Banging an ex, is it ever worth it?

soulforge

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Ok so i was seeing this chick for 2 years.. it ended up a very toxic relationship!

She treated me pretty badly in the relationship.. she dumped me.. then realised her mistake and begged me to get back with her.. she begged and chased me for around 6 months.. but i ignored the crap out of her..

I remained no contact for 2 years.. got completely over her.. she contacted me around a month ago.. and we decided to be friends..

She just broke up with a dude she was seeing for 5 months.. so currently i am having sex with her FWB

She knows i don't want a relationship with her, and she does not want one with me!


Couple of things are bothering me tho..

01. There is a possibility old feelings for her may come back

02. She might be using me to get over her ex, or till she meets the next guy, then she will be gone


Whats your opinions on keeping an ex as a FWB???,


Any experiences similar to this?????
 

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02 is the most likely option, but if you can benefit from it, so i would mind if i were you.

if you're having feeling for her, then just leave it as it is.
 

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Banging an ex is never worth it.

When you throw your garbage into the dumpster, you don't start rummaging in it looking for the breakfast you had two days ago. You go to the grocery store and buy new breakfast food.
 

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You can get back with her and it might bring you some satisfaction knowing you got her back in the end, but the relationship will never be the same, and you'll ruin the good memories you have of the first time around (if there are any left).
 

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Depends how the relationship ended etc, lots of variables.

just keep it casual and don't invest
 

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FWB...yeah get some secks out of it. Girls go crawling back to exes, usually who they have kept in touch with, when they:

Get hurt by another guy
Just ended it with another guy and are lonely
Want some no strings secks because they are horny
Are out of options dating-wise and dont want to be single

All selfish reasons. Don't catch feelings again...
 

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Well my ex of over an year is still calling like "Did you find a girlfriend yet?" everytime I add a girl on facebook or smth, they just sense these things. Se this girl opened my eyes to true female nature, you can call her BPD, but I wouldnt go that far.


I just wish she and her current fool get married or smth and be happy couse if she calls tomorrow to say she would like to visit me I wouldnt say no, couse them legs, that ass, that face.

Although it seems that her fool is a good boyfriend (unlike me, acted like a kid, left her twice :D) giving her presents and all so I just fuking hope they get married and she stops reminding me of her existance. Hes an ugly mofo tho and lately all there is on her facebook are selfies so I see clouds on the horison.

Point is, peeps who found each other at highschool or smth, and stayed together are golden, I know couples like these they are solid man. The rest of us have to stack layers of **** inside of us - 1 layer for every person that was important to us, but is no longer present.

But I feel like, having lived together with a girl for 3 years, I can pull this stunt correctly the next time, but why have a serious GF in mt 20s? I dont see the point. I see myself living much much better now that Im single.

So e to answer the question, the sex will be awesome, but it will bring you hardship, as it is mos def a part of this girl's plan to make you sad.
 

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Nobody can see the world through your perception or relate to EXACTLY how you feel or think...you need to decide for yourself on this one, but the short answer is "hell no".

I'd say to politely explain to her that you're not interested, and then go out and meet some new girls instead. Don't position yourself to be hung-up over an ex...it ended for a reason, and there are soooooooooooo many options out there as long as you're able to position yourself in ways to find them/meet them easily.
 

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one time my ex contacted me online after many years of not hearing from her, and i knew immediately what she wanted. i ended up swinging by her apartment where i violently fcked her face twice in a row super hard, and then i left and havent talked to her again since. i wasnt too thrilled about seeing her again, i really wish i had other women and i wish i could do better, but whatever i was horny and i got to bang her face exactly the way i had seen in all those pornos i had watched online, something i had never done with her when i was with her and hadnt taken the red pill yet and would have been way too afraid to try, and it did feel really amazing.

btw the reason she contacted me online that night was because her loser bf was in jail that weekend, i guess she was angry at him or feeling lonely or whatever. who knows.
 

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GS750 said:
FWB...yeah get some secks out of it. Girls go crawling back to exes, usually who they have kept in touch with, when they:

Get hurt by another guy
Just ended it with another guy and are lonely
Want some no strings secks because they are horny
Are out of options dating-wise and dont want to be single

All selfish reasons. Don't catch feelings again...

Well she only got intouch with me because she dumped the guy she was seeing.. she was probably feeling lonely.

There is a good possibility she is using me, till the next guy comes along.. but hey, i can never have a relationship with this chick, as she makes a terrible girlfriend.

Also she has agreed to take part in a 3sum or 4sum with me...so i could use her for a while, and have some sexual adventures? ??
 

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mikey2012 said:
If you want adventures get a ho.

Yeh its less complicated to have sexual adventures with some slut, than with an ex girlfriend
 

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62Telecaster said:
Nobody can see the world through your perception or relate to EXACTLY how you feel or think...you need to decide for yourself on this one, but the short answer is "hell no".

I'd say to politely explain to her that you're not interested, and then go out and meet some new girls instead. Don't position yourself to be hung-up over an ex...it ended for a reason, and there are soooooooooooo many options out there as long as you're able to position yourself in ways to find them/meet them easily.

I hear what you are saying.. but honestly i have zero intention of having anything other than sex with her..

She is sooooo totaly wrong to have a relationship with.. she is wil
willing to try some 3sums and 4sums with me... so maybe just have some fun for a while, then get rid of her at some point..

Or of her behaviour gets out of hand, then i could quickly drop her like a sack of spanners..

Also i am dating sites meeting other woman.. she knows i am banging other chicks, and seems to be fine with it
 

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dude y u always writin bout the same sh@t all the time wanting to f@ck ur exs? u get the same advice ppl tellin u not to. n u still r confused bout it. shakin my damn head on that one.
 

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Once a month at most. Anything more and you're asking for trouble.
 

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The best advice I can give you is to be sure of your feelings about her before anything so you won't fall in love again, and if you want to try to take a second chance on your relationship remember that there is a reason you break up before...
 

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Casillas said:
The best advice I can give you is to be sure of your feelings about her before anything so you won't fall in love again, and if you want to try to take a second chance on your relationship remember that there is a reason you break up before...

No chance.. i am 100% certain i do not want a relationship with her... i just need to make sure i keep my feelings in check.. and keeps things on a strict fwb level
 
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