banging a girl turns out in weird situation

[pyros]

So I met this HB7.5 single mom I wrote about in a previous thread, a month ago. She always seemed pretty interested, texting me everyday, sending me kisses etc etc
Always willing to meet eventhough she has little free time due to work + children.
We've been on 8 dates, had some sex on date 4 and I banged her on date 8 BUT...here is the weird thing:

On our last date when I 'banged' her, we went to the cinema and after it I suggested to go back to my place to listen to some music, she agreed.
Well, it took me around 1 full hour of being persistent to just take her shirt and bra off. She 'stopped' me several times but she was always smiling and having fun so I continued.
However, she was telling me every 15 minutes that it was late and she had to go back because the babysitter was waiting for her eventhough she was smiling and she was obviously enjoying it.

Well, after trying several times to take off her pants I finally stopped but...after 5 minutes she decided to take them off herself. Ok. We kept playing now both naked I put my **** in once, and then I got a condom. As I said she kept saying that she should get going cause it was late, again all this while smiling and telling me things like:
her: your so persistent hehehe, you finally got me naked. I dont want to have sex tonigh, it would be better some other day ok?

We kept playing, she was stroking my ****, I was sucking her tits etc... and as I said before, I put it in, banged her like 3-4 times but then she said:
her: listen, I have to go, just do it quick if you want to finish
me: what? nah I think I'll pass

So we stopped, got dressed and I took her home.
On the way to her place she asked me what kind of relationship I wanted to have with her, because she did not want a FWB thing, just a serious relationship. I replied that I would like to get to know her more, and that I did not want just FWB.

Well, next day she texted me to say that she realised that I did not want anything serious with her, that she has big responsabilities and that she does not want to waste her time neither mine. That she has children and I don't and that if she didnt have kids, she would like to keep seing me.

WHAT?
COULD YOU EXPLAIN ME WHY THAT WEIRD BEHAVIOUR WHEN WE HAD SEX LAST TIME? I mean, the thing about her repeating every 15 minutes that she had to go + when I finally got her naked and put my **** in she said just do it quick??

I dont understand anything, why not just have a normal banging session? I mean, once you're naked, and even if she thinks I dont want any long term relationship...why go to bed with me, get naked, let me 'put it in' and tell me to do it quick??


Anyone explain me this please. Thanks.

 

[GotED?]

Phucked up EMOTIONAL ISSUES and BAGGAGE LEFTOVER FROM OTHER ALPHA MALES in the past.

From personal experience, a woman who can't enjoy sex has some serious emotional and mental trauma to get over about physical intimacy.

Really - good luck with this one- it's an uphill battle.

Exodus

 

[Greasy Pig]

Some women after having kids lose a lot of sensation downstairs.
Her telling you to be quick could be indicative of that.
Women like that will allow men to fvck them but only as a means of endearing themselves to those men. But they get no sexual satisfaction from it.

Sex is really a woman's best bargaining chip and she'll give it up to win the prize (ie you) even though it's not pleasurable for her.
Food for thought.

 

[cordoncordon]

She is trying to game play/pressure you into saying that you want to be exclusive with her. This is her way of giving you an ultimatum without coming out and directly saying "this is an ultimatum". She thinks that since you tasted the goods, now you will want to dine at the buffet on a nightly basis.

Up to you want you want to do from here, but that is what she is doing.

 

[sylvester the cat]

It's clearly a ploy to get you to reveal your true intentions.

 

[pyros]

My true intentions were to 'date' her for a couple of months till she asked for something serious, but she did this already after just 8 dates......damn

She said that she wanted to remain good friends (yeah sure) and this morning she sent me a text wishing me a good day...

I dont know if I should ignore her completely or just feed her with very little attention.
What do you think is best to keep that puss-y around?

 

[hockeyfreak79]

Agreed 100% with GotED........uphill battles are just not f*cking worth it, it's draining and can kill your overall game. It's been a long time for me but I meet a cool chick recently BUT this broad has major sex issues, probably the worst I've ever experienced. Just a cold fish, pretty disappointing.

I'm guessing you are in your 30's, it doesn't matter single mom or not some chicks in there 30s & up just have the worst emotional issues and baggage.

Refrain from fapping 2-3 nites before a date, that way you don't take an hour second guessing yourself whether or not she wants to f*ck. She agreed to come to your house, she wants you to get it in.

Try dropping the single moms bro! Its low hanging fruit, I get it. It's the best decision I've made in a long time!

 

[n00bPimp]

You're under the incorrect impression that women think like men.
Women are emotional creatures, they do things because their emotions take them there and not because their common sense takes them there. this is why men see them as illogical, because men usually take decisions by using their logic and not their emotions.

She got turned on so she banged.
Either way, during the times that logic kicked into her she was telling you she had to go but you kept going for it so you cannot say she was fully willing to have sex.

 

[pyros]

I see...

Anyway, in the next two days she has texted me twice wishing me a good day and adding a kiss emoticon (not as many as before but ok) Well, I just replied with: you too :*

Now, today she texted me again in the evening to ask me how I was doing, I said fine, what about you? and she then asked me if I'm going this week to our salsa lesson (where I met her) and that she wants me to say hello to her and that if I ignore her she's gonna 'kill' me.

Explanation please?
does she still want the dic-k or not?
do I wait for her to see if she suggests to hang out again?
or do I let a few days pass and ask her out?

 

[Krueg]

Tell that Ho' to go play with her Kids! Get lost man, or your gonna be the next chump being the daddy!

 

[G_Govan]

She is trying to game play/pressure you into saying that you want to be exclusive with her. This is her way of giving you an ultimatum without coming out and directly saying "this is an ultimatum". She thinks that since you tasted the goods, now you will want to dine at the buffet on a nightly basis.

Up to you want you want to do from here, but that is what she is doing.

^^^Don't sleep on this explanation.

She's after a "provider." She wants more control of you through sex because without it, there's no leverage.

Most women engage in this to some degree, but she's a single mother, it's a top priority (depending on her looks, age and financial situation specifically).

Personally, I'm not into the whole persistence thing. If she's playfully resisting a little, that can be fun, but what you described was her straight up toying with you in a disrespectful way.

 

[Thorninmyside]

^ Guthrie govan fan?

 

[YawataNoKami]

Never, ever date a single mother. She's in wallet seeking mode shamelessly looking for a beta provider.

 

[pyros]

Well, I dont know what she wants but she texted me to see if I could meet her.
We had a coffee, some laughs, she seemed pretty affectionate so we ended up making out, and we did not have any 'conversation' about what type or relationship we're gonna have so I understand she got the point, no serious relationship with me, but we can have some good times together.

Crazy.

 

[G_Govan]

^ Guthrie govan fan?

Yes, only found out about him within the last year. Dude is amazing.

Well, I dont know what she wants but she texted me to see if I could meet her.
We had a coffee, some laughs, she seemed pretty affectionate so we ended up making out, and we did not have any 'conversation' about what type or relationship we're gonna have so I understand she got the point, no serious relationship with me, but we can have some good times together.

Crazy.

Don't fall into the trap of thinking she's "crazy" or women are unknowable. It's very obvious to those of us who have experienced this type of behavior, what she's after. It's text-book.