Baldness and Rejection

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In these past vacations i got rejected twice and the reason they gave me: because i'm bald. i'm 34 and start losing my hair when i was 27, it was something i knew i had to live with from then on and now i came to the point where i had to cut it really short, but now i notice it's ruining my chances with women, and i dont just mean super hot girls but average girls, ugly ones reject me and i other men just because they are bald.

is there a way to overcome this? if so, how? are there some bald men in the board and do you have any success ?
 

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I'm a guy fwiw, but I think men with shaved or closely cropped hair look much better than toupees or combovers. Most people agree with this by the way.

One piece of advice I don't hear alot though, if you are a white guy and you are shaving your head, try and wear some facial hair. Simple but it changes the look completely and for the better.
 

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Your answer is here, from four years ago, when you asked the same thing:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=101811

You have some massive insecurity issues about your looks from what I can tell. If it's not your balding hair, it's your braces, and if not... your "stick out ears".

I don't think it's so much that you have a balding head of hair, but how insecure you are about yourself. Just shave it off and then find another excuse on which you can get rejected on.

A way to overcome it is to shave it off or to just realize that it's a fact of life that you really can do nothing about. I've seen VERY confident men that are balding and still go out with hot women. If they can do it, so can you, but it begins WITHIN you.
 

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i would call it insecurity or an excuse if a girl wouldnt said that to me directly or if i didn't want leave the confort of my house. but at least i got some courage and approached them and got rejected, and they are not HB either, one of them has a cute face but is fat, but anyway she rejected me for being bald. so i haven't made excuses for not knowing them.
 

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NeedToImprove said:
i would call it insecurity or an excuse if a girl wouldnt said that to me directly. but at least i approached them and got rejected, and they are not HB either, one of them has a cute face but is fat, but anyway she rejected me for being bald. so i haven't made excuses for not knowing them.
Yeah, and I've had girls tell me that they wanted to go out with me and then don't pick up the phone. I've had girls tell me that they never bang someone on the first date and then proceed to lead me back to their houses halfway through the first date.

Maybe they are using your baldness as a convinient excuse, maybe they really don't find it attractive. The problem here is that you are using that as an excuse for yourself. If you had self-confidence, that wouldn't even be an issue, but after years of being here at this forum, you project your inner self into your outer self and the cycle continues.

Yay... you approached them and got rejected.
It can't possibly be that they didn't like you... it's ALL because you're bald. Right? I mean, it's much easier to blame external reasons.

Let's follow YOUR logic for a second here.
If it IS because you are bald, then they are superficial wenches who don't deserve the time of day anyway. If they can't recognize you as a great guy with an awesome personality than you are better off anyway.

And you said you cut it real short. Shave it all off and try the same approach then. If you get rejected, then what is the reason? I'm sure you'll ALWAYS have a reason to say that you got rejected that you can blame on some part of your physical looks.
 

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NeedToImprove said:
In these past vacations i got rejected twice and the reason they gave me: because i'm bald. i'm 34 and start losing my hair when i was 27, it was something i knew i had to live with from then on and now i came to the point where i had to cut it really short, but now i notice it's ruining my chances with women, and i dont just mean super hot girls but average girls, ugly ones reject me and i other men just because they are bald.

is there a way to overcome this? if so, how? are there some bald men in the board and do you have any success ?

grow some nuts sir. im 17. I think that my hairline was getting thinner, so I kind of buzzed it off hardcore. Does it look good? Meh, I'm trying to get more buff. Im a tall skinny asian kid with a super short buzzcut in a school full of asians. Most of those asians got no self confidence, despite having a full head of hair.

Imagine...17, lol thats like 10 years before you started. So what, am I supposed to cry about this? No. I still try my best. Im getting more confident every day. I gave myself one year to become super confident (by then I'll be 18). But after ur post, I'll give myself one MONTH instead.

Imagine if a dude ten years+ ur junior can get over losing his hair in 1/48th of the time it took you. Ahahha dude get it together. Its all about YOU, and how YOU feel about YOU. Meditate on it.

Its your life, if you feel **** about you, lol no ones going to feel bad or sorry for you. Pity is gay, because its just narcissim wrapped in depression. Your not a homo are you?

