Damn, I see a whole lot of supplicating in this thread. lol
Why does your arm go numb? I mean, surely you don't sit there and cuddle her all night long? Why would you do that? I mean, I know it's great to hold her a little bit, but damn, at some point you just gotta be like "I gotta get some sleep, so I'm going to roll over and go to sleep. Good night. I love you." and then roll over. Why torture yourself all night long?
itishe said:
I ain't much for meeting a girls requirements. Until she can prove she can cook and clean it will remain that way.
What a piss poor attitude!
Basically what you are saying is that you are only willing to improve yourself whenever someone else lives up to the incredibly high standards you hyprocritically hold over everyone around you. Talk about cowardice. Sorry if that's too blunt for your tastes, but at the end of the day it shouldn't matter whether she cooks and cleans or not. All that should matter is that you have goals for yourself and that you are striving to be the best you can be at what you do, and only surround yourself with people with a similar mindset.
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As for balancing danger with safety, well, that isn't really something you pick up on a message board. However, I will say this much...It all stems from your ability to know exactly what you want, how to get it, and the price you are willing to pay for it. Then, the ability to stand up and take it regardless who you are with. When you do this, you aren't playing some balancing act to try to keep a girl interested in you. You are living your life, going for the things you want, doing the things you want, and then LEADING the girl you are with towards those things. When you do that, the natural balance will be there because when you do these things for yourself you are going to want stability in your life, but you are also ging to have a sense of adventure.
