Badly needed life advice - Interceptor, I hope you read this!

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Hi guys,

This site is great, and I really hope you all use it to improve your lives as much as you use it for the ladies. As I advised before, everyone should read interceptors & pooks (more so interceptor for life) posts and try to follow his advice. Pardon the mancrush!

This is my situation:

I'm 25, going 26. My father has always been a businessman, not a big businessman, but not a small one either. Just right. We always lived comfortably, had 2 nice jap cars and a nice condo. I went to college and wore good clothes. That kind of well to do. Nothing to extravagant, just right.

When I dropped out of college and figured I could just work with him and live comfortably like I always had, I decided to do so work with him. Bad move. My dad welcomed me with open arms.

I decided that I wouldn't be a slacker, work hard, and do my absolute best. I'm a perfectionist in the sense that I want to do everything the right way. If there is a best way, I will follow it. And because this was my livelihood, I coudln't afford to slack as I did in school. This is where the problem begins, after a month into the real world, I realized how boring this was!!!

I don't mean to be proud, but here are the facts, my dad and I started a new brand when I got in and in 4 years, we are #1 in the country (I'm in Asia). We are raking it in bigtime. I know in my head that if we continue this flow, we can be absolutely loaded in a few years. And I mean loaded. (please please don't hate me I don't mean to brag I just really really need this advice and felt the need to state all facts even if it sounds as bad as it does)

HOWEVER, I'M STILL ****ING BORED!!!!! I hate going to work, I don't look forward to it, it is boring as hell. I know this sounds unappreciative, I really do. I'm fortunate to have been given this chance at wealth.

2 years into it (2005,2006, part 07), I got sick so often, depressed, suicidal, bored, bored, alcohol, bored. Business was still good despite this, I guess we just had the right idea.

Then I found sosuave!!! This helped me go back to my original dream of playing tennis (I used to play nationally), and I decided to train before and after work everyday, 4 hours of training daily. I believed in myself and it was beautiful. I still didn't enjoy work too much but I had something to look forward to everyday. I stopped drinking, getting sick, getting depressed, and basically lived a clean, perfect lifestyle. It was awesome! I also realized that I'm capable to being insanely dedicated to an ideal when I'm passionate about it. I wanted it so bad, and I never missed training and was dedicated as hell.

Work still bored me, but didn't affect me overall as i was finally happy. Then I get a back injury, a torn disc. I'm told I can never train seriuosly again, just be a recreational player. I do rehab, rehab, and more rehab. I'm playing again, and I feel like I surpassed the dr's prognosis.

Now I realize that my ceiling for tennis is too low. Even if I make it, i'm nearing 26, and it cannot be my livelihood at this point, its just not practical/realistic. Definitely possible, but I don't believe its worth the risk.

As a result, I'm going to do everything in my power to get a coaching certification, and become the best tennis coach there is. i've always loved coaching tennis. I still hate work.

Now my question is, should I continue working? I feel like a sellout doing it purely for the money. At the same time, I feel stupid for turning down a chance at getting loaded.

I know that no matter how rich i get, I know in my heart that this is my dad's work, its his legacy, and I would never have gotten here through this path without him (and this is true because i hate business and i just wouldn't have thought about it). My dad is so nice enough to say that he wouldn't have done this without me, and he always tells me this is mine as much as it is his. He's really great. But also a sensitive AFC. He will cry for months if I leave him!

I want greatness and I want to do it on my own. Should I just start a foundation to help people with all that cash and continue to make more cash? Or should I leave this job and find my way as a tennis coach? Or should I stay, make more cash, and learn to coach in my freetime???

I don't know what is right!!

Am I just a spoiled brat? Is my complaint even valid?

HELP!!

Again, I'm sorry for sounding like i'm unappreciative. I thank God everyday for the opportunity I have. Unlike many, I actually have choices. But I would really like to make the right one.

Thanks in advance guys, cheers.
 

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you should be blessed that at such a young age you are able to be financially secure and not worry about monetary problems -- especially in this worldwide economic crisis.

I too, grew up with affluent parents, growing up in one of the wealthiest towns outside of new york city. All the kids in my high school drove bmws and audis growing up and I was a spoiled spoiled kid.

My parents, though they provided me with everything I wanted growing up, consistently reminded me that, "you are one of the luckiest kids. You have all you could desire but THAT does not itself bring happiness."