****, I hope you figure it out. Otherwise, there are people with testicular cancer who would appreciate your balls :D.
 

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Its your lack of confidence thats unattractive. If you were super confident, your baldness wouldnt be an issue. The chicks would look past it. I bet if you wore a hat, your confidence would make you more attractive, but you would think its because they cant see your baldness. You gotta be truly ok with yourself. Believe it or not, there are hot girls out there that like bald guys. These are usually girls who had bald fathers, but its true.
 

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My hair has been thinning since I was 25, I shave it low and it's never been a problem, in fact, I've had chicks who enjoyed rubbing my head.
 

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Tazman said:
My hair has been thinning since I was 25, I shave it low and it's never been a problem, in fact, I've had chicks who enjoyed rubbing my head.
hmm...which head? :D
 

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So if i get invited out to a club.. vip with some guys and like 10 girls and i show up looking like a waiter with black slacks on and a white tshirt buttoned up to my neck, because in my eyes its me dressing "nice" while everyone else looks like they are in a music video/out of a GQ magazine.. and it leads to chicks never giving me the time of day.. thats my insecurity issues? lol..

guys in this community LOVE this security blanket of "you dont have to be attractive to get hot girls" and that is DEAD wrong, YES you do. Do you have to be "naturally good looking" no not at all. But you need a sense of style, you need to be socially calibrated, confidence surely is a plus, but most importantly you need to instinctively know what IS attractive, that doesn't come with reading message boards that comes with going out having friends.. **** even watching reality tv shows, and especially girl friends that are just friends.
 

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Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.

This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

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Sure some women don't like bald men. F*ck them!

What you need to do is put some muscle on your frame. A lot more muscle. Get your ass to the gym.

The only way you can build confidence is through experience. For me, it was after my 20th lay. Now I'm a good deal above that. Works wonders for your confidence.

Once you got the body and the confidence, women will flock to you.
 

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You aren't getting rejected because you're bald, that is pathetic. You're getting rejected because you have insecurities reflecting when you're gaming and women can smell this.

Listen, if the last 10 girls that you've approached have said "No, I don't like bald men" then I'm completely side with you on that. Thats just highly unlikely isn't it? I bet when you'are talking to these girls, you think they're looking at your hairline instead of your eyes, arent you? You're insecure dude. Being shorter, unclean or fatter is the most common thing which doesn't attract, bald isn't.
 

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This was written a long time ago and still applies.....

OP---read this and stop worring about your hair......


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Stirred Up The Hornet's Nest Over At Gp.com with my "Tips"

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HEY GUYS: I WAS BORED WITH THE THREADS ON THIS SITE, SO I WENT OVER TO GP.COM AND AFTER BEING SICKENED BY THE GARBAGE I WAS READING OVER THERE I SENT OFF THIS LITTLE MISSIVE: (guaranteed to outrage!)

However, I live my life by these principles. The results speak for themselves.

(BTW, I post under my alterego "black bull" on gp.com)
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THE REAL TRUTH ABOUT WOMEN, FOR THE CLUELESS LADS LOOKING TO GET LAID.

TO THE GUYS THAT POST HERE: You are pathetic. You come here with your tales of wuss-dom and wonder why the girl you have a hard-on for always goes for the prick/jock.

Well here's what's it all about coming from the mouth of a jock who at the age of 28 has bagged more girls than some of you chodes will bang in a lifetime, hell 3 lifetimes (I am the guy who was probably fukking the girl you pine over like a wuss-bag in your miserable high school existence.)

Consider this a shining beacon of male-reason to cut through all the bullshyt I read on this forum, that in the end only serves to emasculate you poor, clueless bastards even more.

THE CARDINAL RULES:

1. 95% OF WOMEN ARE UTTERLY WORTHLESS, (OTHER THAN FOR SEX OF COURSE) AND ULTIMATELY REPLACEABLE.

I could really give a fukk about most of the women I meet, even most of the ones I end up fukking. They are lame, boring, kind of stupid, and usually lacking in any kind of original thought. They are utterly self-important, self centered and basically wait around for the man in their life to give them some kind of purpose outside of school/job/or whatever sport they engage in.

Another thing that annoys me is that a lot of guys fall into the delusion of getting into "platonic relationships" with girls... what a crock of shyt!! Girls really have nothing to contribute to hanging out with the boys other than as a conduit to meeting other, hotter girls..... other than that, females are pretty worthless to men. Most men just don't have the balls to admit it to themselves.

