Bar Scene Step-By-Step Guide to a ONS

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As a segue from my other thread, this is another technique I use which is pretty effective. The reason why I was hesitant to post this, is because it requires a certain amount of confidence and assumes a certain level of game. However, I think there’s plenty of guys here that would benefit from this advice as it’s a breath of fresh air. I’ve basically taken out all the guesswork and condensed this into a detailed recipe for success. If you follow this, you will on the fast track to pulling the panties down. First things first:

Clothes
Dress uptown. No Affliction, no Ed Hardy, etc. If it’s hot outside, white cargo shorts (not tan) with a black tucked in Ralph Lauren Polo, belt and boat shoes is a classic look. The white and black is a good contrast and it signifies class. No tennis shoes, and don’t wear socks with the boat shoes, but you will want to put baby powder in them so your feet don’t end up smelling. A cotton ball in the heel is a must so your heel doesn’t rub up against the back. Otherwise, it’ll burn. Trust me. A watch probably wouldn’t hurt, but I’m not a big jewelry guy so that’s up to you. For winter, a good fitting pair of dark denim jeans with black shoes and a black wool overcoat with a scarf. Make sure everything is a good fit, nothing baggy. Chicks will eat this look up, especially the scarf.

Solo, or Wingman?
I think it’s very important for you to understand something before you go out - it’s not about drinking with buddies. I can’t emphasize this enough. You’re not there to consume alcohol, you’re not there to fraternize with your pals. You’re there because you have an agenda, and that’s to pull a hottie by the end of the night. Suffice to say, I don’t think you’ll mind saving the extra dollars that would otherwise be spent on overpriced drinks.

Alcohol
As I previously mentioned, you’re not there to get tanked up, and it’s not attractive to a woman when some sloppy drunk idiot comes up and tries to start a conversation. Save the booze for a different night. While many people think it gives them confidence to down 7 shots, in all actuality it just lowers their inhibitions. The problem with this, is people are aware you’re drunk and know it’s the source of your outgoingness. What I’m not opposed to however, is having a beer or two to settle the nerves before you go out. Do not drink at the bar, and I will explain why.

As I said, you have a mission here. Posting up at the bar “waiting for something to happen” is what losers do. You will pretty much be forced to buy a drink for yourself, look around like all the other guys do, and probably end up buying yourself another drink. What ends up happening? The confidence slowing increases throughout the night, and by the time it’s bar close, the only thing you’ve done is wasted time and worked on a worthless buzz. I’ve been there myself plenty of times. Every guy falls into that pattern and it’s one you should avoid.

What Time?
For the best possible results, start early. And I mean early. 6:45 to 7:00 PM and work your way through the night. Regardless of what anybody tells you, this is a numbers game and women are unpredictable. Trust me from experience – you will have conversations that go great. You’ve said all the right things, she’s very receptive, you think it’s in the bag, and boom, you never hear from her again. That’s the way it goes, and don’t take it personally. This is why you counter this with going early. The last thing you want to have happen is only having one option by the end of the night. Don’t hinge all your hope on one chick, regardless of how great things went.

Walking In
This is crucial, and it’s important to analyze the situation quickly. Any place on a Friday or Saturday night is going to be so busy, you can forget about looking awkward that you walked in solo – nobody’s going to notice, except maybe the bouncers at the door. Some bars even have bouncers at the door now, at least in my area.

Scan the area. Pay close attention to the chicks sitting right at the bar. The closer they are to the barkeep, the more they want to be noticed. Avoid chicks that are off to the side sitting at tables, in corners or dancing. Most of them don’t want to be bothered, or are on a man hating mission. What I like to do is walk through the bar/club and make my way to the bathroom, this usually gives me enough time to take in my surroundings. Do NOT sit at the bar. If on my way to the back, I notice a chick walking past that catches my eye, I’ll stop her.

What To Say?
That depends on the situation. If I’m in stride, and she’s walking directly past me I’ll flash her a smile and say “Hey. What are ya doing?” The reason I ask this is because I’m literally trying to find out what she’s doing there. If they’re interested, they’ll usually play along and respond with “not much, having some drinks.” I respond back with “You are a cutie, what’s your name?” Introductions are done, etc. After that I’ll say to her “Is that your naughty outfit?” She’ll laugh, but pay attention to what she says. If she says “no”, even jokingly, next immediately. If she comes back with some witty sexual innuendo, play with it for a minute. Give her a high 5 and say “You do know there is a price to pay for being naughty… You have to give me your number and promise to continue being naughty when I text you later tonight.” Most girls will find this playful and funny, and this is when you pull out your phone and ASSUME she is going to give you her number. She most likely will, and after she does say “I’m going to put you in my phone as Ms. Bad Behavior… I hope that fits in one line.” Another high 5 for the road doesn’t hurt either. Give her a big smile, and continue walking. Don’t say anything else. Move on to your next target.

