BC Journal - Please share your thoughts

[izza]

And so, week 2 (again) starts off with a bang. Today, I went shopping with my mom (I'm surrounded by my family all the time, so it's tough to be a DJ sometimes ), and I started a conversation with some old lady in the travel section. It was really nice, and I helped her make a decision to go to Canada. I think it brightened her day! All right, later,

Izza

 

[izza]

Today, I woke up furious - I still don't know the entire reason why. Part of it was just frustration with how slowly this whole meeting people thing is going - I find it so hard to converse with people, especially because even the conversations that go well, I convince myself went crappily. Even the hellos from beautiful women that are enthusiastic (I get a lot of those, actually), I tell myself they wouldn't be interested if they knew more about me. Holy crap, it's crazy how much people beat themselves up, isn't it?

Anyway, so I went on this walk this morning to cool off (I was *so* frustrated), and I met some guy, and he was really fun to talk to (even though I caught myself bashing the conversation). I was biking somewhere later and I greeted this gorgeous girl running the same direction as me. Her hello back was super-enthusiastic, but I was scared (and with my family) so I kept going. Later she passed us, and I wanted to approach her SO BADLY, you have no idea. I was so angry that I couldn't do it, all I had to do was ask some question about her running and it would have been such a gift to her - the gift of talking to me! Then, no matter what happened, I would have paid her a compliment of trying to chat her up, even if she wasn't interested.

Sigh, I'm moving one step at a time, but sometimes I get really angry at myself for how long this is taking. I know I'll progress all the faster for being patient with myself, but it's hard to keep that patience sometimes, especially when gorgeous women are running all around.

No matter what happens, I can't let myself fall into the trap of trying to have a gorgeous woman validate who I am. Since my goal is to pick up women, and have sex and stuff, I find myself trying to pick up women to make me feel good about myself (wow, look at this HB I just picked up) rather than to have fun (sex is fun, after all). Women become a measure of success in my life, rather than me following my dreams or improving myself. Now that ain't right!!

Izza

 

[izza]

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[killbill]

dude your doing good, keep it up dont beat yourself up. Remember one thing your atleast trying othert han just sitting at home wishing you could say hi to hotties. some days you'll get success some days you wont. dont give up.

 

[kulowiper]

No matter what happens, I can't let myself fall into the trap of trying to have a gorgeous woman validate who I am. Since my goal is to pick up women, and have sex and stuff, I find myself trying to pick up women to make me feel good about myself (wow, look at this HB I just picked up) rather than to have fun (sex is fun, after all). Women become a measure of success in my life, rather than me following my dreams or improving myself. Now that ain't right!!

Amen to that. That is why I'm also doing the Don Juan Boot Camp is to improve my life and all that sex and stuff. LOL
Remember
False
Evidence
Appearing
Real

 

[izza]

Heh, well that BC ended with a whimper.

 

[Leuven]

I have tried the boot camp 6 months ago but I had quit, just like I quit almost every thing in live excepts when I play a game.

The problem I expierenced with bootcamp was that the difficulty level of the excercises increased dramatically. ( I gave up during week 4 )

As I worked in a store loaded with students as customer, I hadn't got any problem of saying hi to a stranger or keeping eyecontact.

But the next week you need to talk to 10 strangers for a couple of minutes. that's a big step for some of us.

I decided to try it over again but instead of saying 50 hi's I think it will become better if you go and do some variation.

Say some hi's
Ask the hour to a girl ( hide your watch and cell phone )
Ask the way to some store.
Ask a girl's opinion in a clothes store ( preferable female customers or employees )

As you ask this you can also practise eyecontact.

I've started week two saturday ( and ended my excercises by approaching 10 strangers ( all of them were girls, but not all of them were as pretty as it could be ) also saturday night in a club )
No luck so far, but hell, I got a good time and lots of practise...

 

[boulepiquante]

izza
i m half SOUTH AFRICAN half FRENCH ( i don t know which part is which ) and i can teach you some hot FRENCH for you to bed those hotties

 

[oli]

Hey izza
What is up?

I managed to get this girl e-mail. She has been hanging around the hall for a couple of days at Uni. She studies the same degree I do although at a different class.

The first time I told her I liked her shoes and that they were comfortable. She did not seem to mind me but thanked and said they were indeed comfortable.

The next day I said hello but I accidentally mispronounced her name giving her a similar name. She replied that it was wrong. I on purpose pretended to be blushing saying that this is the second time I messed it up first the shoes then the name. She replied that she did not mind and that her shoes were comfortable.

I could see she really liked me. I did not pressed it further. Have on the meantime kissed other girls on Uni nothing special just practising. God everyone knows about everyone here.

A week later she was still hanging around the hall to get a coffee so i talked a little bit she mentioned that she needed her on practising italian so I sugggested to meet up . Could have got her number but as I saw that she seems interested I wanted to make it look academic. I could get her number later on( not directly I will let her suggest the idea).
I do not really fancy her but probably I should go for girls that I do not really fancy that much.

I will let you know waht is happening.

By the way after I do kino to a girl (asking her would she like to kiss me, and then she hesitates, I had this girl who seemed quite kin but hesitating, she asked me why I did not want to kiss her friend " a test" to see whether I was a pig, so I replied that I found her attractive. I think I lost her on that (of course I knew she ahd a boyfriend she she seemed aroused.... I should have said instead "I want to kiss you to see how does it feel like.( this arouses her more, increases her imagination. If pay compliment they will probable hate you, and they start thinking about the boyfriend..
I might be wrong, if so give an idea on what should I say when she hesitates( by the way I used the expression it will blow your mind) Its a great one but should be backed by a further one.. any way talk to you later