Therefore, gentlemen, simplify your lives thusly. So: regarding Girls: - if you're not fukkin' them - drop 'em... unless she has hot friends. Other than that - they are utterly worthless to you.

Once in a blue moon, you'll actually meet a girl who is actually worth some kind of effort. But this is a very dicy judgment call, and I would assume most of you guys are too inexperienced with women and stlll prone to mushy touchy-feely bullshyt emotions to make this distinction yet. You have to muck through a lot of sluts and ****-teases to find some quality. Quality, of course, is individual criteria you guys will create as you gain experience with women. And even when you find quality, there's no guarantee it'll last.

2. YOU SHOULD NEVER REALLY GIVE A FLYING FUKK WHAT A GIRL THINKS ABOUT YOU ANYWAY. DO WHATEVER THE HELL YOU WANT TO DO AND NEVER TAKE ANY BULLSHYT FROM A WOMAN. REMEMBER, YOU'RE A MAN NOT SOME EMASCULATED PVSSY. IF YOU ARE NOT GETTING WHAT YOU WANT OUT OF A "RELATIONSHIP" YOU WALK WITHOUT HESITATION. PERIOD. AND DON'T LOOK BACK. THERE'S ALWAYS ANOTHER ONE.

ONCE YOU GIVE UP YOUR POWER IN A RELATIONSHIP, YOUR WOMAN WILL LOSE ALL RESPECT FOR YOU, AND IT'S ALL DOWNHILL FROM THERE.

3. DON'T EVER TAKE ADVICE FROM WOMEN ABOUT WOMEN. THEY ARE UTTERLY CLUELESS. WHY? BECAUSE THEY THEMSELVES ARE TOTALLY FULL OF SHYT, AND HAVE NO IDEA WHAT THEY REALLY WANT. THEY'LL ONLY TELL WHAT YOU THINK YOU WANT TO HEAR, AND USUALLY IT HAS NO FOUNDATION IN REALITY.

IF YOU DON'T BELIEVE ME: TAKE THEIR ADVICE AND SEE WHAT HAPPENS. DON'T SAY YOU WEREN'T WARNED.

4. THE GUYS THAT SCORE TONS OF PVSSY ARE THE ONES YOU SHOULD BE ASKING FOR ADVICE, BECAUSE THEY SECRETLY KNOW WHAT THEY (WOMEN) REALLY WANT:

CHICKS GET OFF ON POWER. WHY DO YOU THINK THEY GO FOR THE JOCKS AND THE DUDES WITH THE DEFINED PECS AND SIXPACKS, AND NOT SOME FLABBY, TERRIBLE-POETRY-SPOUTING LOSER LIKE YOU? POWER, BABY.

SO CALL A GIRL OUT WHEN SHE SAYS SOME STUPID SHYT OR TRIES TO PULL SOME CRAP ON YOU, HAVE SOME BALLS AND TAKE HER OFF THAT DAMN PEDESTAL. CHANCES ARE SHE'S NOT EVEN THAT HOT, DUMBA$$.

IT'S THE WHOLE ALPHA MALE THING, ADAPTED TO HUMANS. ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT. NOTHING GETS A GIRL OFF LIKE POWER. (like a guy who isn't afraid to tell a girl - overtly or covertly - that he wants to get into her pants).. THIS POWER... JERKS LIKE ME HAVE IT. "NICE GUY" PUSSIES LIKE YOU DON'T. THAT'S WHY YOU JERK YOURSELF OFF TO SLEEP EVERY NIGHT.

WHAT THEY REALLY WANT IS TO BE TREATED LIKE DIRT. THAT MEANS FUKK THE LIVING SHYT OUT OF THEM, MULTIPLE TIMES IN ONE NIGHT TO MIND BLOWING ORGASMS, AND THEN DISAPPEAR FOR AWHILE. YOU'LL SEE HOW THEY ALWAYS COME BACK FOR MORE. TO THIS EXTENT, YOU SHOULD ALWAYS HAVE MORE THAN ONE GIRL. THIS KEEPS STUPID HEAD-TRIP PLAYING BYTCHES IN CHECK. AND OF COURSE, VARIETY IS THE SPICE OF LIFE (to borrow the lame cliche..hey it's true !! )

