Basic Night Strategy: Moving It Forward with Club Girls

[nicksaiz65]

Wanted to ask a novice question. I’ve been thinking: it would be good for me to shore up on the basics, and re-evaluate my whole Nightgame strategy. I’ve been winging it, going in without a plan. Every time I’ve pulled, it’s because the girl was very attracted to me and I somewhat had luck on my side.

I went out to the bar/club to Nightgame the other day. My wing and I went to a spot that had both a bar and a dance floor. I met a girl on the dance floor by talking in her ear for a bit. I asked her to dance, and she agreed. We did that, and talked a bit. Turned out we had a ton in common. We even played the same instrument. We danced and talked a bit and then… that was it. The set fizzled.

I talked to my wing after the fact, and he was like “Yeah bro, I thought you had it. She was feeling you. I thought you were going to take her from the bar and then move things forward from there.”

The fact that I have no structure and I’ve just been winging it during my interactions is honestly killing me. So I wanted to ask: in a situation like that, what should I have done to move the interaction towards the pull/close? Trying to learn from my mistakes and just get some structure in my life.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Clubs girls are for ONS. Trying to make a girlfriend out a woman you meet in a club would be like trying to drink salt water to quench your thirst.

You can try it and see if it works, but it generally won't turn out too well for you.

 

[nicksaiz65]

Clubs girls are for ONS. Trying to make a girlfriend out a woman you meet in a club would be like trying to drink salt water to quench your thirst.

You can try it and see if it works, but it generally won't turn out too well for you.

Def don’t want a girlfriend, I wanna spend more time in the game first.

Was just wondering in this instance what I could’ve done better to move it towards bringing her home/sex.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Def don’t want a girlfriend, I wanna spend more time in the game first.

Was just wondering in this instance what I could’ve done better to move it towards bringing her home/sex.

Take her somewhere else...say something like "hey, there is this cool place down the street I want to check out. You should come."

Bouncing a woman from one place to another somehow makes it seem like they have known you longer than they have...it's a sneaky trick you can use to move the interaction along.

Then you can either try and bounce back to your place from there or to another spot and then back to your place.

 

[kavi]

Hitting on girls in clubs and trying to get them home on the same day is not worth the effort. One needs to be Game-aware and game exists on both sides. Women have their own club-game which is just to use you for attention. Club and Nightlife culture does not respect Game hence loud music and obnoxious behaviour.

Women are aware of this fact hence will always see guys hitting on them at clubs as low value and worth time-wasting and disrespecting.

Also, this is not the game, this is just clowning. A real pimp doesnt spit game into a womans ear with loud stupid music in the background and her drunk and being disrespectful because the pimp respects his game too much for that.

 

[nicksaiz65]

Take her somewhere else...say something like "hey, there is this cool place down the street I want to check out. You should come."

Bouncing a woman from one place to another somehow makes it seem like they have known you longer than they have...it's a sneaky trick you can use to move the interaction along.

Then you can either try and bounce back to your place from there or to another spot and then back to your place.

Well, that’s simple but effective. I’ll try it out the next time I go out(tonight)

 

[SW15]

Clubs girls are for ONS. Trying to make a girlfriend out a woman you meet in a club would be like trying to drink salt water to quench your thirst.

You can try it and see if it works, but it generally won't turn out too well for you.

Do you perceive any difference between meeting a woman in a nightclub vs. meeting a woman in a bar in terms of girlfriend suitability?

Bars and nightclubs are similar. The main differentiator between the two is the presence of a dance floor in a nightclub.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Take her somewhere else...say something like "hey, there is this cool place down the street I want to check out. You should come."

Bouncing a woman from one place to another somehow makes it seem like they have known you longer than they have...it's a sneaky trick you can use to move the interaction along.

Then you can either try and bounce back to your place from there or to another spot and then back to your place.

It does work but only on the assumption she already has some idea of who you are and what your about OR she is on her own which will be highly unlikely

Very few women will leave their friends to run off to another venue with some random dude she met at the bar 30 mins ago

If you have to drag the freinds along too it the workload begins to increase dramatically

 

[RazorRambo24]

Talking about what instruments you play and stuff like that isn't conversation conducive to a club setting. You want to keep things light and airy. when you flirt with a girl, 90% of what it is, is not talking about anything at all.. but the present moment..