They were right. Happiness is satisfaction of oneself and what one is heading/doing with their life. Too many people get caught up in being 'successful' which in our world has equated to being the BEST or the RICHEST but truly the most successful, at least in my eyes, are those that are HAPPY.

You obviously have quite a quandary. Here is my take and please, as with any advice you get, take it with a grain of salt:

If I were you I would continue to work for your father for a couple of years. Save up a bunch of money and try coaching tennis as a part time hobby/job. You might start to get sick of it after a while and realize that all jobs are the same.

You have learned an invaluable lesson at a young age. Money does not equate to happiness, however money does buy stability and relaxation and the freedom to do what you want to do with your life.

cheers my friend and good luck
 

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You know, guys like Zoroaster, Buddha, and Moses grew up rich and left home because they were searching for more in life. You're learning same thing that they and a lot of people did: money only brings stability. You've got to search for happiness. Money allows you to live comfortably but you have have to use that stability to find true fulfillment. I know where you're coming from because I've been there. I when I started working, it felt great having money. But after a while it got boring because I didn't feel great about what I did. My fiancee left and I felt bad. I didn't get into drugs or alcohol, but I was at a low point. After a while I did something about it by getting into tutoring because it was one thing that made me feel good about myself. My advice is to keep the job, but live your life outside of it.
 
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The Good Book says we must honour our mother and father. I know that in Asian nations, though not for biblical reasons, a similar belief is engrained in culture. You feel endebted to your father for providing you with something you feel you otherwise would not have. But you know what would hurt your father more than leaving him? If he learned that secretly you hate what you're doing.

There comes a time when a boy becomes a man and realizes he must detach himself from the providence of his parents. For some, this comes early. For others a little later. Such as yourself. Now, you've experienced something so extremely powerful, that I would label it a religious experience even though I'm not myself religious: you've felt your destiny. That is a mighty thing to feel and not something you should ignore.

And you know something? As much as we should be grateful for the good things our parents have provided for us, I think there is no greater honouring of our parents than to go our own way and become successful or happy with that which we crave to do. We honour our parents best when our father can say: "That is my son! That Man over there, larger than life, living his dream." We honour our parents best when our mother can say: "That man with his children over there, that is my son. What does he provide well for them and guide them through life."

We honour our parents best when they can feel proud at the better place their children are making the world. For it is in each parent's heart that their offspring is happy and doing well in life. Prosperity for their children is the hope and purpose of parents allover the world. It means they have done well.

Govner, I think you realize what I'm getting to already:

Strike out on your own. Follow your dream. It is most important that a man follows his dream, for not many men know what their dream is. Follow the ribbon of your destiny. It has called you. Do not ignore it. You will lead a miserable life otherwise. Is that what your father would want for you? Would he mind if you graced your pupils with your knowledge, skill and patient tutelage in tennis? Or anything else you do with zest and passion that benefits you and others?

So far the heavy retoric. Some practical stuff:

You must do what you really want to do. How to know this? Sit down somewhere quiet. Close your eyes. Breathe, slowly and intently. Relax, let your mind calm. Forget for a moment your sense of duty, your sense of honour. Forget what you should do and forget about the possible disappointments you would bring. Forget what is expected of you and forget what you want to avoid doing.

Imagine your perfect life. What would it look like? What are you doing? How do you make your money? Who's in it? How do you spend your day?

Put it down on paper, write it down. If you have to. (I don't think you do, right?)

Apply your current situation to make it happen. Be that keeping your job and coaching tennis in your free time, be that working for your dad partially and focussing more and more on your coaching, or be that using your money to do something for others. Whatever it is, the life you want is what it's about.

If you were to feel that quitting your current job is best, the transition need not be instantaneous. I'm sure you and your father can work out some deal where you phase your participation in his business out, also allowing you a means to support yourself while you become more at home in a new life. You have to think practical too, aside all this destiny-thinking. Don't burn all your ships right away when you don't have to.

I get the notion from your post that your father can really manage things without you. Is that true? If so, then it is merely your sense of duty and honour that holds you back. I don't think your father would want that from his son.

Sit down with your dad and tell him of your agony and your plans and your apprehension of leaving him. Be honest with him. A man must have at least that. Work it out together. Despite his sadness over losing you, I have no doubt that he will be happy for you if you go do what you love and so will you.