5. HAVE SOME BALLS AND BE A MAN. ACTION, ATTITUDE AND NOT OVERANALYSIS IS THE KEY TO GETTING LAID TO THAT EFFECT, IF YOU LOOK LIKE A WUSSY, YOU'LL BE TREATED LIKE A WUSSY. GET OFF YOUR FAT, LAZY ASS AND GET IN THE GYM. BEAT THE JOCKS AT THEIR OWN GAME. STOP LAMENTING THE UNFAIRNESS OF IT ALL. GET OVER THAT SHYT. LIFE ISN'T FAIR. YOU WANT TO START FUKKIN HOT BYTCHES? GET OFF YOUR ASS AND MAKE IT HAPPEN.

6. IF YOU HATE YOURSELF OR THE WAY YOU LOOK NONE OF WHAT I SAID IN POSTS 1-5 WILL MAKE A BIT OF DIFFERENCE. YOU HAVE TO REMAKE YOURSELF INTO A PIMP. THIS IS WHERE BECOMING FRIENDS WITH A CERTIFIED MACK WORKS WONDERS. IF YOUR CURRENT INCARNATION IS NOT GETTING YOU LAID , WISHING THAT GIRLS SEE YOU FOR "WHO YOU REALLY ARE" IS NOTHING BUT A FUKKIN SELF DELUSION. GET OFF THAT FUKKIN CLOUD, AND START DOING SOMETHING ABOUT IT.

7. DO YOURSELF A FAVOR AND GET OFF THIS SITE. THIS SITE WILL NOT GET YOU LAID. IT WILL TURN YOU INTO AN EMASCULATED SHE-MALE.

8. ONLY UGLY, SEXUALLY FRUSTRATED, PLAIN JANE, AND/OR FAT CHICKS, POST ON THESE FORUMS (and the Internet in general). THE TRULY INSANE POPULAR, HOT BYTCHES YOU WANT TO BE FUKKIN ARE OUT GETTING RAILED BY THEIR A$$HOLE BOYFRIENDS AT THIS VERY MINUTE OR CRUISING FOR DYCK AT THE HOT NIGHTSPOT AS WE SPEAK. THEY DON'T SIT AT HOME AND CRUISE THE NET.

9. LADIES, I COULD GIVE A FLYING FUKK ABOUT YOUR OPINIONS TO THIS POST. WHY? BECAUSE AS MUCH AS YOU HATE GUYS LIKE ME ON PAPER, WHEN YOU MEET US OUT IN THE REAL WORLD, WE MAKE YOUR PUZZIES WET.

10. IF YOU ARE A GUY READING THIS AND THINK I'M A PRICK, CONGRATULATIONS, GIVE YOURSELF A PAT ON THE BACK.

BUT THEN AGAIN, IN ONE HOUR ONE OF MY FB (**** buddy) WILL BE GETTING OFF WORK AND I WILL FUKK HER TIL 5AM. WHAT ABOUT YOU? THIS ISN'T TO BE AN ******* (even though I am) , IT'S THE RAW, UNADULTERATED TRUTH.

IF YOU CAN'T STOMACH THIS, AND THIS KIND OF BRUTAL TALK STILL HASN'T INSPIRED YOU INTO ACTION... LOOK BETWEEN YOUR LEGS AND CHECK IF YOU STILL HAVE A PAIR DOWN THERE.

11. RELATIONSHIPS ARE HIGHLY OVERRATED. LOOK AT GEORGE CLOONEY, HE'S GOT THE RIGHT IDEA. When you get married you might as well hand your testicles over to your wife. So I'll go kicking and screaming til the bitter end.

12. REAL MEN EAT MEAT. GIRLS SECRETLY THINK THAT VEGETARIANS ARE PVSSIES. MANY OF MY ATTRACTIVE LADY FRIENDS (i.e. FBs) HAVE TOLD ME THIS IN CONFIDENCE. I JUST HAD TO THROW THAT IN THERE. SOMEHOW I WOULDN'T BE SURPRISED TO FIND A LOT OF VEGETARIANS ON THIS SITE.


HAVE A NICE DAY,
the bull



Over and Out.
 

