Good breakdown Neil. Patience pays and let them put in a little work and initiate.

 

[Panzergrenadier]

One strike seems a bit harsh, but you might want to be pretty direct approaching strike two. I've learned its better to just be direct and ask than to spend months analyzing every little clue. If the second strike is anything but a good yes, yea shes' a flake. Eject and don't look back. It protects your own respect.

 

[G_Govan]

Some women aren’t toxic they’re just plain stupid and sometimes don’t understand what your saying to them or what signals your giving them

I've seen this before and I don't buy it. Can you give some examples?

ive lost a good few girls this year from being too detached , too mysterious and too illusive...One HB 8 even told me she didn’t even want to attempt speaking to me because she didn’t think i would even entertain a conversation with her

This I can understand but what sort of rules were you implementing? It sounds to me like you were just being way too aloof.

Contrary to popular believe not all chicks are as clued up about playing games as we are and i think sometimes it can all get a bit too much for a girl prompting her to shut down

This I disagree with. When a girl shuts down on you it means you overplayed your hand, that is, if you had any hand to begin with. This doesn't mean they were ignorant of the dance.

They fight for leverage in relationships much more easily than we do. Your average woman runs circles around most men in this department.

Another time i asked a chick to come over and chill she agreed but later flaked on me with what i thought to be a lame excuse.......i was disappointed but didn’t throw my toys out of the pram and occupied myself with other plates

A few weeks later she reached out to me ,and asked if i wanted to spend the afternoon with her........she came straight over my place and fvcked me for 4 hours

I can't recall seeing any number of posters who would advocate completely dropping a chick that cancels a date and then comes back asking you out of her own accord. In fact that's part of the weeding out process that many here preach.

Thanks to this girl im always cautious of using the “one strike policy”

I'm not really seeing what you believe to be a "one strike policy" being pushed by a bunch of forum members.

I myself have what could be considered "one strike policy" as far as asking for dates but it doesn't mean I've written the chick off completely. If I ask you out and you cancel or flake with no counter offer and don't initiate any communication, I simply won't ask you out a second time.

 

[MAYALL]

A one strike policy would be beneficial to a guy dealing with a woman who blatantly flakes with a poor excuse or shows disrespect towards him.

 

[stevo]

We might be confusing one strike rule with soft next-ing a girl.

It doesn't mean you wont go out with her again, she just goes to the back burner until she catches your attention again by initiating convo or running into you somewhere giving indication she's DTF.

 

[MAYALL]

We might be confusing one strike rule with soft next-ing a girl.

It doesn't mean you wont go out with her again, she just goes to the back burner until she catches your attention again by initiating convo or running into you somewhere giving indication she's DTF.

If a woman blatantly flakes with a poor excuse or shows disrespect would you still put her on the back burner?

 

[YawataNoKami]

All women are toxic , it is just a matter of time.

 

[BrainDamage92]

The men who are best with women have learnt to not get butthurt by anything a woman does or say. If the first they dont succeed they keep trying untill she puts out. Im not like that yet since I'm young and I get pretty mad when some ***** is playin with me - like - Does she really believe Im retarded? Nah, its just the nature of the things man.

Theres also this saying, real men never get together with real women, couse real women never accept the first time and real men never ask twice.

Idk man. But dudes who get laid the most couldnt care less about some female behaviour - they know its bullcrap. Ofc, sleeping with as many women as you can is not necessairly the ultimate goal in life, peeps are diff, some people enjoy the mindgame.

 

[bigneil]

9 out of the last 10 girls I dated put out. I can't stop thinking about the 1 who didn't.

 

[pyros]

I always use two strikes, I think it is the best policy if you want to get laid more often.
It is a bit confusing though cause if she flakes and then after a couple of days you ask her out again and she agrees etc, you're lowering your value (cause she flaked cause she was not that interested remember?), but if you do nothing and go ghost you lose the lay for sure, so you have to find the balance between letting her do crappy behaviour and you getting laid...it is always a tough matter...

 

[MAYALL]

I always use two strikes, I think it is the best policy if you want to get laid more often.
It is a bit confusing though cause if she flakes and then after a couple of days you ask her out again and she agrees etc, you're lowering your value (cause she flaked cause she was not that interested remember?), but if you do nothing and go ghost you lose the lay for sure, so you have to find the balance between letting her do crappy behaviour and you getting laid...it is always a tough matter...

You won't lose the lay when she has the intent and interest of getting laid. Women are used to men kissing their asses. When you care less about their bullsh!t behavior they will act differently towards you reinitiating contact.

 

[JohnChops]

Working Example of "light" one strike policy.

1) First date I flaked. I learned that she really wanted to go.
2) First date (take 2) I showed up. Great date.
3) Second date she seemed to resist my first offer (to watch movie at my house). I bided my time.
4) Later Second date (take 2) she agreed (overnight date to a concert in another city). Great date.
5) Third date she said she was busy (her first flake), so I retracted offer.
6) I went NC until she initiated (took about 10 days).
7) Third date (take 2) she eagerly agreed to go. Great date.
8) At that point she would text back within 1 minute of my every text. So her original flake was not that serious (and neither was my own).
9) Fourth date she eagerly agreed and showed up. Best date.
10) (I moved out of state so the relationship ended).

So you basically make offers and they either accept, or you disappear into the background until you hear from them. Do this with several women at once for a good dating life.

That last snippet is awesome!

 

[WorkHardPlayHard]

Going to echo everyone else: soft next. She flakes? Okay, "some other time", "aw bummer". If a girl wants to be out with you and can't make it, she will make it happen after you've put your neck out there. It's that simple. Don't offer another time for her, don't wait 3 days and try again. You just go do your own thing and wait for her to show you how much interest she has.

 

[stevo]

If a woman blatantly flakes with a poor excuse or shows disrespect would you still put her on the back burner?

she just goes to the back burner until she catches your attention again by initiating convo or running into you somewhere giving indication she's DTF.

If she flakes and shows up at your doorstep with only a coat on, would you nail her?

She can flake if she wants, doesn't bother me. I just wont be reaching out again and she'll have to do something very impressive for my attention.