His sadness is what you want to avoid but it is unavoidable in the life of any parent, and inevitable that their children someday leave the nest. Sadness is something we seek to avoid because it is unpleasant, but then we forget that sadness now can lead to joy later and most of all, progress. That is the duality of life. Avoiding it, and trying to maintain happiness, is a forceful thing and serves no good purpose at all. Least of all growth. Emotional growth. Personal growth. In other words, do not avoid it, just don't hammer it in either.

That is my advice. Grain of salt: I'm a Destiny-promoter kind of guy and care little for massive cash. Plus I love the dramatic. In the end, it is of course up to you to make the deciscions. Nobody can do that for you, not even us. :D

Good luck with that. Keep us updated.
 

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Guys, first of all, thank you.

Second of all, my apologies for solely calling out interceptor (although I still hope to hear from him) to help me with my issues, you guys have really displayed the knowledge that I wish to one day acquire.

Crazymedstudent: Thank you for reminding me to be thankful, I forget every now and then. It's also nice to know there are those that can relate. How do you define happy though? What finally made you happy?

Darealist: It's nice to know I got advice like this from someone named Darealist. It's also nice to know that a couple of kick ass people had this same issue as well. May I ask, what do you do know? Did you finally come out of that rut? And how? And how would you define fulfillment?

Alexanderthegreat: It seems like you know EXACTLY what i'm talking about. Especially the Asian issue. Here a few things you should consider about my issue:

A. I know that if I bring this up with my folks, they are going to tell me you're just not happy now, but you will be when we find you a nice wife and you have kids. They just don't understand what the 4 guys in this thread have spoken about.

B. I'm not sure if my father would be able to handle it without me, he's 54 and has suffered 2 heart attacks. Although he's still strong and exercises. The only reason he got into business (although I believe he has really learned to love it) was to make an easier life for his kids (one sister married and settled) and have something for me to take over. It would keep going I guess, but not at the rate we're going now. He'd have his hands full without me. He loves having me in the office. All he does is work and pray that I get married to a good woman and settle down. Which is why if I leave, my parents are going to be so lost. They would not know what to do. Its the typical Asian parents that don't enjoy life, they sit at home watch movies after hours and hope for grandkids very soon.

C. I don't know if tennis coaching is really my calling or if it's just all I have and I just want to do something on my own. I still think, would I enjoy this business if my dad wasn't there? We don't see eye to eye on anything, but we never argue or fight. Sometimes my decisions go through and sometimes his goes through. So is just freedom that I want?? I don't know.

D. I don't have a college degree. The one thing I discovered recently is that ANYTHING is impossible. Yes, we've heard it over and over. But no one actually believes it to be true. I now believe it. I now know that whatever I get into, there's enough information out there that allows one to be the best as long as one has good judgment. And I WANT and BELIEVE that I can be the best in the world at anything right now (except for sports at this age!) Maybe the reason I want to get in coaching is because tennis is my only skill? Should I go back to school? That's 4 years!

E. I will get the ultimate guilt trip. If I leave, my dad will give me the what should I work for then (even though I know he secretly enjoys it)? That, plus, I know in the back of my head that all this money he will continue to make without me will still be mine when they go (God forbid). And I really don't want to have that there as it defeats the purpose of me standing on my own two feet. But how do I turn that down from a practicality/stability point of view? I have not saved any money of my own as I have refused any kind of salary from my father. Our family is close so noone has their own money, whatever is his is mine and vice versa.

All in all. Everything has come easy for me. Stability/money/lifestyle/a ready business/travelling/food, it's all been just there. I barely survived hs and dropped out of college (which I know was stupid now).

The only thing I've ever had to work really hard for was tennis the past 2 years, and boy did it feel awesome when I kept getting better and better. I dedicated my life to it and I loved the feeling of struggling for something.

Again, thanks guys, I really really really appreciate your replies!
 