If they’re posted up at the bar, again I will start with “What are ya doing?” This is always my opener, as it’s an indirect way of probing them for information to get a feel for why they’re there. If they have a boyfriend and he’s somewhere in the bar, that’s when they’ll let you know. It’s a great way to get details. I’ll continue with “If I were as cute as you maybe I could get some service.” This works perfectly because remember, you are not drinking. Again, do introductions. It’s a very subtle way of letting the girl know you’re interested in her. Keep an eye on where the bartender is. Approach when he is on the opposite side of the bar. You don’t want to get caught up chatting with a girl for 10-15 minutes with a drink in your hand. Keep your game tight. It’s best to have a minute or two of quick witty conversation, then 10 minutes of mediocre meaningless drivel. Especially if this is on the weekend, the girl will see you as low value if you’re pressing her for too long. Keep it short, simple and sexy. Proceed to move on to your next target. Rinse and repeat as many times as you can without the previous girls knowing what you’re up to. If a girl asks you “Where are your friends?” Respond with “My buddy was throwing up so bad, they had to take him home.” The time elapse here is probably 10 minutes per bar tops. Try to get 3 or 4 numbers, and get out of there. Once you get used to this, it’ll be like clockwork.

TIP
When you’re entering a girl’s number, put a number by the end of their name as a measure of how slvtty you thought she was on a 1-10 scale. This will be useful for later in the night when you’re dealing with a multitude of potential options. My short term memory isn’t very good, so this aids me a great deal. This is my “Slvt Indicator”.

The Climax
By the end of your journey, you’ve seen many different venues, a vast array of alluring targets, and your fingers should be tired from entering numbers all night. I like to rack up 15-20 numbers in the course of a night, keeping in mind again, you’re starting at 7’ish. This is the true definition of bar hopping.

At about 12:00 AM, I’ll go to my car, and start texting these girls, individually, using the “Slvt Indicator” as a guide. I don’t like the idea of mass texting, because you can’t be in twenty different places at once if a bunch of girls want to meet up. Do NOT call, always text. If the girl’s still sitting in a bar, chances are she isn’t going to be able to hear you anyway, and it’s going to be an awkward conversation regardless.

This is the fun part. Start texting the girls you thought were the least slvtty first, but your approach should be the same. Send them “Are you still naughty?  If so, let’s meet at my place for a drink. I don’t have cuffs, but I got the condoms!” Over the next hour or so, the return texts will slowly be rolling in. Gauge the responses accordingly. If you played your cards right, she will see you as a fun, sexy guy that will be just one of her many one-night stands.

Give it to her good!
 

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Haha, I love the "slvt indicator". I can't believe I haven't thought of this.

Thanks.

-Scars
 

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DonGorgon said:
fantastic game there dude...wow impressive..
Evan this thread is gold and terrific compared to the other garbage thread you made, deiftnely gotta respect this shyt, and Field test

is it cool if I repost this on my blog?

p.s. only thing I don't agree with is the "condom" text, sounds a bit thirsty
 

At this point you probably have a woman (or multiple women) chasing you around, calling you all the time, wanting to be with you. So let's talk about how to KEEP a woman interested in you once you have her. This is BIG! There is nothing worse than getting dumped by a woman that you really, really like.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Solomon said:
p.s. only thing I don't agree with is the "condom" text, sounds a bit thirsty
Agreed- you need to give the girl plausible deniability. If you verbalize something like that, she will be forced to say no so that she won't feel like a slut-- ESPECIALLY since you haven't built any comfort whatsoever. A better idea would be to have her meet you at a bar walking distance from your place, then build comfort and pull from there. More work, but will result in a higher batting average.

The rest of the post is great, however- particularly the part about hitting up sets at the bar. Those are the sets that have been repeatedly hit on by lame dudes all night, so if you can stand out from the rest, you're golden.
 

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You guys have to remember something - I'm dealing with 15-20 numbers by the end of the night. I don't have time to sit there and "feel" a girl out as to what she's going to do, and I don't have to because of the volume I have. However, if I don't have a bite by the 9th or 10th girl, I'll slow it down a little bit and work from a different angle. Plus it's a fun thing to say and I like getting a reaction out of girls.

From my experience when it comes to the bar/club scene, you have to strike while the iron is hot and try to bang her that night, because there's a pretty good chance you will never see the girl again. I know this advice seems to go against the grain, but when you break it down through logical reasoning it starts to make sense. Say you get a number from a chick at the bar on a Saturday night, then you wait 3 days to text. What you have to understand is that the dynamics are completely different. The girl is not in the same frame of mind she was on the weekend. It was a very crazy/drunk party atmosphere where everyone was in the moment and letting loose. Now fast forward 72 hours later and the girl is now sober, at home and could be doing laundry, and she gets a text from the guy whom she meet 3 days prior at the bar. It's just an awkward situation. What are you going to do? Wait till the weekend rolls around and try to meet up with her when she's drunk again? Good luck with that. All the momentum is lost and you're back at square one.

Now day game is completely different, because when you meet a girl (at the mall for example) she is SOBER and not in party mode. When you text her a couple days later mid-week, she's probably still going to be sober and not partying. There's some fluidity and consistency.
 

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Dude, AWESOME post. This has made me re-think my bar hopping strategy:

Go to the bars that don't require cover.
Get numbers.
Go to the gay bar to finish the night.
Text and let girls know I'm at said gay bar.
Get obligatory question if I'm gay.
Answer "no" to said question
Have them come by for some fun (girls get slutty at the gay bar, one of the other guys that goes there on a regular basis was making out with two hot girls at the same time)
Move 'em to my place, possible threesome

This also has made me re-think my view on texting. At one point I was against ANY texting, but that was because I didn't have much game, especially texting game. Looks like it can be a great tool to get laid, which is really what it's all about anyway.

I don't agree with using your exact lines, because they may work for you, but not so much for me. That being said, I'm going to try it and see if it fits.

Awesome post, +1. Copied to tips section
 
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