Hi Guys,
I have been lurking around here for almost 2 years now. I found this after a pretty brutal breakup and have been through everything you can imagine over the last 2 years... I have experiance being a total AFC (As most of us have), I have transformed myself over the last 2 years phisically and mentally, have had many bumps in the road and bounced between thinking I am a DJ and slding right back to AFC many times. I feel I have finally got to a place where I have good knowledge about many crazy situations so I am finally posting to introduce myself, tell you my story and hopefully help some of you guys and learn more myself.
In a nut shell:
I was with an ex for 8 years, both virgins when we met, stayed loyal to her from the age of 18 - 26, I believed in love and loyalty and thought I would be with her forever (I know... I know...) until she cheated on me with her personal trainer... I confronted her, she denied it, next day dumps me via text after 8 years. I chased her for months, lost all power I ever had, all self-respect and it drove me to finally come here and pick my life up.
After a short while I started running my game, starting on POF (had no confidance), met a few HB's was quite successful although still a total AFC, I was using the 'fake it till you make it' mentality with great success but I knew it was all a bravado and I had no inner game. I dropped out of POF and cause I started meeting a lot of crazies (turns out that's just called 'women'). Started gaming at bars and such and one day at a local bar A really beautiful girl (hb8-9 IMO) came on to me, this of course sky rocked my confidance and I started using everything I had been learning here on her... it worked, I was the prize to her, I had all the power, I was spinning 5 plates at this point)... but I missed all the red flags.
She was a single mother of 3, first child at 14 years old, self confessed to only like black guys (I was the only white guy shes ever been with apparently)..., her ex boyfriend beat her up and was in jail, she was raped at 13, no one ever treated her right (and a million other red flags that I ignored) she was very possesive and jelous, every girl who liked or commented on my facebook was apparently trying to f*ck me, she would take my phone when I went out the room and take girls numbers to then harrass them when I was not around. I eventually had enough and ran. One day she asks me to meet for a talk, we talked calmly, I said we needed to part ways and went home, 4am that morning I got arrested for assualt. she went to the police drunk at 1am and said I punched her, was held in a cell and she dropped the charges next morning (first time I had EVER been arrested)..
I decided to cut her out for good... a few months later she contacts me, says she is sorry and wanted to speak to me... never make this mistake guys... I met her... we ended up at a hotel bar, she asks me to get us a room, I did (Slap me now!) we had s*x, she then left the room to 'get coffee'... you know where this is going don't you guys?... I was arrested for rape that night! (second arrest EVER... in a 3 month period)
Held in a cell, questioned, took samples of my hair, nails, pen*s swap.. the most humiliating situation ever. I was bailed for 3 months, and my phone confiscated in this time she went on a tirade of abuse, The charges were dropped by the police themselves after an agonising month of stress. Now in a court of law, when it comes to rape, you're guilty until proven innocent, if it were not for the hotel's CCTV I would be in jail, in a rapists wing right now.. not somewhere you want to be. I was lucky.
Now get this... she still contacts me every few months asking to meet her.. the last one was last night (of course I didn't meet her) which is what inspired me to get more involved here today. I would like to say she is bi-polar but that term is thrown around too much here.
So I have made every mistake possible, I almost lost my job, my life even! All for some p*ssy, yet today I sit here, spinning much better plates, knowing where I fu*ked up so many times in the past, I have a good frame now and its very hard to penetrate nowadays, but if anyone can tell you about red flags - i have ignored them all and I have learnt the hard way.
Anyway thats my story in a nut shell, and I would love to help anyone that I can and hope you guys can keep me on track and make sure that old AFC is dead and buried for good.
Thanks for reading.
Baggio86
I have been lurking around here for almost 2 years now. I found this after a pretty brutal breakup and have been through everything you can imagine over the last 2 years... I have experiance being a total AFC (As most of us have), I have transformed myself over the last 2 years phisically and mentally, have had many bumps in the road and bounced between thinking I am a DJ and slding right back to AFC many times. I feel I have finally got to a place where I have good knowledge about many crazy situations so I am finally posting to introduce myself, tell you my story and hopefully help some of you guys and learn more myself.
In a nut shell:
I was with an ex for 8 years, both virgins when we met, stayed loyal to her from the age of 18 - 26, I believed in love and loyalty and thought I would be with her forever (I know... I know...) until she cheated on me with her personal trainer... I confronted her, she denied it, next day dumps me via text after 8 years. I chased her for months, lost all power I ever had, all self-respect and it drove me to finally come here and pick my life up.
After a short while I started running my game, starting on POF (had no confidance), met a few HB's was quite successful although still a total AFC, I was using the 'fake it till you make it' mentality with great success but I knew it was all a bravado and I had no inner game. I dropped out of POF and cause I started meeting a lot of crazies (turns out that's just called 'women'). Started gaming at bars and such and one day at a local bar A really beautiful girl (hb8-9 IMO) came on to me, this of course sky rocked my confidance and I started using everything I had been learning here on her... it worked, I was the prize to her, I had all the power, I was spinning 5 plates at this point)... but I missed all the red flags.
She was a single mother of 3, first child at 14 years old, self confessed to only like black guys (I was the only white guy shes ever been with apparently)..., her ex boyfriend beat her up and was in jail, she was raped at 13, no one ever treated her right (and a million other red flags that I ignored) she was very possesive and jelous, every girl who liked or commented on my facebook was apparently trying to f*ck me, she would take my phone when I went out the room and take girls numbers to then harrass them when I was not around. I eventually had enough and ran. One day she asks me to meet for a talk, we talked calmly, I said we needed to part ways and went home, 4am that morning I got arrested for assualt. she went to the police drunk at 1am and said I punched her, was held in a cell and she dropped the charges next morning (first time I had EVER been arrested)..
I decided to cut her out for good... a few months later she contacts me, says she is sorry and wanted to speak to me... never make this mistake guys... I met her... we ended up at a hotel bar, she asks me to get us a room, I did (Slap me now!) we had s*x, she then left the room to 'get coffee'... you know where this is going don't you guys?... I was arrested for rape that night! (second arrest EVER... in a 3 month period)
Held in a cell, questioned, took samples of my hair, nails, pen*s swap.. the most humiliating situation ever. I was bailed for 3 months, and my phone confiscated in this time she went on a tirade of abuse, The charges were dropped by the police themselves after an agonising month of stress. Now in a court of law, when it comes to rape, you're guilty until proven innocent, if it were not for the hotel's CCTV I would be in jail, in a rapists wing right now.. not somewhere you want to be. I was lucky.
Now get this... she still contacts me every few months asking to meet her.. the last one was last night (of course I didn't meet her) which is what inspired me to get more involved here today. I would like to say she is bi-polar but that term is thrown around too much here.
So I have made every mistake possible, I almost lost my job, my life even! All for some p*ssy, yet today I sit here, spinning much better plates, knowing where I fu*ked up so many times in the past, I have a good frame now and its very hard to penetrate nowadays, but if anyone can tell you about red flags - i have ignored them all and I have learnt the hard way.
Anyway thats my story in a nut shell, and I would love to help anyone that I can and hope you guys can keep me on track and make sure that old AFC is dead and buried for good.
Thanks for reading.
Baggio86