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Thanks. I just like to think some the things I've gone through can be a lesson somehow. As far as what I know, I can't say. Everything seemed perfect, but it fell away. The dream of a wife, kids, and a house died and it hurt. I felt like I could have tattooed a bullseye on the middle of my my forehead and one over my heart it hurt so bad. Thing is no matter how depressed I got, I just couldn't stop fighting. So I went with my instinct and just fought to survive everyday. Sometimes I was reminded of how alone I was and it depressed me. But then I got angry at the situation instead of just beating myself up and made it a point to enjoy myself. Some of the stuff I did to make myself happywasn't the best thing to do, so I began looking at something that was enjoyable as well as morally right: I tutored people that were having trouble in college like I was. I still work my job to pay bills but if someone aked me what kind of mork I do, I'll tell them I do this job to make money, but I tutor for a living.
After going through it all, I made a couple of observations. One is that the path to true manhood is filled with troubles because you won't learn anything till you go through. Condors peck their chicks to toughen them up and eagles make their nests thornier so that the young ones will leave, so how is it differentfor humans? The world has a demand for someone who will make his own way and hopefully lead others.
Another observation is that money doesn't mean anything. I made enough for myself to pay bills and have fun from time to time, but it will not bring fulfillment. Money is a means to an end and that's all. Look at drug cartels. People give their money to make life seem easier. The dealer becomes rich, buys anything he wants, and is content. The supplier makes the dealer rich and the normal person an addict: he gets power. So nothing against staying on your job, but make sure you know what you're really going after.
To sum it all up, you actually define fulfillment. In whatever you do in life, you should be able to feel that if everything were to end at a moment you should feel content; you feel like you've done enough to define who you are. As of now, I'm beginning to feel it. Things may not go right down the road, but it's not of my concern at this moment. That's fulfillment. Be warned: life will come at you to take it away such as how you hurt your back, but be ready to be able to spring back like you already did. You've shown you've got more in you than you think, so go with it.
One last thing thing: never feel like you should just get over or through something. It implies you're a victim of circumstances and the best you can get is to take your lashing or run away. Fight. Take the whip, stare the guy down, demand something, and walk away after you've got something. In other words, don't just endure: overcome and be better.
 

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Hmm, I think you should think about making tennis as a hobby, and not try to make a career out of it.

I understand the whole Asian parents dynamics too since I'm also Asian (Indian actually). I think your father worked very hard to provide for you and to ensure that you have a great future ahead of you. For this, you should always be thankful.

But I'm pretty sure that he isn't going to stop you from turning the business into what you want it to become. You said you don't like the work you do right now. Maybe you should examine your work environment and think about what aspects of work are boring you. Maybe you need to be challenged or maybe you need to find and work on some projects that serve some purpose.

You hear on these forums all the time that a Man with a purpose in life is never depressed or in a rut. But lot of guys don't understand what that purpose should be. For you, you could develop a business oriented purpose. I.E. I want to expand and build my business in these key markets or I want to start something business related with tennis. Anything so long as you have a long-term goal(s) in mind that will ultimately give you the peace of mind every day.

Like I said before, think about playing/coaching tennis as a hobby, something you do on the weekends or 2 days out of the week. It would be pretty foolish to leave behind what you have been fortunate enough to receive for pursuing a recreational activity.

Good luck.
 

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I've had a similar life.

Grew up middle class (dad went to work, mom stayed home...I know, rare in this day and age). Never really worried about money, we never missed a meal or anything.

Life gets almost too comfortable, and you grow depressed, bored, dark. I think many people that have gotten into self improvment, have gotten into it out of boredom, or wanting more, besides automatic money, automatic rent/house payment made every month, automatic dinner next weekend.

I was *extremely* bored in the 90's...this was pre internet, pre sosuave, self improvement. Picture a shy, awkward teen in the 90's...and I wasnt going to REM concerts or going to the beach every summer to look at girls. Was into the baseball card/sports collectible world for awhile (that was the big thing in the early 90's). Doesnt matter much how big your collection is, of anything you collect....if no one comes over to visit! Or, if you're embarrassed about bringing someone over to your bedroom.

I dont know if its so much, "Happiness" that I'm seeking...more, just contentment. Being able to bring someone over to your house/your room any day of the week or weekend. Thats pretty good. You're really not that happy or content if you're hiding out from the world all the time, or you never want anyone to see you.

We tend to think that we're all unique...but I think we all fall into similar lines.

I liked getting into different things...tried stocks/trading in the late 90's. Still into it to some degree. Did other things (Toastmasters, public speaking). Read tons of books on all subjects.

Keep finding things that are interesting to you.

(I use to be into Tony Robbins), and a few years ago I got a letter from him about a market "genius" he was recommending, Jay Abraham. I had never heard of him. But his stuff was eye opening, paradigm changing.

I'm not even into professional marketing or sales, but I thought, it'd be sad if I went through life and wasnt exposed to his ideas. He's this guru/teach that use to do really big marketing bootcamps/seminars for $5,000 a person in the 90's. That to me was amazing, considering most people never make anything.