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boomerick: that post is complete dog shiit, summary = "stop being a pussie"

whats next, just tell someone to be confident, cause.. that works like the flip of a switch, instantly after you say it, the confident fairy comes down and sprinkles confidence dust on your head.
 

Peace and Quiet

If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.

Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.

This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

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No actually you should study some other internet guy's mapped out connect the dots stratigies....

Buy his books and videos.....

You should practice a step by step routine so you can blow it right in front of the chicks it when its time to try to remember it.....

Then get some cool/ funny clothes and hats...

Then spend hours/days on the internet agonizing over your neg technique/ virginity/ funny hat jacket choice/ openers other posters approve of / last girl and why she dumped you / how to be a jerk when you're really a nice guy / and when, oh f*cking when, to call/text her next.....

What ever you do don't try to look at yourself as a chick would to see how you stack up / what you have to offer and if you have or can become what she's looking for....

And never, NEVER read the reference material on this site ---The DJ Bible, Pook, AntiDump, Fingers.....

NEVER go near that sh!t .....(it might have the answers and you wouldn't be able to have an excuse to fail)

Consentrate instead on tiny little details that you should just ignore (because they are insignificant to chicks anyway) but instead blow them up into a great big deal so you ALWAYS have an excuse to fail that is just beyond your control.....

Never just stand up in front of a mirror and truley cruely evaluate yourself and decide to actively willfully like a man change/ improve those things that you can and accept the things that can't be changed.....

Never just say to yourself, "If other guys can pull this sh!t off then I'm good enough that I can pull it off too."....

Never decide that you are making this sh!t with women WAY too complicated....("it must be since I don't seem to be able to get it")

Never set up a plan to improve yourself as a man in ALL facets of your life relegating p*ssy to the back seat where it belongs....

Instead probe the other internet "real men" who are not getting with women to see what they think the "cheat codes" to getting p*ssy are......

Then sit home in your mom's basement by your silent phone next to your computer with the over used porn directory and box of splooge tissues and wonder why all this SS stuff doesn't work .....

And triumphantly post in a coupla weeks that all this PU/SS stuff is sh!t that doesn't work and that you are never coming to this worthless site again......

Sorry for the rant but I see this FAIL every week here....

And I see the posters who are sucessful and field tested and Bible worthy dismissed by the know it alls who've gotten liad twice.....

Over and Out.
 

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its completely irrelevant even if "man up and stop being a pusssy" is 100% correct, telling that to someone who is having trouble with women to begin with.. that does NOTHING for them - you dont comprehend that.

??? no one was referencing PUA crap why did you just randomly throw that in? but while on the topic most pua crap out there WILL help with confidence and positive mindsets WAY more then your "man up and stop being a biitch" rules.
 

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30some--

Ummm....maybe you should re-read my post.....

Over and Out.
 

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lemme know when you have more then one line of advice to get a guy from not being able to approach women to figuring out if he should make a girls eggs scrambled or sunny side up in the morning when he wakes up next to her. until then stop posting in this thread please

P.S. wow i cannot believe you posted that trash and really thought no one would call you out on that.
 

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I can't believe how far downhill things have gone on this site. I'm looking for quality answers to not just my questions, but that of others, and they are few and far between. What's with all the anger? People used to come on here and try to help each other. What the hell happened?

To NeedToImprove: Haven't read all your posts, but it sounds like you have a bad self-image.

Kailex seems to be one of the exceptions. He's right when he says it has to come from within. Stop seeing everything that's wrong with you and see what's right. I can't tell you what that is, but you are not getting rejected because of your lack of hair.

I am bald. I could grow hair, but I shave it. I like it that way. Women have said they like it, so that kind of helped me make up my mind. I have thin hair anyway.

But I have met women who don't like it. It doesn't matter, because I know that if I get laid or not, it won't have anything to do with my hair.

It's all in how you perceive things. I get that it is hard to overcome a lifetime of self-doubt. But you are a man now. The crap your family or friends threw at you when you were a kid no longer applies.

I think deep down you know you are making excuses. Your physical appearance is not the problem.

You know what a good book for you to read is? "Get Off Your 'But'" by Sean Stephenson. I'm going to sign off with that. Just read it, read about him and what he has to say, and you're going to understand that you have no real excuses.
 

Peace and Quiet

If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.

Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.

This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

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