The interaction and convo should be focused on nothing but you and her. and the present moment. ie:

Guys with game: "You know I cant really help but keep my eyes on you.. and it snot just the way your body is lookin that dress. her: oh really so what is it. "idk it might be the way you're smiling at me right now, or that little bit of twinkle in those beautiful eyes"

Sounds corny right, even though this was made up on the fly, its the kind of shi.t that works.. the idea is , its focused on her and you and the present moment, not any boring sht. it gives her the chance to flirt back and joke and vice versa

Guys without game: "what part of town are you from?" "oh thats cool, what do you do for work" "nice im a data analyst, "what are some hobbies u have" "i play tennis on the weekends"

If you look at those two interactions, what sounds like its closer to getting touchy feely and making out? Don't make it hard on yourself.. always go the easy route. The idea is to escalate and get her turned on. In some cases, you dont want to just go for it right away because a girl might not want to jus go home wiht u right away, she might wan to stay and have fun.. So its totally okay if u step away from her and vice versa but let ehr know ull be backand that ur jus gonna catch up with ur friends a bit.. this creates more desire and girls especially love to do this... but since men don think the same, most men think that she left them and leave the place or end up talking to another girl.. and often end up goin home with nothing, when they already had the interest of 1 girl who woulda went home with them if they were patient and learned to jus enjoy their time without her being glued to you

 

[AureliusMaximus]

Hitting on girls in clubs and trying to get them home on the same day is not worth the effort. One needs to be Game-aware and game exists on both sides. Women have their own club-game which is just to use you for attention. Club and Nightlife culture does not respect Game hence loud music and obnoxious behaviour.

Women are aware of this fact hence will always see guys hitting on them at clubs as low value and worth time-wasting and disrespecting.

Also, this is not the game, this is just clowning. A real pimp doesnt spit game into a womans ear with loud stupid music in the background and her drunk and being disrespectful because the pimp respects his game too much for that.

Dont go the clubs do get girls, go to the club and have fun with your friends instead. Its quite interestingly how things are different when you are not there as the desparate guy and but instead just enoying yourself with your mates and DGF. Peope are are drawn to you in a different way then.

 

[SW15]

Talking about what instruments you play and stuff like that isn't conversation conducive to a club setting. You want to keep things light and airy. when you flirt with a girl, 90% of what it is, is not talking about anything at all.. but the present moment..

its focused on her and you and the present moment, not any boring sht. it gives her the chance to flirt back and joke and vice versa

Very true. If we consider the conversational examples below, we can see that the first set of examples will produce better conversations. This is true in nightlife venue approaching, non-bar approaching (daygame is slightly more serious but still needs a flirtatious elements), and on first dates (regardless of how they were arranged).

Guys with game: "You know I cant really help but keep my eyes on you.. and it snot just the way your body is lookin that dress. her: oh really so what is it. "idk it might be the way you're smiling at me right now, or that little bit of twinkle in those beautiful eyes"

These are all good. It's light and airy. It's all so pleasant. Women operate on "all the feelz". This gives them "all the feelz".

Guys without game: "what part of town are you from?" "oh thats cool, what do you do for work" "nice im a data analyst, "what are some hobbies u have" "i play tennis on the weekends"

This is mostly boring. The only thing that could be interesting here is tennis. The only way that tennis could be interesting is if you and the woman are both regular tennis players. In considering men and women 18-39, there are far more serious male tennis players than female tennis players.

Even if a woman happens to be a tennis player (which is unlikely), giving her a conversational flavor like the first set of examples is still better than discussing a shared like of tennis.

 

[The Duke]

If you have the vibe going, a little more alcohol and more kino(touch), dancing usually does the trick. Keep flirting, escalating. I've taken home several this way. Don't mention anything about sehx. Suggest you either go to their place or yours, whatever is closer. If she resists or her friends shut it down, then tell her you want to take her out sometime and have her call/text your phone so you have her number.

Always leave on a high note, regardless.