Follow things that interest you. Some subjects I looked at...negotiation, sales, persuasion (like cialdini, kevin hogan, and some of tony robbins). Management never interested me. But theres alot of interesting stuff out there, there's so much most people aren't aware of.

I think the key, regardless of money/car/wife/kids...

-Have to get out of the house everyday.

-Theres always something new to do or see.

-People put too much pressure on themselves trying to get to some end point happiness...and life is passing them by as they speak. Get out to an arcade, anything.

-Life goes by too fast to be depressed all the time.
 

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I believe that a sound compromise is the best path right now.

I believe that it is a good idea to continue working in your current business and pursue your teaching certification in your free time.
However, I think it would be a good idea to take an extra day off of your work week to dedicate to your tennis.
If you own this business then you run the business, not vice versa.
This means you have the opportunity to set your own hours.

Take advantage of this opportunity you have, and be thankful you have the means to pursue your dreams. Most aren't that lucky.

If this means earning a little less money, but gaining your dream, then this is still a plus, and you really aren't losing anything.
Save your money, work towards your certification, but stay involved in the business.
Once you've achieved your certification, if you have sufficient funds, you can start your own non profit or for profit tennis coaching organization. The choice is yours.
Don't dream small anymore, I certainly believe you have the opportunity to do what you really want.

You will also have to ease your parents into understanding that you are going into this full steam ahead even without their blessings.
It may never end, they may never be convinced, this is something you have to be prepared for. They may still be trying to talk you out of it.
But this is your dream, and this is your life, and this is what you want out of your life.
Your life is not their life.
And you have to tell them often that your dream is a result of the love and honor you have for them.That just because you follow your dream it does not mean their life was in vain, or they will be forgotten. Quite the contrary.
I know it will be difficult having these talks, they are very very deep, very intimate, and quite emotional. And they reveal a stark reality.
But you must understand as grown men, our dream MUST take precedence over any other person's dream for us, or expectations...unfortunately that includes the closest to us, the ones we love.Yes, they will be disappointed, but you must have more strength and courage than their naysaying and discouragement.
You also have the understanding that money can be given to you, and money can be taken away, that's why you're going to save your money.
Not spend it like a fool. And you will honor your family by not doing stupid, irresponsible things. These are the kinds of talks we as grown men, who HAVE to follow OUR dreams must have with those closest.

Ultimately, fail or succeed, your dream must be followed.
You will do yourself a disservice by not following it and manifesting it.
You don't really have that luxury in the grand scheme of things.

Without a Mission in your Life, you WILL fail at life ultimately, Gov.

That IS the cold, hard reality.
You will live with regret.
And you will cry tears of sadness.
You may even find yourself penniless...
how?
Because you're vibrating at a frequency that says "I Hate my job! I dont want this anymore!"
and guess what?

Your wish will be granted.

And you may end up with neither your Dream or your successful Business. And without a college Degree, you don't have the widest spectrum of job/career opportunities.
That is the real world.
Do the prudent thing. Follow your dream despite the possibility of your parent's disapproval and unacceptance.
The other reality is that they will leave this earth more than likely before you....
...and then what?
Youve given up your dream life for them, and they're gone. Not here to enjoy it anyway.
And you will NOT attract the best possible compatible mate if you are so incredibly disgusted and miserable. It just doesn't happen.
So you see, the only REAL choice you really ever had is to DO WHAT YOU WANT.
THAT is what brings YOU joy.
Therefore, you MUST follow that.
Otherwise, according to WHO YOU ARE...your Life will have been a waste.
THAT is the truth, ultimately.
And yes, we believe deep down in our hearts that our family and GFs are SUPPOSED to support us in EVERYTHING we truly NEED and WANT, but it doesn't always pan out that way.
And while it can be discouraging, your courage and desire MUST ALWAYS be Stronger than anyone's desire.
With your faith, belief and strength and courage ANYTHING is possible.
And I know it is a hard road to follow your dreams. Believe me.
Going into the military (I had thought about that a long while) or following the drones in the 'real' world Matrix is MUCH EASIER.
Having other people tell us what to do is easier, but doesn't lead to FULFILLMENT. Not always. Not that often...not if your soul calls for something deeper.
I now realize that the harder road is the one that we need to follow.
That through that adversity we build the armor and strength and skills we need to get to our destination and fulfill our Mission. Or die trying...
To me, there is no other choice. I've made that commitment.
I've made that choice. Whether I fail or achieve it. I will live with the consequences.


Take some time to think about this.
Let me know what you think.

Good luck.


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I believe Interceptor nailed it with the best path for you right now is one that is balanced. One that involves you to continue your business and also begin a career path towards becoming a tennis coach.

First off, I absolutely commend you for having such high goals and expectations with tennis. Not only are they challenging but they are goals which you are truly PASSIONATE about. That is key because when you live your life with passion that will open the gate to living a self-fulfilling and rewarding life.

As a strategy to cope for you continuing to work in your business, I believe you should shift some of the things you focus on when it comes to the business. Right now you focus on how you hate working, hate your job, hate coming into work everyday, etc. You probably feel even more pressure and anxiety because you feel stuck in your job since you don't want to leave the business and end up hurting your dad.

You should instead try to focus on how this is an opportunity of a LIFETIME to be able to make TONS of money within such a short period of time (few years). Majority of people in this world will spend their lifetime only to make enough money to live and survive. Realize how lucky you are in this situation and try to really feel grateful. After time starts passing, you can start working less and less in your business and working more and more as a tennis coach or pursue other passions. You can also hire employees/managers to do the work for you or you can sell your business and cash out to free up all your time.
You should also focus on your love and filial duty to your dad. Don't see this business as an actual job but see it as you doing something special for your dad. Remind yourself that you are working in this business and helping out your dad because you love him and you are his son. You are fulfilling your duty as a son to his father by helping him in the business and know that this is a very good deed. You should feel proud of this.
Keep these thoughts in your mind everyday, remind yourself if you have to, and try to minimize the negative thoughts about your job and your attitude and feelings towards work should begin to change for the better. Again, these are just some things you should focus on to help you rationalize on why you would continue to work in your business for a few more years until the money starts to really flow.
 

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Interceptor, It's because of you I believe in achieving the impossible. So thanks.

I took volunary time off from tennis/training for the first time in a while 3 weeks ago, so that I could take some time to think about everything and post here at the same time. The first week was hell. I went to work everyday, partied on friday and saturday, and even met a few interesting women. It was awful.

The 2nd week, I went to the gym 3 times, no tennis, worked, caught up on some books, and caught up with a few friends, and partied one night. I did this again for another week, and I must say, it was refreshing.

I concluded just one thing, It wasn't the tennis itself that made me so happy, it was the fact that I was doing something of purpose. That I was doing something for myself (that I enjoyed) whilst fully dedicated to it.

Thus, the only reason I possibly felt the need to get into coaching was that since I have no degree and no other expertise but tennis, this was it.

And now that I've never believed in myself as I do now, I've made my decision this way:

A. I'm in the process of enrolling at the University of Phoenix, get my bachelors degree online while I continue to work with my father.

B. I'm going to start a foundation, and help 16/17 year old boys from the lower class (I live in the 3rd world where if you're not rich, you're very, very poor) prepare for college and prepare for life (sort of based on what I've learned here on how one must live). You'd really understand how hard it is for them to get out of their situation right now once you've lived in a country such as mine. Already contacted former professors (from the school I dropped out from), friends, people from high places, to help me make this happen. My father is willing to help 100% as well.

C. I believe I've made peace with the sport of tennis, I will continue to play recreationally and go back to playing other sports now that I can. I ****ing miss basketball.

What do you guys think? Good decision?

Thank you for showing me the light sosuave and more so, interceptor. Cheers.

And Rohnin: Thank you for your kind words, I will read what you said everyday before I go to the office and complain to myself like a little *****.

Cheers.
 

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Interceptor said:
I believe that a sound compromise is the best path right now.

Agreed. You said you started a new brand, but a new brand of what?

Is there any way for your Dad's business to cater to the tennis world?
 

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the_govner said:
What do you guys think? Good decision?
What is more important is do you think that it is a good decision?

If so, then go for it and make it happen.
 

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The Bat said:
What is more important is do you think that it is a good decision?

If so, then go for it and make it happen.

I very much think it is, but then I also dropped out of college, so clearly I need help making tough decisions :)
 

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Bible_Belt said:
Agreed. You said you started a new brand, but a new brand of what?

Is there any way for your Dad's business to cater to the tennis world?

We cater to infants, everything an infant needs, brands are segmented by accessories/clothing/furniture.

Procreation is big.
 

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Guoy Darko said:
How is this thread a tip? :confused:

Well all the life enhancement threads are in this segment of the forum, so I figured a question about life decisions belonged here as well.

Cheers.
 
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